Surviving through life is just not enough. It's time to THRIVE! But how do you do that? This podcast explores the skills and approaches to building a thriving life, regardless of what happens to you. Explore topics such as dealing with your thoughts, how fear gets in your way (and what you can do about that), how to shift your mindset, why you get stuck and how to get unstuck, what is real success, how to you create a life of meaning and purpose, how to shift to gratitude, how to learn to forgive, and how to build an outstanding and thriving life. Live life to the fullest. . . learn to thrive!
How to Live a Meaningful Life
Just a little rant here: philosophy classes turn off many college students for a simple reason — they never get around to saying how philosophy can shake your living. Some classes might teach more on “how to think philosophically,” or “here are the old philosophers.” Some may speak to ethics or arguments, logic or some other esoteric area. But how to live, day-to-day? That is often lost to the student.
(By they way, I would offer this as an issue with much of theology, too. Lots of talk about what not to do, what God (or gods) might be like, and how to judge how others live… but not so much clarity on living day-to-day. But that is a rant for another day!)
Anyway, philosophy, as originally taught in ancient days, was exactly for deciding how to live. How should you act, feel, and think? As different schools of philosophy might point out, that all depends upon your basic ideas of what a meaningful life might be.
Sometimes, we are already acting in ways that point to our idea of meaning, even without a philosophical basis. I think of this as our “natural philosophy” — how we have made sense of the world.
After my first book, many people asked if I was a Stoic. At that time, I had only a passing concept of that philosophy. Just one of those old schools of philosophy from a bygone age. But after hearing it a number of times, I started investigating. Sure enough, much of my approach to living day-to-day was Stoic. Huh.
Then, I started finding others that had this same experience. One of those is Vitaliy Katsenelson. He is the CEO of an investment company. But his story goes back to his family’s immigration to the United States, from Russia, when Vitaliy was a child. He was old enough to still remember those memories of a dying USSR (and to hold onto a bit of an accent), but young enough to find his way through American culture.
After writing several books on investing (including the psychology of investing), Vitaliy took to talking about life. Not just professional life. But other areas of life. Art, music, chess, and family life were grist for the mill of exploring meaning.
This led to Vitaliy’s latest book, Soul In The Game. While in the process of writing, Vitaliy stumbled upon Stoic thought and found a new home there. He incorporates that into this book, to further his exploration into the meaningful life (a slightly different question than the meaning of life).
I had a chance to sit down and chat with Vitaliy about a wide range of issues and topics, all related to how life becomes meaningful, and how to find that meaning. Listen to this episode of the Thriveology Podcast to find out more.
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My Book on Thriving
“Where Have You Been?"
I’ve had a few people who have noticed that the Thriveology Podcast has been on a bit of a hiatus for a couple of months. They asked where I have been.
Well, since the question was about my podcast, I thought I would respond in… my podcast!
So, listen in for what I’ve been up to, where we are headed, and how you can learn more about thriving — along with me!
And we will be back with a great interview in the next episode.
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The Me Exception
Do you ever do something that breaks a rule (or even a law), thinking to yourself that it doesn’t apply to you?
Sometimes, I use that speed limit sign as a suggestion. I’m a good driver, I tell myself. What harm could +5mph do? Except the sign is a law, not a guideline or suggestion.
But I explain it away. I decide it is ok.
I dare to venture that very close to 100% of people do something similar with some rule or law in their own lives. Someone tells me that they think affairs are bad and unacceptable, while excusing their own infidelity. I once saw a doctor (some years back) tell a patient that smoking was very bad for them, and they needed to stop… while heading out for a smoke break!
I could go on and on.
How do we make those moments make sense? The "Me Exception,” to borrow a term I recently read about. (The topic I was reading about is politically charged, but my observations were meant to note how we ALL do it, every day… and not about the topic I was reading about.)
The Me Exception. We all do it… and it isn’t particularly beneficial to us thriving. It might even be dangerous to the greater good!
Listen in below as we explore your Me Exception.
