The Thais Gibson Podcast

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Welcome to The Thais Gibson Podcast, where transformation happens fast and lasts a lifetime. Tune in for expert insights on breaking free from repetitive patterns, practical steps for reprogramming your subconscious mind, and empowering conversations that will inspire you to evolve into your best self across all aspects of life!

2D AGO

How to Stop Feeling Insecure in Relationships (Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style)

🧠 Heal your attachment style with Thais Gibson’s 6 Pillars to a Secure Relationship course—FREE 7-day trial (yours to keep, for life!) 👉 https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-14-25&el=podcast Fearful avoidants often feel confident at the start of a relationship—until deeper commitments trigger the old fear of betrayal, mistrust, or not being “good enough.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not broken—you're responding to past emotional injuries that can be healed. In this compassionate episode, Thais Gibson dives deep into the core insecurities of the fearful avoidant attachment style and shares practical steps to help you build inner safety, trust others, and receive love without perfectionism. Learn how to move beyond the rollercoaster and into lasting emotional security. 🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why fearful avoidants often feel most secure in the dating stage—and what changes later How trust wounds develop and get triggered in relationships What a “fragmented internal trust baseline” is and how to reprogram it Why hiding your flaws keeps you from building real trust How to release perfectionism and reclaim your worth—even on your worst days 👩‍🏫 Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. 🔗 Learn more about Thais 🧰 Helpful Resources 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 📲 Connect With Us on Social 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipInsecurity #SelfWorth #HealingJourney #EmotionalHealing #ThaisGibson #TrustIssues #PDSPodcast #PersonalGrowth ✨ Found this episode helpful? Please subscribe, rate, or share it with someone on their healing journey. Your support makes a difference! ✨

9 min
2D AGO

Introducing Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan

Check out Heather Monahan's Creating Confidence Podcast. Each week, Heather shares techniques and strategies to create your confidence, pursue your dreams and leapfrog the villains you’ll meet along the way. Take your life to the next level and tune into Creating Confidence!

1 min
3D AGO

The Dismissive Avoidant Patterns Around Sex That Change EVERYTHING

Build Amazing Connections With Our 7 Day All-access Course Pass and Keep Our "Key Pillars to Secure Attachment" Course Fully Free for Life (Valued at $250!). Check It Out and Claim This Free Gift Before They Run Out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-19-25&el=podcast Why do dismissive avoidant partners sometimes pull away after intimacy—or seem disconnected during it? If you've ever felt confused, hurt, or triggered in these moments, you're not alone. This episode is here to bring you clarity, compassion, and a path forward. In this powerful and revealing conversation, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike delve into the hidden emotional patterns behind the dismissive avoidant attachment style and sex. Drawing from neuroscience, real client stories, and lived experience, they unpack how avoidant behaviors form—and what it takes to build meaningful intimacy, trust, and long-term desire. You’ll learn: ✅ Why DAs often crave physical intimacy early on—only to pull away later ✅ The four pillars of connection and how sex fits into healthy relationships ✅ The difference between lust and love—and why both matter ✅ How neurochemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin shape bonding for men and women ✅ What to do if you've “had sex too early” and want to shift your dynamic ✅ How to build intimacy through intellectual and emotional connection ✅ The real reason many DAs avoid eye contact during sex ✅ How to communicate sexual needs without triggering shutdowns Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #AttachmentTheory #DismissiveAvoidant #EmotionalHealing #ThaisGibson #SexAndIntimacy #RelationshipPatterns #PersonalDevelopment #FearOfCloseness #AnxiousAttachment #EmotionalIntelligence If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, rate, and share it with someone healing their relationship patterns. Your support helps us reach more people on the path to secure love. 💕

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6D AGO

How to Stop Feeling Insecure in Romantic Relationships (Dismissive Avoidant Attachment)

