Welcome to The Smart Sex Podcast – Real talk about Sex, Relationships and HOT Topics. Hi! I'm your host Leslie Gustafson, licensed Sex Therapist , Marriage & Relationship Coach & Master Psychotherapist of 30 years ( I say that humbly and for credibility so you know you are in knowledgeable, experienced hands.) I have had the privilege of being FOX TV’s Sex & Relationship Expert for 5 1/2 years as well as being a guest on Access Hollywood, and all the major networks and many radio channels. It was time to start my own show and dig in more deeply and expressively.
In the coming episodes, you can expect we will be talking A LOT about Sex – how to have amazing sex, current #sexgeek facts, hot off the press research, sex enhancing tips, sex ed, and how to expand your own eroticism and intimacy.
You will hear from experts and I will be your personal expert fielding your questions in my “askthetherapist” segments. If you’ve been following me elsewhere on social media platforms you know this is something I’ve been doing for the last 6 years. It will happen here now.
You will also be hearing from couples in love. Couples willing to tell their stories and share the intimate details of their lives and include you in how they navigate their love. You will be able to listen in on conversations between women (some of my closet, most authentic girlfriends) sharing their real lives, histories, thoughts and humor regarding sex, wife-ing, mom-ing, their relationships, what they want and their big opinions about current HOT topics
And, you will hear from men - Real Men willing to talk real about what it means to be a man in the current age and how life, sex and relationships work for them and what they want and hope for. My therapist husband will show up here too at times so I can pick his big, sexy brain and you can benefit from that.
And we will have adventures where I learn about new things, try them out and let you in on the experiences. Yes. I kept that vague on purpose.
And I hope you will tune in. I hope to entertain you! If these episodes aren’t stimulating, fun, interesting and at times lol humorous, then I’ve missed the point! So whether you listen in from the privacy of your own cars or rooms with your earbuds in or whether you gather as couples, or with friends and you listen and talk among each other. Let’s expand the conversation about SEX, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS - be better, sexier and smarter for it & have a blast doing it! Pun intended.
The Reality of Sex Trafficking - A Porn Star's Story_Episode 25
There is an epidemic in our world and nation today that is of great concern to all of us. While the conversation can be hard and uncomfortable at times, there is much that needs to be known and understood about sex trafficking which is currently happening at astounding rates. I sat down with Madyson Marquette, who was trafficked for almost a decade as a porn star. Madyson has bravely spoken out about her time in the porn industry and how it altered her life and how she gained her voice and took her freedom back.
Madyson was beaten, tortured, and held prisoner by people who claimed to own her. She has since broken free from that captive life and continues to fight and use her voice to help set others free from the injustice of sex trafficking. She strongly believes in the power to be heard and that if we stand together in this fight, if we rise up against it and show love, then we can change the world.
I asked Madyson about the emotions of going through a life abuse from childhood and her process of breaking free. She is incredibly vulnerable and brave with her answers. It brought me to tears.
I must warn you that this episode is not safe for children and it may be triggering for some, as there is discussion about trafficking, rape, and sexual abuse.
If you fear someone you know may be a victim of sex trafficking, or if you need help, please call 1-888-373-7888. You can also text the word “help” to 233733.
The National Human Trafficking Hotline is a national, toll-free hotline available to answer calls from anywhere in the country, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, every day of the year. The Hotline is not a law enforcement or immigration authority and is operated by a nongovernmental organization funded by the Federal government.
Anniversary Special: The BEST of the Podcast _ Episode 24
Happy, happy birthday, to The Smart Sex Podcast! Despite the complexities and sometimes the taboo of sex, and even in the midst of a pandemic, it has been a full, rich year of discussing intimacy and hot topics with you. I am so thrilled that you have been on this journey with me, and that you are so eager to learn more about sex, sexuality, and relationships.
We’ve had some extraordinary moments on the show, and I want to highlight some that you may have missed, or that just need to be repeated. We have taken a few moments from the most popular episodes and gathered them all together here, on this, the anniversary show. We’re going to cover everything from, "How long does it take for a woman to really get in the mood and have an orgasm?” to, "What is foreplay outside of the bedroom?” I even answer the question, “Does size really matter?” Spoiler alert: my answer has changed over the years!
So sit back (or buckle up!) and enjoy some of the best moments of The Smart Sex Podcast so far!
Getting Real About Women and Sex_Episode 23
On today’s episode, you’ll be hearing me interviewed by my good friend, Kristen Wheeler, producer of this show.
The podcast today is for women and the guys who love them and could easily serve as a nice prompt for a mother-daughter or parent-daughter conversation about sex. We get real about sex and our sexuality as women, and WHY sex is so important for women, even when it doesn’t always feel like it. I talk about the benefits of sex, and some practical tips about how sex can actually be fun, enjoyable, and not a chore or something to check off a list.
