TiLT Parenting, from parenting activist, speaker, and author Debbie Reber, features transformational interviews and conversations with authors, parenting experts, educators, and other parents aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently-wired kids (giftedness, ADHD, austim, 2e, learning differences, sensory processing issues, anxiety, and more). TiLT aims to help parents feel empowered and in choice in how they parent, have more peace in their daily lives, and parent and advocate for their child from a place of confidence and awareness so that our children can thrive in every way. https:/tiltparenting.com
TPP 072a: A Conversation with Debbie About About Her Homeschooling Curriculum and Schedule
This is the third installment in a series of solocasts specifically about homeschooling 2e children. I know many families of 2e and differently wired kids end up going down the homeschooling road, whether they’re reluctant homeschoolers and they felt “forced” into the decision because they ran out of other options or whether they knew they would homeschool from the moment their child was born. Whatever the case, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I share how Asher and I structure our school, what kind of classes he takes, how I figure out what he’s going to focus on, and what a typical school day looks like for us. I wanted to talk about these things because I know that designing a curriculum can be one of the most overwhelming pieces of this puzzle.
A quick note: If you haven’t already done so, I encourage you to listen to the two other solocast episodes I’ve done on homeschooling 2e children. In Episode 42 I talk about how I made the decision to homeschool even though I had a LOT of resistance to the idea, and in Episode 48, I talk about the actual transition to homeschooling … basically how we survived that first rocky year.
Debbie Reber, MA, is a parenting activist, bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded Tilt Parenting, a top resource for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in Kids & Family, with more than 4 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A certified Positive Discipline trainer and a regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired. In the summer of 2020, she co-created the Parenting in Place Masterclass series.
Things you’ll learn from this episode
How Debbie has worked with curriculum advisors in designing the game plan for Asher’s classesThe big role developing executive functioning skills plays in Asher’s curriculumWhy Debbie believes freedom and flexibility is one of the biggest benefits of homeschoolingHow Debbie has incorporated outside curriculums into her school approachHow Debbie supplements formal curriculum with videos, books, and experiential learningDebbie’s favorite resources for teaching, subject by subjectWhat a typical school day looks like for Debbie and AsherWhy Debbie believes it’s critical that Asher participate in the actual design of their schedule and curriculum
Resources mentioned for homeschooling 2e children
Kathi Kearney (curriculum advisor classes)Kristi Helgeson (curriculum advisor)Gifted Homeschooler’s ForumAthena’s Advanced AcademyYoga with Adrienne (YouTube channel)Life of FredSupport the show
TPP 304: Special Episode on Updated College Vetting & Admissions Process for Differently Wired Students
To close out this Summer season I’m bringing you a special double episode all about college, specifically, how families can navigate the application process and what’s changed since Covid, as well as understanding the ways in which colleges may, or may not, support their neurodivergent students and what families should be looking for when exploring potential schools.
In the first half of this episode, you’ll hear me talking with Eric Karlan, the co-founder of Ivy Experience, a company providing academic tutoring, standardized test preparation, and essay consulting services. Since 2010, Eric has consulted thousands of high school and graduate school students on their college and graduate school application essays and resumes across the country and around the world. He gave a TEDx Talk in 2018 called “What do I need to know about you?” inspired by his work brainstorming with students on their college application essays.
Eric and I talked about what’s different in the college admissions process today as a result of the Covid pandemic, and whether or not those changes are here to stay. Eric explains what “test-optional” and “test-blind” policies are and how they affect some students more than others, what schools are doing to bring in more diversity to their student body, and how students might choose to disclose their neurodivergence, disability, or other parts of their identities in their college application.
Then in the second half of the episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Hamblet, an expert in college disability services and helping neurodivergent high school students successfully transition to college. Elizabeth began her career as a high school special education teacher and then began working at the college level in the late 1990s. She is now at her third university, where she helps students with time management, organization, reading, and study skills. She offers programs on preparing students for successful college transition. Elizabeth’s newest book, Seven Steps to College Success: A Pathway for Students with Disabilities, will be out in early 2023.
In our conversation, Elizabeth and I talk about what kinds of services colleges may offer students, how to vett schools to find out what kinds of supports and accommodations may be available and how to access them, and what parents should consider when helping their differently wired young adult explore potential colleges.
