What kind of hijinks did you get up to as a kid? Did you climb trees? Did you run around outside barefoot? Did you eat raw cookie dough?
Maybe you wanted to do these and other crazy things, but you weren't allowed…
Let me ask you this: what if your children wanted to? Would you let them?
If you hesitate there, well, you're in the right place. The We Turned Out Okay podcast is where we learn the hows and whys of hovering less and enjoying our young children more. You get to learn from host Karen Lock Kolp's mistakes, but especially from the successes of her guests. Each helpful, lively conversation illustrates why this show really is "The Modern Parent's Guide to Old-School Parenting."
357: What does your heart long for?
Greetings! In today's episode we examine the process of getting what our heart longs for, in a coaching conversation with one of my 1-to-1 coaching clients!
As you'll hear, Regan is a mom and an attorney, currently (along with her husband) working from home while their children are home as well, in in virtual/hybrid school.
Regan gets courageous and vulnerable with us today. She shares the dream of her heart for her kids… and what she's doing each and every day to help make that dream come true.
In our conversation you'll learn:
– How to get your heart's desire
– The importance of big dreams and tiny action steps
– Making both your superpower AND the dark side of that superpower work for you in achieving your dreams
Lately I've been asking coaching clients "what makes my coaching magical?" (You'll hear Regan and I talk about this in this episode.)
The answers I'm getting back are fascinating – it turns out that something I'm really good at is helping parents stop treading the conventional path and do what works for THEM, and their family.
We all have dreams. What are you doing to make yours reality?
If you're ready to go on the adventure of your life with me as your guide, write me, and let's talk!
Plus… This is a digest episode, so in addition to our conversation I'm bringing you a story that I recently sent to the folks in my free email newsgroup! Click this link to get weekly letters like this delivered right to your inbox: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
I share about the "Parents Working from Home" free virtual summit that I'm honored to be included in (happening this coming Saturday 2/27, 10 AM to 1 PM EST).
And, I give you an update on a new segment of this podcast: it's called Triumphs and Misdemeanors, and I hope you will be a part of it!
Click here for psychologist – and friend-of-the-podcast – Shannon Connery's recent episode of her Fix Yourself podcast, in which she talks about energy level and a way to think of it that's been really helpful for me recently. Maybe it will be helpful for you, too!
Click here for the weekly planner that Regan and I discuss in this episode. The planner was once exclusively for people in my Ninja Parenting Community, but I am sharing it here with you today in hopes that it will help you to see your entire week in one half sheet piece of printer paper. Enjoy!
Click here to sign up for the free Parenting While Working from Home Virtual Summit taking place Saturday February 27 from 10 AM to 1 PM EST. (Also I'll be stopping by the Facebook group associated with the Virtual Summit between noon and 1 PM EST. Maybe I'll see you there!)
Click here to read the story that I share today in the latter part of this episode, called "What my Italian relatives know about the off-season."
(This is also where you can see the picture I mention in today's episode, me in Venice in 1992, wearing *quite* a sweater : )
Click the following link to view the show notes from today's episode on my website: weturnedoutokay.com/357
Get my best advice for handling the challenges that come up on your parenting journey, through the We Turned Out Okay podcast:
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356: The consequences of pushing ourselves too far - Talking with educator Sarah Scheldt M.Ed. today!
Due to the content of our conversation, today's episode is going to be a good one to listen AWAY from sensitive ears… I think you're going to love today's conversation, I know I did! But some topics may be a little intense for, well, littles.
Greetings! I am super excited to bring today's guest to you, educator and parent coach Sarah Scheldt, M.Ed.!
In today's conversation I'll introduce you to Sarah, so you can come to know her and the incredibly helpful, giving person she is.
Today Sarah discusses:
- How to handle your kids' toughest days and biggest feelings
- How to take care of yourself in the midst of everything going on in your life
- Handling when we do push ourselves too far
Early on in the pandemic Sarah wanted to reach parents outside of her classroom of kids. So she created an amazing free Virtual Summit on "empowering kids." I felt so honored to be included in the expert speakers for that summit!
Sarah's second free online series, Kids' Healthy Bodies, starts on February 15!
(Yay! Click here to sign up!)
