The Super Fantastic Leadership Show

Daphne R Scott
The Super Fantastic Leadership Show

A podcast devoted to supporting your leadership at the highest levels of effectiveness with the greatest levels of fun.

  1. 05/15/2020

    Ep 294 How NOT to Cultivate Resilience

    This week we are talking about resilience and what to avoid doing if you want to be even more resilient. That’s right, even more resilient. Human beings by in large are given much resilience but, some of the things we may be choosing to do can erode this naturally occurring strength to “bounce back” in ways that we may not recognize. First of all, watch out for complaining, blaming and criticizing others and also yourself! This is numero uno for you for sure. While it may feel slights enlivening due to the hits of adrenaline that we get when we are feeling righteous about what others should or shouldn’t be doing, be aware that this ultimately doesn’t leave us feeling empowered. Mostly this doesn’t work to build our resilience because this habit isn’t actionable. We are complaining but, we aren’t owning our own agency and power to change anything. Secondly, feeling into a future based on horrible outcomes also doesn’t build our resilience. Again, we return to being able to take action on that which we can do right now is best. Those things that are within our locus of control are incredibly helpful for us to use our strengths and best virtues as well as, most likely, to help others. When times feel uncertain and we feel out of control and unable to impact our environment, finding those places where we can take mindful action is incredibly resilient building. Thirdly, not giving attention to your naturally occurring strengths and the best virtues you are bringing to every day, also isn’t helpful. If we can see our strengths and how we are using them day-to-day this can be very helpful. What parts of your better nature has really shown up during this time? And during any time in which you’ve been challenged? We’re including some great links for you too in this week’s show: If you want to assess your own mental toughness, check out this article and the questions here. And if you’d like a good laugh, you can watch my friend Jessica and her quarantine roommate with their 5 Second Phone Calls. Join us on the Super Fantastic Leadership Show app too. We would love to see you there. You can get it right on itunes/google play if you don’t have it already. There you will find all sorts of great bonus content. This week we are simply including a picture of McWilmes sheltered at home.

    20 min
  2. 04/24/2020

    Ep 291 Anxious, Depressed, Over-Whelmed and Isolated; What You Can Do

    Today we are going to be offering a lot of tips with how to work with the experiences of anxiety, depression, overwhelm and isolation. First, we want to recognize the experience we are experiencing. So often we do attempt to rush to solutions to “get rid” of our experience or to force it to change in some way. We don’t trust the process as it is happening. We’ve also been told a lot of stories about our experiences too. The stories we’ve all been told begin with some form of “should” or “shouldn’t”. We shouldn’t be sad, we should be happy and grateful, for example. In times of uncertainty we can lose our very real need for agency. Agency is the experience we have when we feel as though we can influence or change a situation in a particular way. This gives us a sense of control, safety and security. When we feel uncertain it can be difficult for us to find the ways we are still in our power and control. This is often what begins to bring up experiences of feeling fearful, overwhelmed, and all of the variations of emotional experiences. Here are some tips that we give for these different experiences. Anxiety: feels like reaching into the future: the 3 tips-meditation practice, do one thing at a time, do some 4 x 4 breathing. Depression: feels like being in cement shoes and dull: 3 tips-gratitude practices, finding laughter (one of my favorite SNL sketches), physical activity Overwhelm: feels like not knowing where to begin: the 3 tips-follow the steps in this 10′ to presence video, watch out for all or nothing thinking, take an action. Isolated: feels like being lonely and disconnected (from ourselves): the 3 tips-ask what do I need? what might others need too, ask for what you need, take action. Here is a link to the RAIN meditation that we spoke about in the show too.

    40 min
  3. 04/13/2020

    Ep 289 Never Give Up or Give In to Fear

    Today’s show was inspired by a blog post from Mr. Money Mustache. Actually, it was inspired by a response to a post on the blog of Mr. Money Mustache by the main Mustachian himself, Pete Adeney. Now, I’ve read his blog for several years and I wish I could remember how I came upon him. I’m sure it was when I was really trying to make sense of how money mattered in my life, or rather “how much”. Take that in two ways, how much did I make it matter and how much really mattered. Mr. Money Mustache writes about that very thing. How did we want to live our lives and how did we want money and work to show up in our lives. How much of our own life energy did we want to give to the pursuit of getting more and having more? Well, leave it to him to write one of the best blog posts I’ve read so far about our current situation with CV-19, the economy and how what we’ve been doing with sheltering in place actually stands as one of the most compassionate and surprising things a seemingly capitalist society could be doing. He pointedly points out “who would have imagined.” The blog post was inspiring. What was most attention grabbing to me though was the many, many, many responses on the blog post. Of course there were the many statistical types who wanted to point to their own level of “economic savvy”. But one post in particular and Mr. Money Mustache’s response was the best part. His response to a person who did feel very much scared and uncertain was one of the best responses anyone could ask for. We hope you safe at home and that you and your loved ones are more inspired than ever!

    26 min
4.9
out of 5
24 Ratings

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