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Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

The Unburdened Leader Rebecca Ching, LMFT

    • Self-Improvement
    • 5.0, 23 Ratings

Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

    EP 04: Leading with Grace and the Power of Emotions with J.S. Park

    EP 04: Leading with Grace and the Power of Emotions with J.S. Park

    Leadership is hard and it is not for the weary.
    Leading myself and others in the face of injustice while also staying aligned to my integrity and values has required an immense amount of courage, clarity, confidence—and a lot of deep breaths.
    In times of conflict, my ability to stay aligned with my integrity and core values has often been a reflection of the inner work I have done to tolerate criticism, backlash, conflict, being misunderstood, and losing support/business/followers.
    Words like ‘integrity’ and ‘values’ can become nebulous and lose meaning when not backed up by consistent—though imperfect—action.
    Leading, living, and being human continues to be an ongoing and imperfect process. My desire to seek accountability and justice in the world has required me to swim in the deep end of grace and strive to live this grace.
    Allowing myself to take imperfect action has been immensely uncomfortable but rewarding. It has been what I needed to maintain the ongoing process of unburdened leadership.
    I’m thrilled to welcome my guest today, J.S. Park. His vulnerability along with his gift of communication is an example of unburdened leadership. J.S. reminds me that we are not robots and how our emotions, if not addressed, can end up overwhelming us, taking us out, and moving us away from what matters most.
    J.S. is a hospital chaplain, chaplain for the homeless, 6th-degree blackbelt, ex-atheist, skeptic, son of immigrants, and author of his new book, The Voices We Carry: Finding Your One True Voice in a World of Clamor and Noise.
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * The burdens J.S. carries that encouraged him to become a chaplain, how the work has been healing to him, and how it’s also been difficult
    * How depression has impacted J.S. and why he decided to get curious and feel the pain instead of bypassing it
    * How J.S. has been—and still is— impacted by intergenerational racism
    * What inspired J.S. to start what he calls typewriter therapy

    Learn more about Pastor J.S. Park:

    * Facebook: @Pastor J.S. Park (https://www.facebook.com/pastorjspark)
    * Instagram: @jspark3000 (https://www.instagram.com/jspark3000/)

    Learn more about Rebecca:


    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)




     

    • 1 hr 19 min
    EP 03: How Pain Can Inspire Growth & A Lifelong Mission with Jess Weiner

    EP 03: How Pain Can Inspire Growth & A Lifelong Mission with Jess Weiner

    Somewhere early in my life, I got the message that acknowledging my pain was not okay. Being vulnerable opened me up for attack. It was dangerous. Messages like “never let them see your sweat” often got mixed up with “no pain, no gain.” So there’s a mixture of: don’t show your pain getting the best of you yet show yourself conquering it all.
    And it’s not working.
    Just look at the stats of those suffering from clinical depression, clinical anxiety, substance use and abuse, suicide attempts and completion, marital and relational distress, and the effects of trauma and post-traumatic stress.
    Hiding our pain—avoiding it, even demonizing it—is taking us out because it’s not sustainable.
    But when you acknowledge your pain as an inspiration instead of an identity, this is where the gold lies that fuels your meaning and purpose.
    On today’s episode, I’m excited to talk with cultural expert, speaker, educator, and consultant, Jess Weiner.
    Jess continues to fight against being defined by her struggles, choosing instead to be inspired by them–even when the burdens of recurring struggles take her out. She has identified her blind spots, collected the data, and is now continuing to create and iterate–crediting her original pain story as part of her foundational inspiration.
    Jess is the CEO of Talk to Jess, where she advises Fortune 500 companies to help them better reflect people in their media, marketing, advertising, and workforce. She is also an adjunct professor at USC in the Annenberg School of Journalism, an acclaimed author, and was recently named by Fast Company as one of the most creative people in Business in the areas of Diversity and Inclusion.
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How Jess continues to heal, grow, and respond to her pain in ways that inspire change in her personal life and her body of work
    * Why Jess’ recovery awakened her activism and led her to creative outreach avenues, including theatre
    * How pain leads us down the path of self-discovery and unleashes some of our best work into the world

    Learn more about Jess:
    (http://www.jessweiner.com)

    (http://www.jessweiner.com)
    * (http://www.jessweiner.com)Jessweiner.com (http://www.jessweiner.com)
    * Instagram: @imjessweiner (https://www.instagram.com/imjessweiner/)
    * Twitter: @JessWeiner (https://twitter.com/jessweiner)
    * Facebook: @Jess Weiner (http://www.facebook.com/jessweiner)
    * LinkedIn: @Jess Weiner (http://www.linkedin.com/in/jessweiner)

     
    Learn more about Rebecca:
    (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)

    (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)
    * (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)

     

    • 1 hr 14 min
    EP 02: How Self-Leadership Saves You From The Relentless Drive To Succeed with Richard Schwartz

    EP 02: How Self-Leadership Saves You From The Relentless Drive To Succeed with Richard Schwartz