In our conversation today Sarah shares on how this upcoming free Virtual Summit will help you get a handle on talking to kids about potentially tough topics like their own bodies, sex, consent, and stopping child sexual abuse.
I'm honored to be a part of this series as well, talking about what to do if you have been the victim of sexual abuse… and you are now raising kids.
There will be experts on all kinds of topics around children and their healthy bodies, so be sure to sign up!
I know you're going to love today's conversation… If you'd like to see us visually, in addition to listening, you can find the video for this conversation by clicking https://weturnedoutokay.com/356
I hope you find our talk super helpful!
Links from today's conversation:
Click here to sign up for Sarah Scheldt's upcoming Free Virtual Summit on Kids' Healthy Bodies – I'm one of the expert speakers, so I know how awesome this series is going to be.
Click here for the Yo-Yo Ma documentary, Distant Echoes, on the time that Ma spent with the Bush People of the Kalahari Desert, learning how they make music – and meaning.
355: Five ways to help you keep going right now
Greetings! Today I've got five ways that parents I work closely with are keeping going…
Because even though we can see some hope on the horizon, circumstances on the ground are, shall we say, not ideal.
So if you need a little help getting good behavior from your kids, feeling seen and heard and cared for in your life, or feeling happy inside, here are five ways you may not have considered yet to accomplish those tasks.…
Plus the Parenting News Segment returns today, with reports on how to not use social-emotional learning for evil, and also something called "toxic positivity."
Here are the links that come up today:
This episode's home-on-the-web is weturnedoutokay.com/355
In the first few minutes of today's show I share (a little bit) about my experience of being sexually abused when I was seven years old. This comes up in my first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, in the chapter called How to Help if Something's Wrong; you can buy the book by clicking here
I share about being hospitalized with diverticulitis last fall in episode 349: Kindergarten Evals, Parent-Teacher-Conferences, and Lessons I learned from being hospitalized last week, weturnedoutokay.com/349
Beloved Ninja Parenting Community alum Jen came on the show in summer 2019 to talk about how she got control over the direction her family is going: weturnedoutokay.com/288
In episode 300 of We Turned Out Okay, two amazing and close friends of mine, licensed mental health counselor Janine Halloran and veteran preschool teacher Tricia Tomaso came on the show, and unbeknownst to each other (or me) they both brought the same topic: Social Emotional Learning… Weturnedoutokay.com/300
Speaking of Janine Halloran, she's going to be an expert speaker in the Parenting in Place Masterclass Series this winter! Register for this awesome series by going to parentinginplacemasterclass.com
Today I share that I am planning a new segment of the show… that it's going to include input from our wonderful listeners… and the first people who will know about it are those who get my free weekly newsletters!
Find out what's up by subscribing for these newsletters yourself: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
If you want to start getting my free weekly newsletters AND you've got reluctant or unhappy readers at home, sign up for my free Guide to Creating Happy Readers at weturnedoutokay.com/readers
Thank you for listening and reading! You rock!
354: Goals and Words and a "kind 2021"
Greetings and best wishes for 2021!! This is my annual goals and sharing of the Word of the Year. (Last year's: ENOUGH. I apparently was really prescient in January 2020... This year's: EXHILARATED. Should be fun!)
As with everything in the pandemic, it's different from other New Year's episodes that have come before. But I hope it's helpful for you as you create a good life, and a good year, for your family and yourself.
Some of my goals last year I completely, epically failed at bringing about.
Some of them I did a little bit better with.
One of the most important things I learned was to make a goal be "a place to come from," rather than something to work towards. Seriously, this has been a huge game-changer for me.
I share about that process and give you ideas for trying it out yourself today.
Finally I read you one of my most recent newsletters, "Hello 2021! Please be kind to us."
You can get these newsletters delivered for free right into your inbox just by signing up for one of my free guides available at weturnedoutokay.com… Or go to weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
Click weturnedoutokay.com/312 for last year, January 2020's Goals and One Word episode. Listening back I was such a pre-pandemic naïve little baby then! I've grown a lot in 2020. I bet you have too. Ultimately this is a good thing, I think. We are such badasses now!
