66 episodes

(Formerly Throwback Parenting)

Lynnette and Greg Sheppard believe in raising grownups, not children. This husband and wife pair have spent the past 20 + years in the trenches of raising five very different children, most of whom have insanely strong wills. In the process, they have learned a few things about responsible, respectful, resilient, self-disciplined, independent, faithful young adults who are prepared to meet the challenges of life. They want to share their knowledge and experience with you.

Listen in each week for an animated and thought-provoking discussion about raising kids who can stand on their own two feet. You will walk away with both strategies and inspiration to help you strengthen your family and set your kids up for success.

(And, in case you were wondering, Lynnette is a Certified Leadership Parenting Coach and Greg is a pediatric dentist who works with all sorts of kids and their parents.)

How to Raise Grownups Lynnette and Greg Sheppard

    • Parenting
    • 4.9, 32 Ratings

(Formerly Throwback Parenting)

Lynnette and Greg Sheppard believe in raising grownups, not children. This husband and wife pair have spent the past 20 + years in the trenches of raising five very different children, most of whom have insanely strong wills. In the process, they have learned a few things about responsible, respectful, resilient, self-disciplined, independent, faithful young adults who are prepared to meet the challenges of life. They want to share their knowledge and experience with you.

Listen in each week for an animated and thought-provoking discussion about raising kids who can stand on their own two feet. You will walk away with both strategies and inspiration to help you strengthen your family and set your kids up for success.

(And, in case you were wondering, Lynnette is a Certified Leadership Parenting Coach and Greg is a pediatric dentist who works with all sorts of kids and their parents.)

    The Magic Framework for Teaching Kids to Listen

    The Magic Framework for Teaching Kids to Listen

    Since we are smack in the middle of July and many people are traveling and enjoying summer with their families, we are going to something a little bit different. Today, we are republishing Episode 5 of the podcast, which is our most popular episode to date. If you haven't listened to it yet, today is your lucky day! If you have listened, this is a topic that could always use a good refresher.
    This episode stems from a listener question: “What should I do when my child doesn’t listen – flat out ignoring me until I yell or do something physical to get their attention? I ask calmly and quietly and kindly and after the 3rdtime, I may need to make eye contact, but even when they acknowledge that I asked something (OK, Mom) they don’t do it.”
    In this episode, we answer that question by first laying a foundation. We talk about the importance of developing a leadership mindset in parenting, complete with suggestions on how to do that. We teach the specifics of authoritative communication, which is the magic sauce.
    We also give specific examples of how to implement this framework. It will work for toddlers up to teens.
    The approach we teach is not rocket science – it is common sense! Listen in!
     
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    • 56 min
    Choose to Remember

    Choose to Remember

    Life feels heavy lately. COVID-19 cases continue to rise. Political tensions are escalating in the US. Divisiveness and contention are everywhere. It feels like many of our freedoms are on shaky ground. Fear, anger, and intolerance for differing viewpoints are rampant.
    Looking around at the dystopian world that has become our reality, I wonder If there is any rest for the weary. What will become of us? What will the world look like for our kids in the coming days?  And how can we prepare them to greet it with faith and courage and strength?
    Do our children know who they are and what they are here to do? Do they understand that they are courageous, determined, and strong? Do they realize that they are capable of being immovable in the face of growing darkness and fierce opposition? Do they know that standing up and standing out is what they were born to do?
    Do they know?
    It is HARD to teach those things when the winds of the world are reaching hurricane speeds. It is not easy or straightforward to convince our kids that they are more than meets the eye. More than the opinions of their peers. More than they can even imagine.
    And yet, we must. They must catch the vision of who they are and what they are here to do. They must believe in their goodness, their strength, and their ability.
     
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    • 19 min
    The Life-Changing Truth Many Parents Don't Understand

    The Life-Changing Truth Many Parents Don't Understand

    It is no secret that parenting is hard work. It is a huge responsibility to take a helpless infant and prepare them to be a functioning member of society. But it does not need to be the hardest thing you have done or will ever do in your life. While there will be difficult stages and problems that catch you off-guard, the overall experience can be relatively relaxed and joyful.
    What is the key to a relaxed child-rearing experience?
    Boundaries.
    Now, let me clarify. Setting boundaries is not easy. Enforcing them is even more difficult, especially when your kids push back (and they will!). But doing so will pave the way for calm seas ahead.
    When parents say what they mean and mean what they say, remaining consistent and refusing to bend when their kids test their resolve, kids learn to live comfortably within that framework. They learn to respect boundaries. They learn the art of self-discipline and eventually, stop testing the waters.
    At that point, the parents' job gets exponentially easier. They don't have to deal with the same problems over and over, day in and day out. Challenges will still arise because that is called life. But difficulties become a small part of the child-rearing experience rather than the substance of it.
    Listen in for all the details.
    Find show notes here.
    If you enjoy the podcast, I think you will also enjoy my free audio training: 3 Parenting Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make (and What to do Instead). Uplevel your parenting in a hurry by signing up today.
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    • 16 min
    How to Stay Calm When Your Child Misbehaves

    How to Stay Calm When Your Child Misbehaves

    The scenario: 
    Your child misbehaves, causing you frustration, disappointment, and even embarrassment. How do you stay calm? That is what we are tackling today. We've got a formula to help, and it looks something like this:
    1. Check your mindset
    2. Think through your reaction in advance
    3. Don't take the behavior personally
    4. Don't dish out consequences in anger
    5. Treat mistakes as opportunities to learn
     
    Find show notes here
     
    If you enjoy the podcast, I think you will also enjoy my free audio training: 3 Parenting Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make (and What to do Instead). Uplevel your parenting in a hurry by signing up today.
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    • 23 min
    End the Curfew Battle

    End the Curfew Battle

    While we are conservative about many things, our curfew policy is fairly liberal. It allows our teenagers a great deal of freedom, but also requires a hefty dose of responsibility. 
    The liberal approach that we explain in this episode has worked like a charm in our home. It has taught our teens to set appropriate boundaries and then, to live within them.
    Listen in for all the details.
     
    If you love the podcast, I know you will love my FREE audio training series: 3 Parenting Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make (and What to Do Instead). It will help you uplevel your parenting in a hurry. Sign up here.
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    • 15 min
    Why We Outlawed Video Games for Good

    Why We Outlawed Video Games for Good

    About ten years ago, we decided to get rid of the video game system that our kids bought with their own money. It was one of the best decisions we have ever made, and we will never get another one. 
    Listen in to hear about the experiences that led to our controversial decision, the research to support it, and how video games are contributing to a generation of unmotivated kids (especially boys).
     
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    • 19 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
32 Ratings

32 Ratings

Bosco323 ,

Thank you!

I wish I had this with my first child. I felt like a horrible mother, but I just had very emotional strong willed kids! So glad I found this! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

katydarling2 ,

Thank you!

I just had my second baby and found this podcast by listening to the Later-Day Lives podcast and it came on a very hard day. It has given my so much hope and I have learned so much! Sometimes it’s all new news and sometimes it is a very timely reminder but whatever the message, I’ve been so grateful.

He's spin ,

Such an insightful podcast!

I seriously love listening to this podcast! The Sheppards are so knowledgeable. I’ve been following Lynnette on Instagram for about a year and I’ve loved watching and learning from her insta stories. This podcast elaborates on the tips I’ve seen from her instagram and it’s helping me learn how to be the type of parent that I want to be one day. :)

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