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Surviving through life is just not enough. It's time to THRIVE! But how do you do that? This podcast explores the skills and approaches to building a thriving life, regardless of what happens to you. Explore topics such as dealing with your thoughts, how fear gets in your way (and what you can do about that), how to shift your mindset, why you get stuck and how to get unstuck, what is real success, how to you create a life of meaning and purpose, how to shift to gratitude, how to learn to forgive, and how to build an outstanding and thriving life. Live life to the fullest. . . learn to thrive!

The Thriveology Podcast For Thrive Nation The Thriveology Podcast For Thrive Nation

    • Mental Health
    • 4.9 • 76 Ratings

Surviving through life is just not enough. It's time to THRIVE! But how do you do that? This podcast explores the skills and approaches to building a thriving life, regardless of what happens to you. Explore topics such as dealing with your thoughts, how fear gets in your way (and what you can do about that), how to shift your mindset, why you get stuck and how to get unstuck, what is real success, how to you create a life of meaning and purpose, how to shift to gratitude, how to learn to forgive, and how to build an outstanding and thriving life. Live life to the fullest. . . learn to thrive!

    Clean and Dirty Pain — Which one do you have?

    Clean and Dirty Pain — Which one do you have?

    Anyone who tells you that you can go through life without getting hurt and feeling pain is either lying or hiding.



    Life is rough-and-tumble.  Pain is unavoidable.



    But there is a type of pain that we can leave behind.  That is more a result of our own thinking than anything external, any injury either physical or emotional.



    Call it "Dirty Pain."  Which is distinguished from "Clean Pain."  Clean pain, that is the initial hurt.  When you hit your foot, it hurts.  That is the bodily response to the injury.  When someone says something to you that is mean and spiteful, your feelings are hurt.  That is the emotional pain.  It is initial.



    But what if you chastise yourself about your being "clutsy," or about your "stupid action" that led to that foot injury?  Or what if you made that hurtful comment about you, and not about the person who said it?  What if you kept dwelling about it?



    Let me be clear:  it is fine to ask how you might prevent an injury in the future.  It is fine to listen to feedback from others, that might give you some insight into things you need to change.



    It's the next step after that.  When you keep berating yourself.  It's when you take the next step... you attach to the pain.  Buddhism refers to that as suffering.  You and I can think of it as "Dirty Pain" (a term coined by ACT - a mode of therapy).  It is dirtied by our own mental state -- not the cause of the pain.



    What do you do about that?  We discuss it in this week's Thriveology Podcast.  Listen below.



    RELATED RESOURCES:

    Life Is Tough

    Letting Go

    What You Can Control

    The Forgive Process Book

    • 22 min
    How to Break Out of a Rut

    How to Break Out of a Rut

    We all have times in life where we just feel... stuck... in a rut.  Life on repeat.  Another day, another week, another month, another year clicks by, same ol' same ol'.



    That is the definition of a rut, just moving forward on a path of least resistance, unable to change direction or shift focus.  A rut.



    For many, this pandemic has been one big rut, stuck going forward, time passing by but little changing.



    Can you get free from a rut?  Can you break out of a rut?



    Yes, you can!



    In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I explore the nature of a rut, deciding if you are really stuck in a rut (or just resting), and how to break out of the rut.



    Listen in below.



    RELATED RESOURCES

    Order, Disorder, Reorder

    Changing Limiting Beliefs

    The Thrive Journal



     

    • 24 min
    From IF to IS

    From IF to IS

    At the beginning of my career, I was a hospital chaplain.  One of my tasks was to help people accept what was going on... to accept the diagnosis, the outcome of an accident or tragedy, to accept the changes.  Interestingly, many times, it seemed that those wanting the person to "accept" were really looking for resignation.  Kind of giving up.



    I think our understanding of acceptance has expanded since then.  But that doesn't make it any easier.



    You see, we all want some "alternate reality," some different space where things didn't, aren't, or won't happen.  Where we get to choose to undo/redo, or not do what we don't like.  The alternate reality where things happened or happen or will happen differently.



    Except they don't.  They happened as they did.  They are happening as they are.  And they will happen as they will.



    Yes, we have some control about what we do in this moment, and what we will do to move toward the next.  But not enough to create our alternate reality where we get to choose everything (we do get to choose our own response, though).



    There are 3 "If's" we play out in our mind.  One shift matters, if we want to thrive.  The shift to "Is."



    I unpack what that is about and talk about how we can make the shift in this episode of the Thriveology Podcast.



