231 episodes

More Impact | Stronger Relationships | Better Sex



Your pragmatic guide to relationships, sex, and purpose in the 21st century



Featuring Rob Kandell as your host/coach/best-friend-you-never-knew-you-had, Tuff Love is a grab-bag of rants, listener Q&A’s, and captivating interviews with experts on everything from money-management to intimate touching.

Tuff Love with Robert Kandell Robert Kandell

    • Self-Improvement
    • 4.6, 44 Ratings

More Impact | Stronger Relationships | Better Sex



Your pragmatic guide to relationships, sex, and purpose in the 21st century



Featuring Rob Kandell as your host/coach/best-friend-you-never-knew-you-had, Tuff Love is a grab-bag of rants, listener Q&A’s, and captivating interviews with experts on everything from money-management to intimate touching.

    254: Men in the Time of Coronavirus with Adam Gilad

    254: Men in the Time of Coronavirus with Adam Gilad

    Adam Gilad is an independent educator, writer and life adventurer, devoted to creating learning programs, films, books and live workshops that awaken, delight, provoke, connect and inspire. The goal of each of his programs and trainings: for each of us to love more fully, laugh more deeply, feel more sensually and live our gifts to awaken ourselves and others into deep engagement and awakening to every precious passing moment of our lives.



    2:30 - Adam’s experience of 2020 so far

    9:19 - The impact on children

    11:23 - Men in Coronavirus

    16:35 - A call for balance, Black Lives Matter, and the rise of listening

    25:18 - Being in relationships with differences

    29:51 - The Bold Life Brotherhood



    Find Adam at:

    www.TheBoldLifeBrotherhood.com

    As well as:

    Instagram:

    www.instagram.com/RealAdamGilad

    And Email:

    IAmAdamGilad@gmail.com



    Don't forget to grab your copy of the Amazon bestseller unHidden: A Book For Men and Those Confused by Them. It's your easy-to-understand at-home guide to Robert’s living unHidden Framework. Get your copy today by visiting www.robertkandell.com/order



    OR, grab your free audio section of the book if you want to take it for a spin before you buy. And we promise this is NOT like movie trailers where they grab all the best pieces. Unhidden is pure relationship gold https://robertkandell.com/freeaudio



    Get More of Robert at:

    www.RobertKandell.com

    As well as:

    www.youtube.com/channel/UCA4BLzufNXxgKGUsLVDTnlQ



    Follows us at:

    www.facebook.com/robert.kandell

    www.instagram.com/robert.kandell/



    Join the living unhidden Facebook group

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    • 37 min
    253: What It Means To Be A Woman Today with Anna Rova

    253: What It Means To Be A Woman Today with Anna Rova

    Femininity & Feminine Embodiment Coach Anna Rova is on a mission to help successful women attract and keep masculine men. She runs a powerful group coaching program called "Claimed" that helps women embody their feminine essence fully and get into the best position to attract a partner that will consciously and eagerly play the masculine pole of the polarity spectrum



    Writer, podcaster, yoga instructor, and location-independent entrepreneur, Anna is the founder of Girlskill – an online coaching company empowering women to connect to their femininity and understand men through various stories of women around the world and personal revelations.



    Together with her husband, Anna has traveled the world being on the road full-time building her coaching practice, writing her personal blog, recording episodes on Girlskill Podcast, practicing yoga, and spreading love and positivity. In December 2018, Anna gave birth to her first child and is currently residing in Australia continuing to coach women all over the world.