Things you'll learn from this episode
How the college admission process has changed as a result of the COVID pandemicWhat it actually means when colleges declare they are “test-optional” or “test blind,” and how applicants should navigate decisions around submitting testsHow the young adult mental health is impacting students’ performance in high school, and how prospective colleges are considering those dipsWhat schools are doing to foster more diversity within their student body (race, gender, neurodiversity, etc.)Considerations surrounding whether or not a student should disclose their neurodivergence, disability, or other parts of their identities in their college applicationHow some universities have added expanded their disability and mental health services on campus in response to student’s needs since the pandemicWhat fee-based college disabilities programs are and how they can help students with unique learning needsFor more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session304
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TPP 039a: A Conversation with 12-year-old Asher About Goal Setting
In this special kid’s POV edition, Asher and I talk about having ADHD and goal setting, a topic near and dear to my heart, but also an issue we hear from parents about a lot. Asher is someone who always seems to have a lot of projects he’s working on and he sets often ambitious goals centered around those projects. Yet because of the way Ash is wired, he can often get distracted or derailed, which results in him being frustrated with himself.
I know a thing or two about goal setting — it’s actually the topic of a book I wrote for teen girls in 2015 called Doable, and so I am committed to using what I know about goals to help Asher learn how to successfully set and reach his own goals while also developing his planning, organizational, and time management skills. If you have kids with lots of ideas for things they’d like to do but seem to get stuck before they finish, or maybe even struggle to begin in the first place, this would be a good episode to listen to with them.
Debbie Reber is the founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting and the host of the TiLT Parenting Podcast. 11-year-old Asher is Debbie’s child and is regularly featured on the podcast.
Things you’ll learn from this episode
The connection between ADHD, executive functioning challenges, and goal planningAsher’s strategy for setting, measuring, and reaching goalsHow Asher uses both daily and weekly goal planning to keep him on trackWhat typically derails Asher when he’s pursuing a goalThe power of the daily check-inAsher’s tips for other kids looking to set and reach their personal goals
Resources mentioned for ADHD & goal setting
Debbie’s book Doable: The Girls’ Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything by Debbie ReberA Conversation with 11-year-old Asher About His Game-Changing Morning Routine (podcast)Understood.orgProductivity Planner from Intelligent ChangeDownload a copy of Asher’s Goal Planning WorksheetThe Color Run (series of 5k races)Support the show
TPP 303: Dr. Joseph Lee Talks About the Importance of SEL / Social and Emotional Learning
Have you ever wondered if SEL (social and emotional learning) in school and classrooms really matters? I’ve been exploring this question a lot about over the past year, as well trying to understand the recent increase in parental and political pushback in the US specifically that is putting the future of SEL in schools at risk.
I wanted to get into a deep conversation about SEL for the show, and so I reached out Dr. Joseph Lee, a psychiatrist with a special interest in social and emotional learning and helping people achieve what he calls optimal mental healthiness.
We had exactly the conversation I was hoping we would, as we got into so many important topics, including the state of children and young adult’s mental health today, demystifying what SEL or social emotional learning actually is, why SEL matters, how it’s best introduced in schools, the limitations in the current educational model for social emotional learning curriculums, what the pushback against SEL is really about, and what it’s at stake if our children aren’t provided with social and emotional learning opportunities. I think this is such an important and timely conversation – I hope that you enjoy it and that you help me amplify this episode by sharing it in your communities.
Dr. Joseph Lee, MD., is a Psychiatrist in private practice in Redondo Beach, California. He is also an educator in social and emotional learning (SEL) and provides individual and group supervision to licensed therapists looking to add mental healthiness and SEL principles to their own practices. Dr. Lee has a medical doctorate from University Of California, Los Angeles, School Of Medicine.
Things you'll learn from this episode
What Joseph Lee is seeing in his practice regarding and his thoughts on the state of children and young adult’s mental health todayWhat SEL or social emotional learning actually isWays that SEL can be weaved into traditional educational curriculum as well as the use of specific SEL curriculumWhat social and emotional learning inside schools looks like in practiceThe “why” behind the pushback against SEL in the recent years and what’s it’s at stake if we lose the ability to teach SEL in classrooms Resources mentioned for SEL or Social and Emotional Learning
Mental Healthiness / Dr. Joseph Lee’s websiteCollaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional LearningDr. Joseph Lee & Mental Healthiness on FacebookDr. Joseph Lee on TwitterDaniel GolemanEmotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel GolemanSocial Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships by Daniel GolemanU.S. Surgeon General Issues Advisory on Youth Mental Health Crisis Further Exposed by COVID-19 PandemicParenting the New Teen with Dr. John Duffy (Tilt Parenting Podcast episode)Support the show
TPP 038a: Dr. Jenna Flowers on How to Practice Conscious Coparenting
In this episode of the Tilt Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Jenna Flowers, a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and speaker, and the woman behind the fantastic new book, The Conscious Parent’s Guide to Coparenting: A Mindful Approach to Creating a Collaborative, Positive Parenting Plan.