Men can (and should) pay attention, too. This episode is both a primer for a conversation about female sexuality and a sex-positive encouragement.
Your listening, subscribing, and telling your friends and your partner keep this show going!
Sex When the Kids Are Home?_Episode 22
“The Girlfriends” and I talk about the impact of having kids at home 24/7 has had on their sex lives.
They talk about getting creative in the bedroom when the kids are always, ALWAYS home.
How can it be done? Is walking in on your parents having sex a traumatic experience or a rite of passage?
We answer these questions and more, as we talk about how gaming headsets, iPads, suckers, and “prayer” all have to do with having sex.
Navigating Intimacy in Quarantine _Episode 21
According to an NBC news poll, 24% of couples say that the extra time at home has positively affected their sex life, and a whopping 47% said it has negatively affected their sex life. According to eHarmony, 14% of couples have realized that their relationship is over, while 4% of people uncovered a virtual affair, and 3% have uncovered an affair in real life.
Where do you and your significant other stand when it comes to these statistics?
“The Girlfriends,” Jamie, Lori, Kristen and Laurel, talk with me about how the pandemic has positively and negatively affected intimacy with their spouses, their relationship roles, the mystery of romance and sexual attraction during COVID-19, and even how their Enneagram numbers have impacted how they respond during crisis. They all answer this question: Has the quarantine given you more time to focus on your relationship, or has it highlighted your issues?
Tune in to find out the answers from The Girlfriends!
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Empowering Our Teens - Relationships, Sex & Boundaries. _ Episode 20
Dr. Lea Lis, double board certified Adult and Child Psychiatrist and Author of the book, "No Shame - Real Talk with Your Kids About Sex, Self Confidence and Healthy Relationships" * joins Leslie to talk about all things teens, sexuality, relationship development, parenting and how to help teens navigate their boundaries confidently.
Dr. Lis is a true expert in child psychology and sexuality and is changing the way we talk to our kids about sex which lends itself beautifully to this deep and open dialogue about what healthy teen
and parent relationships need to look and sound like.
If you are a parent of a child, this Episode 20 is not to be missed. You will be challenged, educated and encouraged. Perhaps more importantly, your eyes will be opened around the critical need for understanding your own journey through sex and relationships and how to help empower yourself and your children and teens through theirs.
*Dr. Lea Lis is the Shameless Psychiatrist.
Dr. Lis is a medical doctor who is a double board certified Adult and Child Psychiatrist. She has been working with families since the beginning of her psychiatric career.
She is uniquely positioned to help parents and children face many mental health challenges and live healthy lives. During her training and residency at St. Vincent’s Hospital in New York and New York University, and her private psychiatric practice (Mindful Kid), she has developed expertise in working with modern families of all types.
Psychiatry and medicine is Dr. Lis’ calling since age 15 when she started working at Hillside Psychiatric Hospital. She has a thriving clinical practice where she sees adults and children with all types of mental health issues in Southampton, New York. She has a well received column on Psychology Today and Thrive Global, and has appeared as an expert on parenting in programming by ABC, CBS and NBC. She has been featured in numerous media outlets such as The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, and in niche publications like Good Housekeeping, Purist Magazine and Psychiatric News. She has been interviewed as an expert on multiple podcasts.
Dr. Lea is active in the American Psychiatric Association, having served as a member of their National Ethics Committee and on the Board of Trustees. She served as Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at New York University Medical Center, and has presented numerous symposia and workshops at the annual APA meetings and at the meetings of the Institute of Psychiatric Services. Her Academic publications have appeared in the Journal of Psychiatric Practice and the Journal of Academic Psychiatry.
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Leslie Gustafson, Sex & Relationship Therapist, Coach & Host can be found on all major social media platforms @LeslieGustafson1 of Leslie Gustafson.
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Leslie is fun and knowledgeable! I’ve been following her for a long time. Her tips are practical and has improved my life a lot! As a Mom as a wife and a friend and just me. She has the touch, she has the magic to reach in and change people’s life, she can talk to you in such away that you feel safe and understood. You will do yourself a favor by listening to Leslie, and lucky to catch a few of the sparkles of wisdom he is spreading.
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Highly recommend not only subscribing to this podcast but seeking out Leslie on all channels and platforms, you won’t be sorry you did!
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Really I mean that in a good way! Leslie and her crew make it feel like you’ve been invited in to a private conversation between friends. So eye opening and informative without being clinical or preachy. I dig the warm, friendly style and Leslie’s obvious passion for the subject matter. I really enjoy listening. :-)