The Vital Link Between Feelings and Needs - Episode 61 Awareness That Heals

This week Robert focuses on the second to last chapter of his book. This step entails moving from feelings to needs. There are many foundational steps required to get to this point. Robert takes some time to review. From these precursor steps, we can make a distinct connection between identifying our most challenging feelings and what needs could be supported that would most help us in any given situation. Each situation is always unique. Every challenging feeling can be supported by a need or perhaps more than one. This really is a formula for caring for ourselves and others. Later in the episode, Robert switches gears from our relationship with self to our relationship with others. 
A good relationship does not mean that all of our needs are going to be met. The key is that you see the comprehensive good nature and love that you share over the years and see it in a balanced perspective. Being the best of friends or in a relationship doesn't mean agreeing on everything. The balance is when you have had enough beneficial times together that you can absorb those disagreements with grace and put it in the context of the whole relationship.  It is important to see if you are someone who is overly critical and perfectionistic or are too tolerant of relationships that aren’t serving your well-being as a whole. It is important to ask yourself on an ongoing basis, What is your greatest need? How is it not being fulfilled? What thoughts, qualities and actions are needed to find greater peace and well-being? Ask these questions together with Robert and Dave as they go through a variety of examples to help model balance in relationships with yourself and others enhanced by in-depth communication.
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