52 min

The Successful Partnership Recipe with Annie Lalla: Navigating Your Desire for Opposing Forces – Connection and Freedom The Illuminate podcast with Rebecca Boatman

    • Relationships

Topics illuminated: 

Love, Communication, Intimacy, Healthy relationships, Relationship advice, Relationship dynamics, Relationship building, Conflict resolution, Emotional intimacy, Compatibility

Inside today’s episode, Annie Lalla & Rebecca Boatman share..


How successful relationships involve a balance between selfing (autonomy) and othering (connection).


Autonomy emphasizes separateness and individuality, while connection focuses on integration and "we."


How relationships require a balance between freedom and connection.


How gender doesn't dictate these roles; they can be reversed in a partnership.


Understanding and respecting each other's values and priorities is crucial in a relationship.


Collaboration and curiosity about each other's intentions are essential for a successful partnership.


How attachment styles (anxious, avoidant & secure) play a role in relationships.


How to handle complaints and criticism in a relationship with transparent communication.


Vulnerability and self-regulation are valuable skills in addressing relationship issues.


Creating a loving and supportive environment benefits not only the couple but also our future generations.


The dynamics of a relationship and how different individuals manage connection, separation, and individuality.


When someone complains or criticizes, it's important to communicate how it affects you without blaming or shaming them.



Don't miss out on this powerful episode, full of very tangible steps on how to create a relationship that lives through challenges.

About Annie:

Annie Lalla, with an Honors Science Degree in Biology & Philosophy (minor in Buddhism), her studies include evolutionary psychology, integral theory, spiral dynamics, intergenerational family systems and therapeutic sexuality. With professional certifications in Coaching, NLP and Clinical Hypnosis, my tools extend to metaphoric narrative, role-play and interacting with clients as their highest selves.



In her coaching, she helps individuals attract, create and foster extraordinary connections that maximize freedom and minimize shame.



She work with two types of people:

  • Singles who are done with dating & ready to find their partner

  • Couples wanting to resolve conflicts that erode their connection



Continued support:



Join our online Meet The Frequency membership and use code “ILLUMINATE” for $20 off

Click here to get instant access



Get more dating, relationship & communication inspo from Rebecca’s IG!

Click here



Annie’s Website: www.annielalla.com

Annie’s IG: @lallabird

Topics illuminated: 

Love, Communication, Intimacy, Healthy relationships, Relationship advice, Relationship dynamics, Relationship building, Conflict resolution, Emotional intimacy, Compatibility

Inside today’s episode, Annie Lalla & Rebecca Boatman share..


How successful relationships involve a balance between selfing (autonomy) and othering (connection).


Autonomy emphasizes separateness and individuality, while connection focuses on integration and "we."


How relationships require a balance between freedom and connection.


How gender doesn't dictate these roles; they can be reversed in a partnership.


Understanding and respecting each other's values and priorities is crucial in a relationship.


Collaboration and curiosity about each other's intentions are essential for a successful partnership.


How attachment styles (anxious, avoidant & secure) play a role in relationships.


How to handle complaints and criticism in a relationship with transparent communication.


Vulnerability and self-regulation are valuable skills in addressing relationship issues.


Creating a loving and supportive environment benefits not only the couple but also our future generations.


The dynamics of a relationship and how different individuals manage connection, separation, and individuality.


When someone complains or criticizes, it's important to communicate how it affects you without blaming or shaming them.



Don't miss out on this powerful episode, full of very tangible steps on how to create a relationship that lives through challenges.

About Annie:

Annie Lalla, with an Honors Science Degree in Biology & Philosophy (minor in Buddhism), her studies include evolutionary psychology, integral theory, spiral dynamics, intergenerational family systems and therapeutic sexuality. With professional certifications in Coaching, NLP and Clinical Hypnosis, my tools extend to metaphoric narrative, role-play and interacting with clients as their highest selves.



In her coaching, she helps individuals attract, create and foster extraordinary connections that maximize freedom and minimize shame.



She work with two types of people:

  • Singles who are done with dating & ready to find their partner

  • Couples wanting to resolve conflicts that erode their connection



Continued support:



Join our online Meet The Frequency membership and use code “ILLUMINATE” for $20 off

Click here to get instant access



Get more dating, relationship & communication inspo from Rebecca’s IG!

Click here



Annie’s Website: www.annielalla.com

Annie’s IG: @lallabird

52 min