Click here for a book I am loving, 100 Truths You Will Learn Too Late by Luca Dellanna
Click weturnedoutokay.com/books to see the parenting books I have written
Click here for my most recent newsletter, "Hello 2021! Please be kind to us."
Click weturnedoutokay.com/354 to watch the video of today's episode.
Cheers! I hope 2021 is REALLY kind to you 3
353.5: What your child needs from you today
Hi friends! This is a bonus episode that I recorded to help you in the wake of January 6, 2021's storming of the United States Capitol Building by domestic terrorists, or (as you'll hear in today's episode) people that featured WTOO guest and NYT best-selling author Joshilyn Jackson calls "known jackasses."
I want to give you some resources to help you remain calm – because that is what your kiddo needs from you today.
I am more grateful than I can say that you are listening, I can almost feel us holding hands and standing together today…
I will have links posted (at weturnedoutokay.com/353-5) ASAP, but for now I just want you to be able to hear my words and know that you can remain calm, for your child and for yourself. No matter what is going on in your world, or in the wider world.
And I am here with you.
353: Challenges with reading, ADHD meds, kids trying their best, and more: Ask the child development expert
Greetings! I've got a whole slew of awesome questions for you today (you can read the questions in their entirety just below : )
Here are the Key Links that come up in today's episode, located at weturnedoutokay.com/353
You should go to that link above if you would like to see the video of this episode (instead of just listening in audio)…
Cheers and thanks for listening!
Links that come up today:
My free guide to raising happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/readers
If you'd like to get useful tools and parenting ideas in your inbox each week, without the guide to happy readers: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly
Click here for one of the many wonderful Elephant and Piggy books by Mo Willems
Click here for a book that your family might enjoy with new readers, You Read to Me, I'll Read to You
How NOT to teach your child to ride a bike: https://weturnedoutokay.com/092-how-to-teach-your-young-child-to-ride-a-bike/
Click the following link for one of the very early episodes I did, about how kids develop grit:
Click the following link for my conversation with Amy Anderson, about how to know if your young child is consenting:
Click the following link for my conversation with Carey Andersen, sharing her story of her child's nonconsent to a bad kindergarten situation and what they did about it:
Click the following link for my conversation with Debbie Reber of the TiLT Parenting Podcast:
Okay, just below are the questions!
Thanks for reading and listening! Cheers!
Tish: What do I say to my 6 year old who can't seem to keep his hands out of his pants?
How do I win when trying to get 2 6 year old(s) to practice reading and not lose my mind? It's a nightmare everyday. I've tried to bribe, threaten, prayed loudly, and I can't seem to find anything that works. It's not as bad when they are out of school and we can do it in the mornings but the evenings are a nightmare every. single. day. Not doing it is not an option. We'll be further behind than we are now.
Whether we think this is "right" or not doesn't mean they will change their policy. We are on Book 4 out of 12 we have to read to go the 2nd grade.
Surviving... because this too will pass.
Anonymous: We are in the midst of struggling mightily on [my five-year-old’s] second med trial for ADHD.
This one is not making any difference at school except he’s even more talkative and then he’s having a huge emotional crash and sobbing meltdowns in the evenings.
Working with the doctor to figure out a new plan this week! Other than that just powering through end of year work chaos.
Trying to stay positive as I hear this is so common to have to try a few meds but it’s hard!
So we are in survival mode but going to make the most of the holidays!
[Karen:] FYI I have discovered some biases in myself, and as a result I'm going to do some more research into this whole issue – meds, ADD, ADHD, coping mechanisms both for kids and parents. This deserves at least an episode, and possibly a series. Stay tuned
Jen: My daughter, age 8 already, wants to ride a bicycle again. She had a typical bike fall a year ago (a scrape on the knee, just a run of the mill slow-speed fall that comes from learning how to balance) and has been avoiding the bike ever since. Typical for her high anxiety. She tells me she's afraid of falling again and she wants to ride on the school running track, which we did one time when she was 5, before we knew it wasn't allowed. She is also concerned that the training wheels send an unpleasant rumble into her body when she rides on asphalt. Uneven pavement or rocks or sticks make her afraid of falling. My concerns are the school rule, and driving 15 minutes or less. Our rural home has no paved areas
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