Surviving through life is just not enough. It's time to THRIVE! But how do you do that? This podcast explores the skills and approaches to building a thriving life, regardless of what happens to you. Explore topics such as dealing with your thoughts, how fear gets in your way (and what you can do about that), how to shift your mindset, why you get stuck and how to get unstuck, what is real success, how to you create a life of meaning and purpose, how to shift to gratitude, how to learn to forgive, and how to build an outstanding and thriving life. Live life to the fullest. . . learn to thrive!
Do You Believe Every Thought?
Those thoughts, they get us into trouble, don't they?
We keep looking for that thing that will make us happy. We think we know. We think that thing, that person, that place, that paycheck, position, etc., etc., will finally do it.
Until we get it, get there, have that relationship, or whatever... only to find that it didn't quite work.
Oh, sure, we might be happy for a brief time. But not the way we thought. That "shiny new object" just didn't do it. And back to the drawing board we go.
Mostly because we keep thinking that that thing "out there" is going to do it.
Notice that "happy" and "happen" share a root. Something out there needs to happen in order for us to be happy.
Which is not the path to happiness. No matter what your thoughts are telling you.
In this podcast episode, I discuss why our thoughts trick us, and what to do instead.
Thoughts are Thoughts
Making An Impact
When Life Knocks You Down
Life has a way of knocking us down. Every single person. Life hits hard sometimes, and softer sometimes. But life will knock us down. Not once. Not twice. But many times.
Many people get stuck trying to figure out what it means. I am more focused on what we do.
How do we keep moving forward? How do we find our balance again? How do we face another day?
But there it is, right there. There will be another day. The sun will rise again tomorrow. Which is why we have to decide how we are going to respond when life trips us up and knocks us down.
In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I discuss how we can thrive through the tough times (even because of the tough times) and find a path through life, even when life bumps us and trips us... even knocks us down.
Does Everything Happen for a Reason?
Dealing with Depression
Stuck in Loops
Finding Calm in Chaos
Book: Thrive Principles
Does Everything Happen for a Reason?
In recent days, I have been with people in the middle of horrific losses. Inevitably, someone steps up and in an attempt to comfort, says, "Everything happens for a reason."
That comment is rarely comforting in the painful moments.
But deeper than that, is it even true?
Many people default to this as a reaction to something that happens and is outside of our capacity to understand.
Sometimes, we want to think that there is something behind it -- not just some random event. But what does that phrase mean? Does it mean that some force is trying to teach some lesson?
For many people, the answer is yes.
But does that make it so?
Does everything happen for a reason? Given all that is going on these days, this question seems particularly important.
Let's chat. . .
Moving Through Grief
Living The Big Stuff with Kristine Carlson
Growth Mindset In The Pandemic
2020. ¯\_(?)_/¯ Am I right? And we just keep stretching on into 2021. The pandemic isn't over, the virus isn't gone. And here we still are.
Research psychologist, Carol Dweck, says that there are two mindsets we can have: fixed and growth.
In the fixed mindset, we think we are just the way we are. Our personalities and skills are just a part of who we are. "A natural athlete/writer/salesman/comedian," or whatever else. We just are born with those skills... or personalities.
In a growth mindset, we can learn... grow and change. We can get better in something we want to improve. No, that doesn't mean that anyone can be a world-class athlete. But if I want to improve my abilities, I can. If I want to shoot better free-throws, I can practice. If I want to improve my writing, I can practice. I can get better through, learning, effort, and practice.
It seems obvious when we look at it that way, but many of us accidentally fall into a fixed mindset, both of ourselves and others. Experts change their recommendations, and we can either see that as a failure on their part, "wishy-washy" and up to no good. Or we can see that they, too, are learning and sharing from what they are learning. Fixed or growth.
And we can also look at how we, ourselves, are learning to shift, pivot, alter, and change our lives in the face of a pandemic. When we get back to normal, it won't be the normal of December 2020. It will be different. How will we shift?
Carol Dweck's book, Mindset
Podcast on Growth
Podcasts on Coping with COVID
Clean and Dirty Pain — Which one do you have?
Anyone who tells you that you can go through life without getting hurt and feeling pain is either lying or hiding.
Life is rough-and-tumble. Pain is unavoidable.
But there is a type of pain that we can leave behind. That is more a result of our own thinking than anything external, any injury either physical or emotional.
Call it "Dirty Pain." Which is distinguished from "Clean Pain." Clean pain, that is the initial hurt. When you hit your foot, it hurts. That is the bodily response to the injury. When someone says something to you that is mean and spiteful, your feelings are hurt. That is the emotional pain. It is initial.
But what if you chastise yourself about your being "clutsy," or about your "stupid action" that led to that foot injury? Or what if you made that hurtful comment about you, and not about the person who said it? What if you kept dwelling about it?
Let me be clear: it is fine to ask how you might prevent an injury in the future. It is fine to listen to feedback from others, that might give you some insight into things you need to change.
It's the next step after that. When you keep berating yourself. It's when you take the next step... you attach to the pain. Buddhism refers to that as suffering. You and I can think of it as "Dirty Pain" (a term coined by ACT - a mode of therapy). It is dirtied by our own mental state -- not the cause of the pain.
What do you do about that? We discuss it in this week's Thriveology Podcast. Listen below.
Life Is Tough
What You Can Control
The Forgive Process Book
How to Break Out of a Rut
We all have times in life where we just feel... stuck... in a rut. Life on repeat. Another day, another week, another month, another year clicks by, same ol' same ol'.
That is the definition of a rut, just moving forward on a path of least resistance, unable to change direction or shift focus. A rut.
For many, this pandemic has been one big rut, stuck going forward, time passing by but little changing.
Can you get free from a rut? Can you break out of a rut?
Yes, you can!
In this episode of the Thriveology Podcast, I explore the nature of a rut, deciding if you are really stuck in a rut (or just resting), and how to break out of the rut.
Listen in below.
Order, Disorder, Reorder
Changing Limiting Beliefs
The Thrive Journal
Such a great podcast!!
Loving the conversations about dealing with challenges during quarantine.
I am so glad I discovered your podcast
Great, down to earth advice. Love listening to your podcast!
Every podcast brings me some mindset, information and awareness that I can act upon leaving me feel inspired and empowered. Thriveology can help you to thrive!