Two Austin therapists and their world-recognized guest experts break down modern attachment, relational neuroscience and trauma in a challenging but entertaining format designed to keep you off unconscious autopilot and moving towards closer connections.
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Relationship-based Parenting, Integrating Neurobiology, Attachment, Regulation & Discipline (192)
Dr. Scherer and Dr. Sylvester sit down with co-host Ann Kelley, Ph.D., and break down helpful strategies when co-parenting, integrating attachment into disciplinary styles, and finding balance in our relationships. Introducing structural markers like the "7 Essential Attachment Needs" and emphasizing the importance of the "repair" aspect of relationships, this episode dives into the building blocks of secure parenting. Follow along to step into a grounded, empowering approach where you can deepen the connection with yourself and your loved ones.
Attachment, Stress & Bootstraps - Understanding the Intersection of Poverty & Mental Health with Dr. Sharon Lambert (191)
Attachment 'insecurity" is, in part, a manifestation of patterns of unresolved stress in the child and by extension, the family. Therapists usually think of stress as interpersonal and dyadic; however, that needs to include the context we discuss on this podcast. Context means the circumstances or setting which helps to understand a process more deeply. As Sharon Lambert says in today's episode, you can't "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" if you have no boots. Sue Marriott and Sharon Lambert discuss the unconscious bootstraps communities have that cause blame towards those who are struggling.
There is no doubt that poverty impacts physical and emotional health, and thus lifting children out of poverty is a direct intervention in their well-being. Today's session also explores fascinating research on how people use mental health podcasts - join us! www.therapistuncensored.com/191.
Secure Relating, Not the Same as Secure Attachment with Ann & Sue (190)
You don't have to be totally healed from years of therapy under your belt or a history of secure attachment to develop skills for increased intimacy and secure relating. This is something that anybody, no matter their history, can begin to learn. Channeling your inner awareness to recognize a heightened state of arousal or using visualizations to help stay in a regulated place helps tap into your right brain to connect with yourself and your humanity. Ann and Sue navigate their personal examples, self-regulating tips, breaking out of their defensive "competitive head", and many more useful strategies to explore the ways we can move in the direction of secure connections. Show notes at TherapistUncensored.com/190
Healing Body-Focused Repetitive Behavioral Disorders with Stacy Nakell
Hair-pulling, skin picking, and cheek, lip, & cuticle biting are self-soothing strategies that depending on degree can become body-focused repetitive behavioral disorders. Learn about a new attachment-informed psychodynamic model for treating these painful, shame-associated behaviors.
While we may not be fully aware when we are pulling and picking, these sorts of unconscious behaviors can be an indicator of dysregulation. Outside factors such as our environment, upbringing, and various traumas can all play a role in these self-soothing behaviors. Stacy Nakell is a pioneer in this field and has dedicated years to understanding and educating others on how to abandon shame and treat these behaviors. By blending attachment theory and neurobiological research, Nakell has helped rewire the ways in which we navigate these behaviors and brought forward new perspectives like viewing BFRBDs on a continuum and how these overlap with body dysmorphic disorders. Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/189. Ad-free feed at www.therapistuncensored.com/join
Special Excerpt - The Science of Regret: Daniel Pink on a Slight Change of Plans
Many of you probably love podcasts, and not just Therapist Uncensored. Ann and I have our favorites as well, so we wanted to share a short special episode today to expand your world of podcast listening. Today we are directly sharing an excerpt from one of our podcast friends, A Slight Change of Plans, from Pushkin Industries. In this preview, bestselling author Daniel Pink talks about using a typically negative emotion – regret – as a force for good in our lives. Hear the full episode, and find much more from A Slight Change of Plans, at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/scp5?sid=uncensored.
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Mistaken Assumptions to Re-Examine for Relational Connection w Ann and Sue (188)
Assumptions block our view of seeing the whole perspective and equip us with a bias that can make our relationships difficult to navigate. Not asking people personal questions or receiving feedback might be underlined unexamined bias. Whether your "moral compass" may get in the way, your assumptions form from cultural influence, or you even feel avoidant of those tougher conversations and just assume the other person is on the same page - this episode is for you.
Ann and Sue were on a role w disarming defenses so while this one isn't technically in that 5 part series that just wrapped up called "Disarming Human Defenses", let's call this one a hanger-on. Shownotes at www.therapistuncensored.com/188. Join our ad-free Neuronerd community www.therapistuncensored.com/join. Tks for stopping by!!
Insight, depth, honesty and practical application of attachment. Not just the theory, but the process and experience. This podcast helps bring to surface the dynamics of our minds and behaviors which challenge or benefit our relationships. Keep up the excellent work, and THANK YOU for your contribution to our world and the healing process.
As a therapist in training, not only do I find this helpful for me but all my close friends that are walking a journey of healing. You bring practicality, research, wisdom, and humility to this podcast. I love it so much.
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These women are easy to listen and approachable. Not always easy to find when someone has such impressive credentials. Thanks for all of your help!