When my daughter told me the story of a friend she felt was treating her unfairly, I recognized how easy it often is to slip into the "fix it" role to take away their discomfort. But what if that discomfort is not a problem at all. In fact, it's the essence of what connects them to their internal guidance. A guidance system they'll need to navigate their way through their life and relationships. Our gift to our kids is our ability to stay with our own discomfort as we allow them to stay with theirs.