Dr. Jenna’s book is aimed at helping parents who are no longer together design a healthy alliance and share their parenting responsibilities in a way that best supports their children. In our conversation, we talk about the extra considerations for those parenting differently-wired kids, kids for whom consistency and support is critical to their healthy emotional development. Dr. Jenna also explains how parents of atypical kids can foster a structured, supportive environment in both homes, as well as shares her advice for things parents can do right now to strengthen their relationship with their co-parent, whether together or apart.
Dr. Jenna Flowers is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Author, and Speaker. She completed her undergraduate studies at the University of Michigan. She then graduated with her MA in Spiritual Psychology from the prestigious University of Santa Monica, and Doctoral Degree in Psychology from the professional psychology school American Behavioral Studies Institute. Upon completing her Marriage and Family Therapy licensing board examinations in 2006, she has been in private practice in Newport Beach, California.
Things you’ll learn from this episode
What exactly conscious coparenting isThe importance of repairing hurts from our childhood in order to become more present with our own childrenHow to help a child not take on responsibility or blame for their parents’ breakupWhat to do when both parents aren’t on the same pageWhat a designed alliance with a coparent actually looks like
Resources mentioned for conscious coparenting
Dr. Jenna Flowers’ personal websiteThe Conscious Parent’s Guide to Coparenting by Dr. Jenna FlowersBrene BrownSamantha EttusParenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Dr. Dan SiegelConscious Mothering CurriculumHow Positive Discipline Can Help Children Thrive, with Casey O’Roarty of Joyful Courage (Tilt Parenting Podcast)What it Takes to Live a Healthy, Fulfilled Life as Mother to a Differently-Wired Kid, with Samantha Ettus (Tilt Parenting Podcast)The Gottman Institute: Softening Start-UpSupport the show
TPP 302: Online Learning & the Future of Education with Outschool Founder Amir Nathoo
In this conversation with Outschool co-founder and CEO Amir Nathoo, we discuss alternative education models and why they’re so critical in preparing all kids for the future, as well as get an inside look into the mission and vision for Outschool, learn more about they successfully create community through virtual classes, ways in which classes are designed to support students with different learning styles and much more.
If this conversation sparks you to explore and enroll in classs at Outschool classes, be sure to use the code TILT to get a $20 credit towards your first class.
Amir Nathoo is CEO of Outschool, a marketplace for live online classes for K-12 learners. Amir worked at Square, leading the development of Square Payroll. Previously, he served as CEO and co-founder of Trigger.io, a development platform for creating native mobile apps. He holds an MEng in Electrical and Information Sciences from The University of Cambridge. Amir lives in San Francisco with his wife Kirsty and their two children.
Things you'll learn from this episode
How Outschool grew through COVID and how online learning has changed in the past 2 yearsHow alternative ways of learning are helping prepare our kids for the futureThe crucial part that community plays into Outschool’s platform and what they offer to familiesHow Outschool supports different types of learners and why it has attracted neurodivergent learners from the startHow Outschool finds and onboards teachers and how they develop their classesAmir’s tips for parents on vetting online learning programs to determine if they are right for your child/renResources mentioned for Outschool and Online Learning
OutschoolDr. Joseph Lee Talks About the Importance of SEL / Social and Emotional Learning (podcast episode)Dr. Joseph LeeHow to Prepare Differently Wired Kids for an Uncharted FutureMatt Barnes on Embracing a New 21st Century Learning Model Nurturing Creativity to Help Children Thrive, with Terry Roberts The G Word documentary
For more info, visit: https://www.tiltparenting.com/session302
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This podcast has consistently offered invaluable information and support as I try to parent my two differently wired children as thoughtfully as possible. I’m grateful to Debbie for her hard work and dedication on behalf of our community.
An amazing resource for parents and professionals working with neurodiverse kids!
I am so grateful to have found it and look forward to more episodes (after I finish binge listening to the archives)!
So grateful for this podcast.
For every parent that’s felt extra alone in their journey, the wealth of resources and knowledge shared here will be so welcome and comforting to learn about. I am glad beyond words to have discovered this podcast. Thank you so much Debbie Reber for what you do.