🧠 Heal your attachment style with Thais Gibson’s signature course: The 6 Pillars to a Secure Relationship—FREE 7-day trial 👉 https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-14-25&el=podcast Dismissive avoidants are often seen as confident or aloof in relationships—but underneath that exterior, many silently struggle with deep feelings of insecurity. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or emotionally shut down in love, this episode is for you. Join Thais Gibson as she unpacks the hidden insecurities of the dismissive avoidant attachment style and shares empowering tools to break free from shame, self-doubt, and emotional repression. Learn how to build self-acceptance, communicate your needs, and reconnect authentically—without losing your independence. 🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why dismissive avoidants often feel "not good at relationships" How unmet expectations trigger shame and emotional withdrawal The internal dialogue that fuels insecurity—and how to rewire it The link between emotional modeling and relationship confidence How to speak up about your needs (without feeling weak or clingy) 👩‍🏫 Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. 🧰 Helpful Resources 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 📲 Connect With Us on Social 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #InsecureAttachment #EmotionalHealing #ThaisGibson #RelationshipAnxiety #SelfSoothing #Boundaries #PDSPodcast #PersonalDevelopment ✨ If this episode helped you understand your inner world more clearly, please subscribe, rate, or share the podcast with someone navigating avoidant tendencies. Your support helps others heal too! ✨

8 min
JUN 13

All Insecure Attachment Styles: 8 Red Flags to Watch Out for When Dating

🚩 Ready to date with confidence and clarity? Start the 6 Pillars to a Secure Relationship course FREE for 7 days! 👉 https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-14-25&el=podcast Ever found yourself deep in a relationship, only to realize it was never aligned with what you truly needed? Dating with insecure attachment can make it easy to miss the warning signs—and even easier to justify them. In this powerful episode, Thais Gibson walks you through 8 essential red flags to look for in the early stages of dating. Whether you're anxiously attached, fearful avoidant, or somewhere in between, these insights will help you break out of painful patterns and make empowered choices in love. 🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why “respect” is a foundational non-negotiable—and how to spot subtle disrespect early The root reason couples build resentment (and how to avoid it) How to tell the difference between privacy and secrecy What lack of individuation looks like and why it threatens long-term compatibility Why unhealed baggage from past relationships often leads to future pain The psychological signs of controlling behavior that may be easy to overlook 👩‍🏫 Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. 🧰 Helpful Resources 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 📲 Connect With Us on Social 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #DatingRedFlags #InsecureAttachment #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipHealth #Boundaries #ThaisGibson #DatingWisely #EmotionalAwareness #PDSPodcast #PersonalGrowth ✨ Love this episode? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world. Your support helps others heal too! ✨

15 min
JUN 9

How to Deal with Unrequited Love (and What It Reveals About You)

💔 Heal your attachment style with Thais Gibson’s 6 Pillars to a Secure Relationship—FREE 7-day trial (enough time to complete the course!) 👉 https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-09-25&el=podcast Do you find yourself longing for someone who doesn’t feel the same way—or even someone you’ve never spoken to? The pain of unrequited love can feel all-consuming, but it holds a powerful message from your subconscious. In this heartfelt episode, Thais Gibson helps you decode the true meaning behind infatuation and emotional longing when it isn’t returned. You’ll discover how fantasy forms when core needs go unmet—and how to turn the energy of heartbreak into self-empowerment, healing, and integration. 🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why your brain turns to fantasy when your emotional needs aren’t met The connection between unrequited love and unmet childhood needs How to identify the repressed traits you’re projecting onto others A simple framework to uncover and meet your own needs in the present How to move from emotional longing to real-life connection and confidence 👩‍🏫 Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. 🧰 Helpful Resources 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 📲 Connect With Us on Social 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #UnrequitedLove #AttachmentHealing #EmotionalNeeds #ThaisGibson #FantasyLove #PersonalDevelopment #Boundaries #SelfEmpowerment #PDSCommunity #SubconsciousHealing ✨ If this episode helped you see unrequited love in a new light, please subscribe, rate the podcast, or share it with someone who needs support. Your shares help others heal too! ✨

