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Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

Bare Marriage Sheila Gregoire

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.7 • 986 Ratings

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

    Episode 228: How Our Stories Influence Our Marriage Choices feat. Natalie Hoffman

    Episode 228: How Our Stories Influence Our Marriage Choices feat. Natalie Hoffman

    Natalie Hoffman joins us today to talk about her INCREDIBLE memoir All the Scary Little Gods. Natalie escaped an abusive marriage, and now coaches other women in similar situations.  In her memoir, she invites us to listen to the story from the point of view of Little Natalie, and using IFS (Internal Family Systems) to see it from all of her parts. And as we understand our stories, we make it so that we won't recreate the problems.

    To Support Us:
    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Links We Mentioned:
    Natalie Hoffman’s book All the Scary Little GodsNatalie’s website Flying Free, and her Flying Free podcastThe first podcast Natalie did with me–how Christian books made me stay in an abusive marriageNatalie joined us on our podcast about the book Lies Women BelieveRichard Schwartz' book No Bad PartsJenna Riemersma's book on IFS Altogether You
    Future Speaking Events:
    Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.
    More information here. 
    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:
    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    • 1 hr 6 min
    Episode 227: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism? We Respond to Critics

    Episode 227: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism? We Respond to Critics

    So many people resist admitting that they are actually egalitarians, because they think they have to be complementarian--even if they don't act like it. Today Sheila and her husband Keith dissect the arguments that are often used to say "we're really complementarian"--even when they're objectively not. And we invite people instead to preach what they practice.

    To Support Us:
    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcast:
    The Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood's statementOur podcast with Nancy Pearcey where we explain how  complementarians act as egalitariansThe interview with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Robert Wolgemuth The Great Sex Rescue, with our findings about decision-makingRebecca Groothuis' article about equalityJonathan Leeman's article (and video) about a husband's authorityResources about the Biblical Argument for Equality:
    Marg Mowczko's site--amazing short articles on virtually every bible passage about gender. Our podcast with Philip Payne, and his book The Bible vs. Biblical WomanhoodTerran Williams' book How God Sees WomenTerran Williams' series refuting Mike Winger's videosJulie Zine Coleman's book On Purpose Future Speaking Events:
    Grand Rapids, MI: Sheila and Rebecca will be at Calvin University on March 13 and 14 . March 13 at 4:30; March 13 at 7 pm for a panel discussion; and March 14 at 7 pm. More details here.

    Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! March 23, 2:30-4:30 pm. Q&A, crafts with toxic books, and more.
    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:
    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    • 1 hr 4 min
    Episode 226: What We've Learned 3 Years After Great Sex Rescue

    Episode 226: What We've Learned 3 Years After Great Sex Rescue

    The Great Sex Rescue turns 3 this week! And it's been a super eventful three years. So much has changed. So let's talk about the feedback we've had, what we've done since, what people are saying--and where we're going from here.

    To Support Us:
    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcast:
    The Great Sex Rescue!  Learn more, or get it right from Amazon.Our Healthy Sexuality Rubric where we scored the books we looked at for The Great Sex Rescue.The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to tell others about our findingsOur podcast where we discussed how the authors we critiqued had responded to The Great Sex Rescue.The article on Julie Roys' site about Focus on the Family deleting comments on the Reel where Juli Slattery used our talking points. Juli Slattery's reel on Focus on the Family's Instagram pageThe Bodies Behind the Bus podcast where Joy tells her story about The Great Sex Rescue (we're near the end) (and here's part 2!)Future Speaking Events:
    Grand Rapids, MI: Sheila and Rebecca will be at Calvin University on March 13 and 14 . March 13 at 4:30; March 13 at 7 pm for a panel discussion; and March 14 at 7 pm. More details here.

    Belleville, ON: St. Thomas Anglican Church in Belleville, Ontario is throwing a party for us to celebrate The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better! We'll have blackout poetry crafts and other paper crafts to do with toxic books (bring them along!), a silent auction, a Q&A, and more. March 23, 2:30 - 5:00 pm. All welcome.


    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:
    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    • 1 hr 9 min
    Episode 225: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?

    Episode 225: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?

    Would our reaction to Christian marriage advice change if we realize how many people who write that advice are actually in abusive or destructive marriages? What if people in those marriages are more drawn to write marriage advice to process how they're feeling?

    Today we look at two different women that Focus on the Family have held up to be emulated. One is a woman who has written prolifically for them, and when you look at her articles and what she reveals about her relationship, a TON of red flags are present. The other is a woman whose husband was jailed for domestic violence, but then she prayed, he repented, and now they lead Love & Respect seminars together. And Focus on the Family thinks this is a positive message.