    2:09 - Anna’s work and an overview of three lies about female success

    4:15 - Recent changes that have led to the current state of being for women

    8:18 - Previous gender roles

    12:13 - Men not stepping up to the level of empowered women

    15:54 - Gender roles in media

    22:48 - Evolutionary psychology

    28:03 - Monogamy and men’s drive away from it

    30:48 - Three lies about female success in-depth

    31:17 - Lie 1: Women can and should do it all

    35:01 - Lie 2: Feminine power is in independence and strength

    37:17 - Lie 3: Femininity is weakness



    Find Anna at:

    https://girlskill.com

    As well as her webinar on How to Start Attracting Committed Masculine Men by Releasing Control & Letting Him Lead:

    https://girlskill.com/webinar

    And her Instagram:

    www.instagram.com/annarova



    Don't forget to grab your copy of the Amazon bestseller unHidden: A Book For Men and Those Confused by Them. It's your easy-to-understand at-home guide to Robert’s living unHidden Framework. Get your copy today by visiting www.robertkandell.com/order



    OR, grab your free audio section of the book if you want to take it for a spin before you buy. And we promise this is NOT like movie trailers where they grab all the best pieces. Unhidden is pure relationship gold https://robertkandell.com/freeaudio



    Get More of Robert at:

    www.RobertKandell.com

    As well as:

    www.youtube.com/channel/UCA4BLzufNXxgKGUsLVDTnlQ



    Follows us at:

    www.facebook.com/robert.kandell

    www.instagram.com/robert.kandell/



    Join the living unhidden Facebook group

    www.facebook.com/groups/unhidden/

    • 43 min
    252: Rob Rant: It’s Okay Not To Know

    252: Rob Rant: It’s Okay Not To Know

    In this week's episode, Rob rants about the large array of uncertainty across the world and in his own life during this time. Rob explores COVID, Black Lives Matter, the economic and political situation in the USA, as well as his relationship with his father and life partner. He outlines how while it’s okay not to know, it shouldn’t stop you: do the internal work to know yourself and all aspects of your being.



    3:23 - My superpowers

    6:37 - Things Rob doesn’t have certainty around

    8:52 - Black Lives Matter

    12:44 - The economic and political situation in the USA

    15:07 - Rob’s dad’s death

    18:25 - His relationship with Morgan

    19:57 - Staying conscious

    22:12 - Surrender versus acquiescence: know thyself

    23:16 - Being okay with what is



    Don't forget to grab your copy of the Amazon bestseller unHidden: A Book For Men and Those Confused by Them. It's your easy-to-understand at-home guide to Robert’s living unHidden Framework. Get your copy today by visiting www.robertkandell.com/order



    OR, grab your free audio section of the book if you want to take it for a spin before you buy. And we promise this is NOT like movie trailers where they grab all the best pieces. Unhidden is pure relationship gold https://robertkandell.com/freeaudio



    Get More of Robert at:

    www.RobertKandell.com

    As well as:

    www.youtube.com/channel/UCA4BLzufNXxgKGUsLVDTnlQ



    Follows us at:

    www.facebook.com/robert.kandell

    www.instagram.com/robert.kandell/



    Join the living unhidden Facebook group

    www.facebook.com/groups/unhidden/

    • 25 min
    251: FLAUNT Yourself with Lora Cheadle

    251: FLAUNT Yourself with Lora Cheadle

    Lora Cheadle is a transformational thought leader and media personality who empowers women to express themselves fully, find uninhibited joy, and gracefully take the lead in the dance of life despite any external circumstances. She is the author of the bestselling book FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self that is available wherever books are sold. Listen to her podcast or find out more at www.loracheadle.com where you can download your free Bundle of JOY gift pack.



    1:47 - Acknowledging the outcries following George Floyd’s death

    5:20 - Who is Lora?

    8:51 - Life choreographer

    13:09 - Fears dictating one’s life

    17:01 - Being curious about life’s difficulties

    19:36 - Dealing with infidelity

    22:13 - Working with Lora: FLAUNT

    29:41 - Why “Finding Your Fetish”?