The Un-Stuck Series
My Books on Thriving
Is Micro-Quitting Keeping You from Thriving?
Do you micro-quit? I sure do. And I need to quit micro-quitting! Maybe you do, too.
It undermines my goals (and likely, your goals too). And it keeps you from thriving.
What is micro-quitting? Well, if you quit something (an activity, a job, a sport, a hobby, etc.), you stop doing it. You step away from it.
But when you micro-quit, you don’t follow through on the smaller building blocks of the bigger thing. You don’t quit. But you chip away at that bigger thing.
For example, you are exercising. Maybe you like to. Maybe you want to be in better shape. But either way, you have decided to exercise.
You set your alarm for an early workout. It goes off. You decide to hit the snooze button and do a shorter session. Or you give up on that next set of reps. Even though it was in your plan… and it was your intention to do it. You don’t. You micro-quit on that plan, on that action.
And in the process, you may be undermining your goals. A little at a time, a micro-quit at a time.
It might just be keeping you and me from thriving!
I discuss micro-quitting (and how to micro-commit) in this episode of the Thriveology Podcast. Listen below.
Your Fierce Life
The Habits Series
Taking on Discomfort
Change Your Algorithms
All around the news, we are hearing about algorithms built into our social media. It directs what we see and hear. It is how all social media decides what to feed you next. If you like this video, then you might like this one. If you know this person, then you may know this person. If you respond to this ad, then you might respond to this one. The task? To keep you on the app or the website. Because that is the thing about social media: they want your attention and your time.
But guess what? You have algorithms that are running inside of you. They are your “Personal Algorithms.” They are your habits that run your daily life. And they don’t really function that differently than what the tech companies use.
In essence, algorithms are simply If/Then formulas. “If” this happens, “then” you do this. In life, they represent your own daily habits and reactions. The “If” is a trigger. Something happens. And when it does, you “then” do something. If your stomach growls, then you grab a bite to eat. If you are walking by the cookie jar, then you grab one and eat it. If the alarm goes off, then you hit the snooze several times. If/Then.
Those algorithms can keep you stuck or free you up, depending on how you use them.
My guest this week is Michael Balchan. He is the CEO of Heroic.us, an app based approach to thriving more in life. Listen in as we discuss your habits, your life, your algorithms, and how to be on your own “heroic journey.”
Throughout his adulthood, Michael has been trying to not just “punch the clock,” but to thrive. And over the years, he immersed himself in learning and executing. He sought wisdom from others, then worked to apply it into his life.
Along the way, he moved from finance professional to professional coach. And on that path, he realized his own mission was to help the world to thrive.
On this episode, we talk about ways to thrive, and a new resource to help you thrive.
Thrive Principles Simplified
The Habits Series
"Where should I start?", my client asked.
Lots of times, we want to make changes, we want things to be different. And sometimes, we want things to be different before we make any changes.
We want a different starting point.
If you've ever been at a park or mall, looking at the map to figure out where to go, you might notice that one very important feature, "You Are Here." It points to the spot where you are now.
Not where you want to go. Not where you want to be.
But where you are.
If you are at the mall and see the store you want... on the other side of the mall, you might wish you were standing nearby, near the destination store. Not all the way across the mall.
But if you are on the other side of the mall, that is where you are. Navigating to the destination from a closer point -- a point where you are NOT -- is not likely to be effective.
You start where you are.
And you might just find... it is a pretty good place to start.
Listen to this podcast episode for how to start where you are, and why where you are is a pretty good place to start.
Accepting What Is
Book: The Immutable Laws of Living
I love how this podcast causes me to look at things deeper. For example the “can’t” and “SSC” episodes. Lee’s topics are always interesting, his voice is calming, and his invitations to apply what he’s offering are always filled with grace. Recently he had a guest on and I loved that variation.
Such a great podcast!!
Loving the conversations about dealing with challenges during quarantine.
I am so glad I discovered your podcast
Great, down to earth advice. Love listening to your podcast!