    My body was telling me to take a step back and reevaluate.
    Five years ago I had pneumonia and I couldn’t really do anything other than prop myself up on the couch and breathe...
    ...breathe and think about how I ended up in this mess
    I’d run myself into the ground. My schedule was full-to-overflowing. My life was packed and stretched to the edges. I had no margin for error, no space to breathe, no time to connect to who and what mattered to me.
    What was I really chasing? Why had I packed my life so full? What was really driving me to try to be all the things to all the people?
    The trauma of betrayal, abuse, shame, and the constant search to prove myself worthy–it was humbling and frustrating to see these recurring struggles and how they were hijacking my drive.
    I needed to do more work to lift those burdens, so I could move forward in a way where my drive was aligned to what matters most to me instead of taking me further away.
    In the last episode, Jonathan Merritt and I talked about how sometimes our bodies give us an SOS whether we like it or not. That SOS is an opportunity to take stock and make changes so we can get back to the work of leading.
    Today, I am talking with an incredible thinker and one of the most generous leaders I have ever met about what to do when you get slammed into that wall and need to make changes.
    DR. Richard Schwartz created Internal Family Systems (IFS) after years as a systemic family therapist and academic. This framework has been instrumental in my own work as a therapist and coach for leaders.
    We dig deep into the story of his own personal journey, what led him to course-correct on his early teaching on healing, and how unchecked drive can hijack other parts of you–your playfulness, your ability to rest, and your ability to handle what comes up when you finally take a break.
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * How we overcome overwhelm and why resistance always creeps in
    * How a near-death experience in Hawaii helped Richard to reach a better understanding of Self-leadership
    * How he was saved by his IFS practice and was inspired to bring the model to the world
    * Why Richard feels like his methodology is a powerful support in an age of gas lighting culture
    * How you can deal with all that comes up when you slow down, pause, or even have a hard stop like we all are currently experiencing now during this global pandemic

    Learn more about Richard:
    (https://ifs-institute.com/)

    (https://ifs-institute.com/)
    * (https://ifs-institute.com/)Internal Family Systems (https://ifs-institute.com/)

    Learn more about Rebecca:

    (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)
    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)
    * (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)rebeccaching.com/ (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)

    • 1 hr 4 min
    EP 01: Take Time For The Deep Work So Trauma Doesn’t Take You Out with Jonathan Merritt

    EP 01: Take Time For The Deep Work So Trauma Doesn’t Take You Out with Jonathan Merritt

    Leaders often struggle to make time for healing until their body sends out an SOS.
    They postpone and avoid the need for deeper healing and then get slammed by illness, exhaustion, or burnout.
    And at the heart it? There is usually the burden of unaddressed trauma.
    Insomnia, chronic pain, hair and skin issues, digestive distress, mood swings, and illness after illness–if you’re experiencing these symptoms without relief, you might be one of these leaders. The cost of avoiding or bypassing the deep work and healing ends up costing you time, opportunity, and your physical and emotional well-being.
    We need more leaders to show up and model what it means to prioritize healing by doing the deeper work to change.
    That's why I'm excited to share today’s conversation with Jonathan Merrit.
    Jonathan knows a thing or two about the deep work of healing because he has lived this truth in action.
    He is a model of tenacity and commitment toward the long-game work of healing. The process has transformed how he is showing up not only when writing about the hard and controversial things around culture and faith but also in his vulnerability when sharing his journey and risking failure when making big life decisions.
    Jonathan Merritt is one of America’s most prolific writers focused on religion, culture, and politics. He is the author of Learning to Speak God From Scratch and serves as a contributing writer for The Atlantic and contributing editor for The Week.
    Listen to the full episode to hear:

    * What it looked like to choose to not to bypass pain, repressed anger, and shame
    * How psychological trauma and stress can manifest physically and ways to address that trauma
    * How to listen to the sacred whisper and choose the risk of failure over the feelings of regret
    * How Jonathan communicates his facedown moments in his relationship to his body and his own journey with languaging his faith

    Learn more about Jonathan:
    (http://jonathanmerritt.com/)

    * jonathanmerritt.com/ (http://jonathanmerritt.com/)
    * Facebook: Jonathan Merritt Writer (https://www.facebook.com/JonathanMerrittWriter/)
    * Instagram: @jonathan_merritt (https://www.instagram.com/jonathan_merritt/?hl=en)
    * Twitter: @JonathanMerritt (https://twitter.com/jonathanmerritt?lang=en)

    Learn more about Rebecca:

    * Work With Rebecca (https://www.rebeccaching.com/work-with-me)
    * Sign up for the Weekly Rumble Email (https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ececca2ff83f400265bbaab)
    * rebeccaching.com (https://www.rebeccaching.com/)/

    • 55 min
    Introducing The Unburdened Leader

    Introducing The Unburdened Leader

    Meet leaders who recognized their own pain, worked through it, and stepped up into greater leadership. Each week, we dive into how leaders like you deal with struggle and growth so that you can lead without burnout or loneliness. If you're eager to make an impact in your community or business, Rebecca Ching, LMFT, will give you practical strategies for redefining challenges and vulnerability while becoming a better leader. Find the courage, confidence, clarity, and compassion to step up for yourself and your others--even when things feel really, really hard.

    • 3 min

Customer Reviews

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23 Ratings

23 Ratings

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Smart, honest, relevant

This podcast brings together the latest insights from psychology and healthy leadership in a profound new way. So good!

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THE Podcast for Holistic Leaders

Rebecca Ching is a name to remember. Her empathy for leaders paired with her credentials and years of experience create a powerful mix of knowledge and heart. Love this podcast!

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Rebecca is so wise and her depth of knowledge on leadership is unmatched. I can't wait to hear her insights and her conversations with her guests. If you are in leadership of any kind (including self leadership), you don't want to skip this podcast.

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