7 min
JUN 6

Top 5 Reasons to End a Relationship (Even If You Still Care)

💔 Ready to heal your attachment style and attract healthy love? Start the 6 Pillars to a Secure Relationship course FREE for 7 days! 👉 https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=june-promo&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=podcast-episode&utm_content=pod-06-06-25&el=podcast Are you struggling to decide whether to stay in or leave a relationship that feels emotionally draining? You’re not alone. Sometimes, love isn’t enough—and staying too long can mean abandoning yourself. In this episode, Thais Gibson shares the top five reasons it may be time to walk away from a relationship—especially when growth, safety, or shared values are missing. Drawing from years of experience in private practice, she offers compassionate insights that help you get clear on when it’s time to stop hoping—and start healing. 🎯 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The #1 red flag that should never be ignored in a relationship Why mutual effort—not attachment style—is the true key to lasting love How empathy plays a critical role in relationship repair (and what happens when it’s missing) The long-term cost of mismatched values—and how to spot it early What non-negotiables really mean, and why compromising on them leads to resentment 👩‍🏫 Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. 🧰 Helpful Resources 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ 📲 Connect With Us on Social 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #AttachmentHealing #EmotionalHealth #SecureAttachment #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupSupport #ThaisGibson #PDSPodcast #Boundaries #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalDevelopment ✨ If you found this episode helpful, be sure to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast with someone who needs support on their healing journey. Every listen makes a difference! ✨

8 min
JUN 2

How to Win Over a Fearful Avoidant in the First 3 Months of Dating

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days: Enough Time to Complete a Full Course! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-06-02-25&el=podcast Dating a fearful avoidant and not sure how to build real connection without scaring them off? This episode breaks down exactly what you need to know to create emotional safety and deepen your bond in the early stages of dating a FA partner. Thais walks you through the unique needs fearful avoidants have in the first 3 months—and how to avoid the common mistakes that make them pull away. Whether you're new to attachment theory or deep in the work, this episode is packed with insights that will help you show up with confidence, curiosity, and care. What You'll Learn: ✔️ The 4 Pillars of Connection (and how FAs prioritize them) ✔️ Why presence and depth matter more than grand gestures ✔️ The role of novelty and transparency in building trust ✔️ How to ask the right questions to create intimacy ✔️ Subtle behaviors that help a FA feel emotionally safe This isn’t about playing games—it’s about Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a global leader in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and more than 13 certifications, Thais has helped over 70,000 people heal attachment wounds and build secure, thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Follow Us on Social Media: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #fearfulavoidant #attachmentstyles #datingadvice #relationshiptools #emotionalconnection #howtodateavoidants #securelove #attachmenttheorypodcast #relationshipgrowth #thaisgibson Found this helpful? Subscribe, rate, and share this episode with someone navigating early relationship stages. Small shifts make big impact.

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PDS is a life changer

Apr 12

Kris10T

I found PDS a year ago, got the lifetime membership and all I can say is I wish I found Thais and PDS a decade ago. Life is full of challenges but PDS can show you how to best navigate it. Grateful for you Thais and I hope your work becomes mainstream and something students learn in school. Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️
Good podcast

Apr 21

Associate Editor

Good stuff. Too much emphasis on dismissive avoidants.
Fix the sound quality

Mar 31

Flour tortilla

Love this pod cast but the last few episodes have had the worst sound quality! The ads are crystal clear but the content sounds spotty.. like a call with really bad reception. Please make sure these issues are addressed before you publish an episode so fans can continue to enjoy the show🥰
Useful Tools!

Feb 22

Jlm2z

It’s so rare to feel so seen after listening to an episode. After listening to the “Do This” if you’re anxiously attached after a breakup, I had concrete tools to help myself work through the negative self talk and soothing I sought from my former partner. Highly recommend listening if these topics are relevant to you- Thais breaks topics down extremely well and you will see the big picture and how it relates to you. Thank you!