The YES Effect

Shelli Varela
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The YES Effect

The YES Effect show features stories and interviews with some of the world’s most successful and inspirational people about how they overcame obstacles, doubts, fears and naysayers to accomplish massive dreams and impact the world. The difference between impossible and possible: saying YES. Host Shelli Varela is a Story Alchemist, speaker, coach and author, and is no stranger to possibility hacking. Her remarkable journey from 108 pound manicurist to a 30 year career as her city’s first female Firefighter & Captain has been featured everywhere from TEDx, to Forbes, Entrepreneur Magazine and a NYT Bestseller. Shelli has since become obsessed with the power of the mind and in particular, the transformational power of the word YES. The YES Effect is proof that everything YOU need to succeed and change the world is already inside you.

  1. 08/28/2023

    The Gift of Imperfection (Why I’ve Been Away From Podcasting)

    Today, I want to talk about accepting and embracing the wonderful gift of imperfection. As someone who has struggled with perfectionism, I realize it’s been holding me back from creating content lately, including this podcast. Oddly enough, as a speaker, podcaster and content creator, I am not comfortable in the spotlight. The amount of times I’ve shied away from posting videos or recording interviews because I hated how I looked that day, or the lighting was off, or I just didn’t feel “camera ready” is more than I can count. And it has let so much magic go to waste. If we continue waiting for the perfect moment to offer the world our gifts, they’ll stay locked away forever. That’s the beautiful thing about imperfection: it releases all that magic, no matter how it looks on the outside. Because doing it imperfectly is better than not doing it at all. Sometimes you just gotta grip it n’ rip it (like this episode). Believe me, it feels good. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to overcome perfectionism  Why we need to stop worrying about our appearance How to build confidence  How to confidently step out from behind the scenes  How to overcome fear of being on camera How to learn to accept and appreciate imperfect   Links mentioned in this episode: TYE 154: How to overcome perfectionism and embrace the messy steps to success   Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become! Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube

    7 min

  2. 08/21/2023

    TYE 156: Unlocking the Brilliance Inside Challenging Kids with Dayna Abraham

    Dayna Abraham has developed a guide for parenting “challenging” kids - those with big emotions, power struggles; the misbehavers and neurodivergents. Her new bestselling book “Calm the Chaos - a Failproof Roadmap for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids'' is aimed at reframing what we typically label as “challenging” behaviour as an opportunity for adults to learn and empower their kids to reach their full, innate potential.  In this episode, Abraham talks about how her framework helps parents foster connections, understanding, and empowerment, while removing the stress and overwhelm of parenting. After all, some of the world’s greatest innovators and change-makers were once labelled “challenging” children.  Dayna Abraham is the bestselling author of “The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day” and “Sensory Processing 101”. She is also the founder of the popular parenting website “Lemon Lime Adventures.”  In this episode, you’ll learn: The benefits of “challenging” behaviour in children How parents can learn from their children Why calmness is important in parenting Neurodivergence and neurodiversity How all behaviour is communication How to teach empathy to your children How to help your kids feel more seen, heard and understood Why you should communicate when you’re upset or stressed  The problem with rewarding “good” behaviours    Quotables:  “Parents often jump to ‘what do we do about this situation?’ instead of ‘how do we be in this situation?’” “To understand that you might not understand is pretty powerful.”   Links mentioned in this episode: Calm The Chaos book (order now)   Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become! Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube

    31 min

  3. 03/14/2023

    TYE 155: Focus On The Next Step, Not The Whole Mountain (How I Wrote A Song)

    To make a big dream happen, you have to break it into small, individual steps and focus on the next first step. This way, you can make even the wildest, even most absurd, idea a success. This episode is a story about how my 13 year-old step son Ry and I co-created a song with the help of a celebrity music producer, without ever meeting him, and with almost zero musical abilities myself.  I just really wanted to make a song with Ry, and focused on the next first step.  Listen to the end to hear the song itself and a super inspiring Q&A with Ry at the end. Whatever your big, even absurd, dream is, you don’t need to know exactly how you’re going to achieve it. You just need to know three things: that it’s a “yes,” what the next first step is, and who to ask for help. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to break success down into small steps How I was able to co-write a song without any musical ability How I sourced my network for help How I ended up working with a celebrity music producer, who has worked with Cher, Tina Turner, Pink, Gwen Stefani, Joe Cocker & Disney How to get more people to say “yes” to your requests Why passion and persistence lead to success How to listen to your body    Quotables: “You don’t need to know all the steps. You just need to know: is this a yes, am I excited, and what is the next first thing?”   Links mentioned in this episode: TYE 151: How To Overcome The Fear of Asking Questions (A Personal Story) TYE 128: P!nk bassist Eva Gardner on rock stardom and overcoming rejection TYE 005: A Rock Star's Guide to Overcoming Fear with Mark Schulman   Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become!   Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube

    30 min

  4. 01/30/2023

    How to overcome perfectionism and embrace the messy steps to success

    Perfectionism is a killer of hopes and dreams. The challenge is learning to accept and embrace the messy, imperfect steps necessary to create momentum. It’s how every successful person gets to the top of the mountain, and why so many people never reach it. This quick episode is about my holistic approach to doing things the most human way possible: imperfectly. Please listen, share and I hope this lights your fire to keep taking messy, imperfect steps forward to your ultimate “yes!” In this episode, you’ll learn: Why people often fail at their goals Why New Year's Resolutions often fail The compound effect  How successful people manage failure How to overcome perfectionism   Quotables: “You can’t get to the top of your mountain unless you’re willing to deal with your own humanity where you’re going to be doing it imperfectly. The question is: are you going to be doing it?” “It’s always going to be messy and ugly. The only thing that matters is ‘can I keep going?’”   Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become! Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube

    7 min

  5. 01/23/2023

    The life-changing power of a small act of kindness

    We often never know how far an act of kindness can go or how it can change someone’s day, or their entire life. Here’s a quick story of kindness from a recent trip to the grocery store, which started with something rather unkind.  Too often, people are dismissed and not looked at for the wholeness of who they actually are. Everyone has bad days. But everyone deserves our kindness.  Please listen, share and let me know what you think - leave a review or DM me on Instagram @shellivarela

    4 min

  6. 01/16/2023

    Say What You Need to Say Before It’s Too Late

    This holiday season was a difficult one for me, and in this episode, I explain why & what I learned from it.  In the very days leading up, one of my absolute closest people fell ill and died quite suddenly. I spent Christmas Day in the hospice at her side, spending those final inevitable moments in deep sorrow and reflection. But those moments also reminded me of a valuable life lesson - woven beautifully into one of my favourite John Mayer songs.  Please listen and share with someone who needs to hear it. Death and dying are indeed both heartbreaking and beautiful. Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become! Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube

    5 min

  7. 12/28/2022

    How To Overcome The Fear of Asking Questions (A Personal Story)

    At some point we developed this fear of asking questions. For so many people, the thought of potentially hearing “no” is crippling enough to pass up the incredible possibility of “yes.” But as the saying goes, “you’ll never know until you ask,” and not asking at all, ironically, leads to that same dreaded “no” by default. So how do we find the courage to ask questions?  In this episode, I’m sharing two occasions where - scared as I was - I took a shot at asking. One resulted in a business deal with one of the biggest luxury car companies in the world (for a firefighter calendar I was producing), and the other a close friendship with a celebrity musician who accepted my random and totally ridiculous fangirl request for a drum lesson. I hope these stories inspire you to look past the chance of “no” and envision what your life could look like if simply asking the question brings you a life-changing “yes.” In this episode, you’ll learn: How to overcome the fear of asking questions Why you’ll likely hear “yes” more than “no” if you just ask How I landed a sponsorship deal with Lamborghini Why we inevitably forget hearing “no”  How I became close friends with former P!nk drummer & speaker, Mark Schulman How to find the courage to ask questions Why we need to normalize asking questions This conversation was from a candid, behind-the-scenes chat with my producer, but I wanted to share it with you. Let me know your thoughts on this episode and the topic of asking questions. Is there a “yes” out there for you? (contacts below). Links mentioned in this episode: TYE 005: A Rock Star's Guide to Overcoming Fear with Mark Schulman   Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become! Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube

    5 min

  8. 10/04/2022

    How a no-sugar diet can change your life with Netta Gorman

    When Netta Gorman stopped eating sugar, it not only changed her life, but also the lives of hundreds of others. She now helps people eliminate sugar through her coaching programs and immensely popular “Life After Sugar” podcast.  But Netta’s journey to the land of no sugar, flour or sweeteners wasn’t easy (as we’ve all tried and mostly failed). But after a lifetime of digestive issues, doctor’s visits and failed efforts, Netta caved to this small but life-changing recommendation of a Nutritional Therapist. Her results were so effective, she’s now dedicated to guiding others past the emotional and societal challenges of a no-sugar diet. Netta Gorman is on The YES Effect podcast to talk about the challenges and benefits of ditching sugar for good and how she turned her success story into a life of helping others say “yes” to better health and feel free from sugar cravings and mindless snacking. In this episode, you’ll learn:    Why sugar and flour cause so many digestive issues Netta’s long and difficult journey to finally eliminating sugar, flour and sweeteners The immediate effects of a no-sugar diet How sugar affects weight, energy level and digestion Why social pressure makes it difficult to stop eating sugar Why eliminating sugar cravings starts with removing your emotional attachment to sugary foods How Netta turned her personal success into a business   Quotables:   “I couldn’t imagine not doing what I’d always done.”   “If you want something different, you have to do something different.”   “I got hooked on feeling great and that’s what keeps me motivated.”   “Social pressure to consume sugar is strong. When you don’t consume sugar anymore, the social pressure to consume it again is even stronger.” Links mentioned in this episode:   After Sugar Club Life After Sugar podcast  Netta on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Join The YES Effect Inner Circle Facebook Group for a behind the scenes experience about what it means to Believe, Belong and Become!   Join Shelli on Facebook Join Shelli on Instagram Join Shelli on YouTube

    31 min
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The YES Effect show features stories and interviews with some of the world’s most successful and inspirational people about how they overcame obstacles, doubts, fears and naysayers to accomplish massive dreams and impact the world. The difference between impossible and possible: saying YES. Host Shelli Varela is a Story Alchemist, speaker, coach and author, and is no stranger to possibility hacking. Her remarkable journey from 108 pound manicurist to a 30 year career as her city’s first female Firefighter & Captain has been featured everywhere from TEDx, to Forbes, Entrepreneur Magazine and a NYT Bestseller. Shelli has since become obsessed with the power of the mind and in particular, the transformational power of the word YES. The YES Effect is proof that everything YOU need to succeed and change the world is already inside you.

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  • Creator
    Shelli Varela
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2023
  • Episodes
    158
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    The YES Effect

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