    RELATED RESOURCES

    Dealing with Grief

    When to Act, How to Accept

    Is the Present Perfect?

    Book:  The Thrive Principles

    • 22 min
    5 Lessons Learned from 55 Trips Around the Sun

    5 Lessons Learned from 55 Trips Around the Sun

    Another year has passed.  I added a year to when I answer, "How old are you?"  Well, at least in theory.  I am an unreliable narrator for reporting my age.  By accident.  But on a repeated basis.



    That said, as I recorded this episode of the podcast, and write these words, I am celebrating 55 trips around the sun (and I complain I don't get to travel much!).



    I'm not sure about claiming wisdom, but I do claim some lessons from those years.  Lessons I keep learning and relearning.  Lessons I must remind myself about.  But lessons that matter to my life.



    While there are quite a few, 5 seemed to be appropriate for 55 years.  5 lessons from 55 years on this earth!



    I'd love to hear the lessons you've learned!  And I'd love to hear any questions or thoughts you might have about thriving.  But until then, listen in on the 5 lessons I have learned (and keep learning), and let me know if they are lessons you share.



    Listen below.



    RELATED RESOURCES

    Do Things Happen for a Reason?

    We Aren't Getting Out Alive!

    Your Purpose

    Thrive Principles Book

    • 21 min
    What A Year!

    What A Year!

    What a year!  It was one year ago this week that I was on my last business trip.  I was at an event with my publisher.  Already, we knew COVID was out, and knew it was gaining steam.  Other countries had already gone into lockdown... and the US was on the precipice.



    While I was away, my wife and I were coordinating with our adult children, trying to make sure we could get them to our home before travel was locked down.  That weekend, both came home.



    We thought it might be a number of weeks.  They were thinking two to three.  I was thinking a month or a bit more.



    That ended up being months on end.  They spent more of 2020 in our home than in their own places.



    The economy screeched to a halt, trips were canceled, schools were closed.  And our medical system started to strain, faltering under the weight of one illness closing off some areas, while filling others.



    It seemed like every day, there was some new shift, new discovery, new point of vulnerability.  And in its wake, we, as a country and a world, strained to cope.  The grief poured out in anger and despair.  Some continued their grief in the world of denial.



    And still, the numbers climbed.  Families lost loved ones.  Spouses lost partners.  The world lost citizens.  To the point that we could no longer truly comprehend the numbers.  Some people recalculated by throwing caution to the wind.  Others recalibrated to a life in isolation, hoping that was safe.



    One year later.  What a year!



    Oh, and it isn't over!  Although there are plenty of places and people trying to move on, we are still in the midst of a crisis.  While there is a place, in the not-so-distant future, where we get back to a life much more similar to a bit more than a year ago, we aren't there yet.



    And we are also now seeing that the pandemic will not end equally.  It hasn't impacted citizens equally, and the end will come just as unequally.  But it will come.  How do we get there?  I hope together, and I hope a bit wiser.



    In this week's Thriveology Podcast, I think about the shifts and impacts of this past year.



    RELATED RESOURCES:

    Coping with COVID Series

    Finding or Building Hope

    Moving Through Grief

    • 24 min
    How to Be FREE

    How to Be FREE

    One day, I was watching some videos (you know how that rabbit hole works) that led me to a video on this interesting sport.  I love water sports, and am frequently daydreaming this time of year about being in warm water.



    I have no idea how that led to this video, but it was a team playing this weird underwater game of hockey/ultimate frisbee/survival thing.  It was the Underwater Torpedo League.



    Underwater Torpedo was invented by two former special ops guys.  They used it to help training clients get better at breath holding and calm under stress.  But it sure looked like a blast of a time!  I filed it under "I'd love to do that!"



    Fast-forward and I met these two guys.  Turns out they do more than just train some people.  They actually train professional athletes on a regular basis, including MMA, NFL, and even pro surfers.



    Prime Hall and Don Tran are the guys behind the game.  But they are also performance coaches outside the pool.  They work with people about performing in life, using their F.R.E.E. Your Mind protocol.  Through their coaching, they help people reduce stress, perform better, and become better versions of themselves.



    In this episode, Don and Prime discuss their protocol with me, so that you can make shifts toward higher performance in all of your pursuits.



    RELATED RESOURCES

    FREE Your Mind Info Website

    Underwater Torpedo League Website

    What Is Stress?

    How To Deal With Stress

     

    • 46 min

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