    32:36 - Working towards Accepting Unconditionally

    36:14 - Undoing false beliefs



    Find Lora at:

    LoraCheadle.com

    Facebook:

    www.facebook.com/LifeChoreographer/

    Instagram:

    www.instagram.com/LoraCheadle/

    Her Bundle of Joy Gift Pack:

    https://loracheadle.com/bundle-of-joy/

    As well as her FLAUNT Flock Facebook Group:

    www.facebook.com/groups/FlauntFlock/



    Don't forget to grab your copy of the Amazon bestseller unHidden: A Book For Men and Those Confused by Them. It's your easy-to-understand at-home guide to Robert’s living unHidden Framework. Get your copy today by visiting www.robertkandell.com/order



    OR, grab your free audio section of the book if you want to take it for a spin before you buy. And we promise this is NOT like movie trailers where they grab all the best pieces. Unhidden is pure relationship gold https://robertkandell.com/freeaudio



    Get More of Robert at:

    www.RobertKandell.com

    As well as:

    www.youtube.com/channel/UCA4BLzufNXxgKGUsLVDTnlQ



    Follows us at:

    www.facebook.com/robert.kandell

    www.instagram.com/robert.kandell/



    Join the living unhidden Facebook group

    www.facebook.com/groups/unhidden/

    • 42 min
    250: The Power of Polarity in Relationships with Arielle Brown

    250: The Power of Polarity in Relationships with Arielle Brown

    In this episode, Rob welcomes long-time friend and colleague Arielle Brown to discuss the premise for the workshop that they held on June 17th 2020.



    Arielle describes the workshop as follows:

    “The degree of power and influence we have in our life is directly related to the amount of sensation we can hold in our body. Similarly, the level of ability we have to create real, authentic connection in our lives is directly related to our ability to hold polarity within our body. To "hold polarity", in my definition, means to be able to hold (at least) two perspectives, truths, or belief systems within our awareness that seem to DIRECTLY conflict with each other. The cultivation of holding polarity is a practice in personal mastery, because in a world that has taught us to believe that being "right" is what creates safety, allowing ourselves to consider and hold a perspective that directly challenges our belief systems is a great threat to our (Ego) identity. Robert Kandell and I have built much of our respective bodies of work around intimacy, sexuality, communication, and human relating, on the premise that true safety is based on our ability to be CONNECTED in our relationships, rather than being RIGHT.”



    3:09 - The motivation for Rob and Arielle’s workshop

    6:43 - Being honest with your partner and yourself

    11:23 - Different speeds of evolution in relationships

    13:36 - Doing inner work and how it affects relationships

    16:48 - What is distortion?

    17:56 - Jealousy and polarity

    23:24 - Why did Rob start this work?

    30:17 - What do men need?

    32:53 - Women holding space for men

    36:04 - The impact of shifts in relationships on sex

    41:19 - Their workshop



    To get a flavor of what was covered, check out these videos:



    What Does it Mean When Something Is Polarizing?:

    https://www.facebook.com/intimacycatalyst/videos/10100351890081729/



    Polarity Workshop Teaser with Arielle & Rob:

    https://www.facebook.com/robert.kandell/videos/10158476129750522/UzpfSTQ3ODAxMzI2OjEwMTAwMzU0NjUwNjA5NjA5/



    Find Arielle at:

    www.ArielleBrown.com



    Don't forget to grab your copy of the Amazon bestseller unHidden: A Book For Men and Those Confused by Them. It's your easy-to-understand at-home guide to Robert’s living unHidden Framework. Get your copy today by visiting www.robertkandell.com/order



    OR, grab your free audio section of the book if you want to take it for a spin before you buy. And we promise this is NOT like movie trailers where they grab all the best pieces. Unhidden is pure relationship gold https://robertkandell.com/freeaudio



    Get More of Robert at:

    www.RobertKandell.com

    As well as:

    www.youtube.com/channel/UCA4BLzufNXxgKGUsLVDTnlQ



    Follows us at:

    www.facebook.com/robert.kandell

    www.instagram.com/robert.kandell/



    Join the living unhidden Facebook group

    www.facebook.com/groups/unhidden/

    • 43 min
    249: Pain Into Pleasure with Aimee Batuski

    249: Pain Into Pleasure with Aimee Batuski

    While Aimee spent her first two years out of college building a career in corporate Manhattan, it quickly became clear to her that her passion was wilder than that. She packed her apartment and shipped herself all the way across the country to Los Angeles, where everything in her life as she knew it made a complete 180… except her love life.