    Today Sheila Gregoire is joined by her husband Keith and by abuse educator Sarah McDugal.

    To Support Us:
    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store! Things Mentioned in the Podcast:
    The article in the Revealer about Elisabeth Elliot's marriageMy article detailing Focus on the Family's Facebook post praising the man who was jailed for domestic violence, as well as the letter I sent to Jim DalyMy article on TradWife influencers and my concern for themOur podcast on Power of a Praying WifeOur one sheet download on Love & RespectFocus on the Family's article "It's the Little Things"Our Open Letter to Focus on the FamilyFind Sarah McDugal:
    Follow Sarah on FacebookFind her at Wilderness to WildJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:
    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    • 56 min
    Episode 224: Lies Women Believe Part 2: Is God a Monster?

    Episode 224: Lies Women Believe Part 2: Is God a Monster?

    Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth taught concerning things about shame, trauma, and even what God is like. On today's podcast, we're joined by Becky Castle Miller, a doctoral student looking at emotions in the Bible, and Helen Blake, a licensed counselor in Sydney, Australia, to discuss some of the damaging teachings--and point us to a Jesus who understands and sympathizes with our struggles.

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    To Support Us:
    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store! 
    Our Downloadable Onesheet:
    Download our One Sheet on Lies Women Believe, looking at the problems with the book

    Other Things We Talked About:
    Last week's podcast on Part 1 of Lies Women BelieveFind Becky Castle Miller on InstagramScot McKnight's book King Jesus Gospel



    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:
    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    • 1 hr 16 min
    Episode 223: The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

    Episode 223: The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

    Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth is one of the most popular women’s bible study books used in churches across North America. But what does the book actually teach about marriage? About sex? About divorce and abuse? It’s scary, and today Gretchen Baskerville and Natalie Hoffman join host Sheila Wray Gregoire to analyze the harmful messages in Lies Women Believe.

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    To Support Us:
    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
    Or, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation

    Our Downloadable Onesheet:
    Download our One Sheet on Lies Women Believe:

    Natalie Hoffman's Information:
    Natalie’s Podcast Flying Free, and her website
    Natalie Hoffman’s book Is It Me: Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage

    Gretchen Baskerville's Information:
    Gretchen Baskerville’s site The Lifesaving Divorce:
    Gretchen Baskerville’s YouTube channel:
    Gretchen’s book The Lifesaving Divorce

    Other Resources
    Our podcast on The Power of  a Praying Wife (featuring Gretchen):
    Our podcast telling Natalie’s story:
    Our book She Deserves Better, which deals with Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ book Lies Young Women Believe: 
    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

    Check out her books:
    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    • 1 hr 28 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
986 Ratings

986 Ratings

Sheri&1 ,

Great podcast!

This is a great podcast! It’s just hard to listen to sometimes when Keith is on with Sheila and he is interrupting A LOT and sounds very upset and not calm while he’s expressing himself like Sheila does. But it is still a very thoughtful and helpful podcast from Sheila Way Gregoire.

LDoodle09 ,

False teaching & unloving

Sheila has said that she cares about women who have been hurt by the church but I have seen her attack women countless times on her platforms simply for believing a different biblical marriage model than her. As believers, we are the church, so Sheila is actually doing what she says she is so passionate about undoing. She tears women apart…their personal faith, their marriage and even their children. It’s inexcusable to be so hateful to anyone just because they have a marriage that looks different from your own. Go check out her blog. That is where I have seen the nastiest of comments from her.

Outside of the hypocrisy mentioned above, the amount of unbiblical things that she is teaching as biblical is outrageous. To name a few here…according to Sheila homosexual marriage can be pleasing to God because two people love eachother, the Bible in its entirety is about us doing the right thing, and if you just put your faith in the right model of marriage your sin issues will all go away.

Sheila says all the time to see the fruit…I see it and I hope others have the eyes to see too that it is rotten.

mia grace loren ,

Great podcast

I have been married for almost a year and was incredibly blessed to have some of the ladies at my church share “The Great Sex Rescue” book and the podcast with me and I am so grateful! I grew up believing a lot of the lies about marriage and sex thinking they were normal and biblical. I would actually argue with my then fiancé about how sex should work and the “biblical” roles of husband and wife because of the lies I believed. My husbands views aligned a lot more with what this podcast teaches which I am now very thankful that we both have a right view of sex and that it something BOTH of us need to enjoy. It is still something we are working through because it is not as easy as flipping a switch but I am thankful we can start off our marriage on the right foot!

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