    Without a job or an income, she found a home with her friends, hired her first Life Coach, and started building her own business. On paper, her life was shaping up, but she found she was still struggling to feel good in her skin and find romance. When a friend invited her to a transformational course about intimacy and orgasm, she was terrified. But she knew it was the next step for her - she was desperate to learn anything that could turn things around for her sex life.



    Within six months, her entire life was unrecognizable. Learning to live from her desire absolutely changed her experience of herself. For the first time, she was finally loving her body, living less in her head and feeling more connected to her intuition. She started meeting great men, and having deep, meaningful relationships, AND connected, pleasurable sex. She had to share what she'd learned, and before long, she was sharing the work with all her friends and clients. She learned that her new commitment to living life pleasurably was a professional passion too.



    In the years since she moved here, she’s coached successful women from entrepreneurs to mothers, artists, C-Suite executives and even other coaches across the country. she’s given talks to major organizations, led retreats internationally, and she’s only just begun. In saying yes, she finally discovered self-development work that wasn't only focused on her career or other relationships (I had that stuff mastered); there was a whole world to explore around her desire, intimacy, and connection with others. After that initial course, she fully immersed herself in trainings and retreats all centred around sexuality, eroticism, relationships and desire.



    Today, she wants to find out how she can help you fall in love with yourself and your life as much as she has. Don't waste another day feeling uncomfortable in your skin, feeling disconnected in your romantic life, or having unfulfilling sex!



    4:53 - Her journey

    6:56 - Not trusting men

    9:59 - Weakened sexuality

    12:22 - Being conscious on dating apps

    15:25 - Pleasure is not just sex

    18:17 - Self-pleasure as a practice

    21:59 - Sexual experiences and processing resentment to men

    28:20 - Breaking out of the loop of unconscious dating and sexuality

    32:14 - Techniques for finding pleasure in everyday life



    Find Aimee at:

    www.AimeeBatuski.com



    As well as her Instagram:

    www.instagram.com/AimeeBatuski



    The Turned on Tribe - Desire On Fire Community:

    www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire



    Instagram:

    www.instagram.com/DesireOnFire



    Don't forget to grab your copy of the Amazon bestseller unHidden: A Book For Men and Those Confused by Them. It's your easy-to-understand at-home guide to Robert’s living unHidden Framework. Get your copy today by visiting www.robertkandell.com/order



    OR, grab your free audio section of the book if you want to take it for a spin before you buy. And we promise this is NOT like movie trailers where they grab all the best pieces. Unhidden is pure relationship gold https://robertkandell.com/freeaudio



    Get More of Robert at:

    www.RobertKandell.com

    As well as:

    www.youtube.com/channel/UCA4BLzufNXxgKGUsLVDTnlQ



    Follows us at:

    www.facebook.com/robert.kandell

    www.instagram.com/robert.kandell/



    Join the living unhidden Facebook group

    www.facebook.com/groups/unhidden/

    • 40 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
44 Ratings

44 Ratings

Sass1613 ,

Must listen for ALL men!

As a former special operations operator it is difficult for me want to take pointers from another man who doesn’t have my experience. But reading Roberts book and listening to his podcast I have learned to challenge that ego a hear the amazing value he brings! His tools and techniques have helped to make me a better man and husband! Thank you Robert!

KittyQB ,

Thank You!!

I absolutely love the subject matter of this podcast and Rob is so wise and relatable. The guest speakers are insightful and provide important perspectives as well. Every person would benefit from listening to this podcast and internalizing its advice!

BobSchwenkler ,

Rob is amazing

I love his energy and his insight. He's a very powerful dude.

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