UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray

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🚀 What if changing your life was as simple as asking better questions? Welcome to UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement—the podcast that challenges the status quo and helps you create a life you truly love.  Each episode is not a directive, but a doorway—an invitation to rethink, unlearn, and step into your power. If you’ve ever felt stuck, lost, or like there’s more to life, this is your space. 👑 Hosted by Mel Gray—aka Coach Mummabear—a Scottish lassie turned lawyer, #1 bestselling author, award-winning speaker, and master-certified professional coach. From battling childhood cancer with her son, moving across the world, building a nonprofit, adopting, getting sober and redefining success—Melissa’s story is proof that asking the right questions can change everything. 💡 In this podcast, you’ll discover: ✔ How to challenge limiting beliefs & rewrite your story ✔ Conversations with bold thinkers, game-changers & leaders ✔ Real talk about relationships, resilience & reinvention ✔ Tactical strategies to UnFollow what’s holding you back 🎧 New episodes drop Friday 9am EST—hit FOLLOW so you never miss an insight that could change your life. One.LIFE. What are you gonna do with it?

  1. Season 17 Episode 15: UnFollow Perfectionism

    FEB 5

    Season 17 Episode 15: UnFollow Perfectionism

    Send us a text THE WORK Follow Start Before You Are Ready The three thought errors I keep having right now are:Three thought resets to those thoughts are:I define perfectionism as:I see my perfectionism is holding me back in these 3 areas:I can see I am procrastinating in these 3 areas:One area I plan to focus on for the next year is:The one thing I plan to Start Before I am Ready is:The first step I will take to start that one thing is:I will begin the one thing ___________________date, timeList three times you have done something someone suggested without questioning it.What will you do next time and why?Next time someone metaphorically tells you to go home, what will you do?Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray."

    38 min
  2. Season 17 Episode 14: UnFollow Failure

    11/14/2025

    Season 17 Episode 14: UnFollow Failure

    Send us a text THE WORK Follow Winning or Learning “The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” —Henry Ford Think of a time you felt like you failed:         How could you thought reset that so-called failure into          a win? How do you define winning?How do you define learning?My messy middle is: Describe the things you will learn from your messy middle:My favorite way I want my messy middle to conclude is:At the conclusion of my messy middle, I want to feel:I plan to show up for my messy middle like:What would my life coach tell me today about my messy middle?My “To Be Continued” is:If I did know how my “To Be Continued” would end, it would be:Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."

    22 min
  3. Season 17 Episode 13: UnFollow Boundary Blowups

    09/12/2025

    Season 17 Episode 13: UnFollow Boundary Blowups

    Send us a text Join the WhatsApp group here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/GHQ8LajRllK3Aj8PkVC3m0 Join the Zoom here: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87930066143 THE WORK Follow Boundary Blessings “Sometimes the most loving thing you can say is no.” —Melody Beattie Check your texts, what patterns do you see?How could you honor your boundaries in responding to requests for your time?List 3 responses or ways you will share your boundaries:List 5 bylaws for your life, based on your values:Write down a response that you fear hearing when you share your boundary.Create a script for how you plan to respond when you feel your boundaries are being disrespected.What conversation am I avoiding that will result in a boundary blowup, if not handled soon?Who could I role-play this through with, before I have the conversation?If I were writing a script about this, what would I say?What’s one step I could take today to move toward sharing my boundaries?List 3 things that would stop you from sharing your boundary.List one boundary sharing that would change your entire life.List the boundary blessings that could come with this.Set a date and time to share a boundary.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."

    15 min
  4. Season 17 Episode 12: UnFollow Parent Pleasing

    09/05/2025

    Season 17 Episode 12: UnFollow Parent Pleasing

    Send us a text Join the WhatsApp group here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/GHQ8LajRllK3Aj8PkVC3m0 Join the Zoom here: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87930066143 THE WORK Follow Your Inner Knowing “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” —Steve Jobs What quiet nudge inside you needs to be a ROAR? What could you do to make your eight-year-old and eighty-year-old self proud?What areas of your life do you need to tell your eight- year-old inner child to sit down and that you’ve got this?The Power of the Post-it: What goals can you write like they’re already done and put on a Post-it to keep in plain sight? What do they say?What do you need to UnFollow in spite of people, not to spite people?Whose disapproval scares you the most?What does your favorite version of you say to your parents?What does your favorite version of your life sound like?Write your intentions around this work. Example: Intention—I am willing to sit in the uncomfortable process to UnFollow in order to get comfortable with my inner knowing.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."

    21 min
  5. Season 17 Episode 11: UnFollow Martyrdom Mountain

    05/23/2025

    Season 17 Episode 11: UnFollow Martyrdom Mountain

    Send us a text THE WORK Follow the Path to an EMPOWERED.Life UnFollow the path to Martyrdom Mountain and head back down to an island I like to call an EMPOWERED.Life. A Mum And... means: who are you when you are not being a Mum. Who are you?What decision have you made, knowing accolades will come from others?How do you define success?On a scale of 1-10 how happy are you?What is one thing you could do that would grade you higher on the happy scale?List all the challenging things that have happened to you in your ONE.Life and how they are keeping you on up on Martyrdom Mountain.Pick one thing that you will work on this year to help you walk back down the mountain to an EMPOWERED.Life.List questions that get you excited about your life. Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."

    18 min
  6. Season 17 Episode 10: UnFollow Fix All the Trauma

    05/20/2025

    Season 17 Episode 10: UnFollow Fix All the Trauma

    Send us a text THE WORK Follow Break Generational Trauma, One Trauma at a Time “Healing is a daily event. You can’t ‘go somewhere’ to be healed: you must go inward to be healed. This means a daily commitment to doing the work.” —Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist Our purpose is not to create a perfect life for our kids or our people. It is to show our humanness and to raise our kids to know they are deeply loved by their deeply imperfect parents. And to show our people we are flawed humans who are doing the best with what we know, right now. Our work is to become aware of our traumas and triggers and the impacts they can have, if unchecked, and then to decide which ones have the biggest impact on our people. Have you ever met an adult with no issues? No parent issues or people-pleasing, boundary issues or control issues? Me, neither... Not sure I want to or need to, either. What if, each year, we focused on different parts of ourselves instead of tackling all our trauma and hoping we can be perfect for those close to us? It can be so overwhelming, when you begin work in your life with a coach, mentor, therapist, guide, or pastor. Instead, pick one thing, and focus on that! Shift that! Grow in that area! This year, my big focus will be:While I am doing this for me, I know ____________________________ will also be hugely impacted.The reason I choose this for my yearly goal is:When I feel like I am not making real progress, I will pay attention to mini-magical moments by:Actions I will take include:My triggers around this trauma are:I want to show up for my people in the following way: By showing my people my human, imperfect side, I am giving them a gift of: Focusing on one per year will shift the all-or-nothing thinking. It will calm the inner rebel and also UnFollow that “in order to be great humans, we must be healed” false narrative. More of us talking about what we are healing, and why, is how we collectively change and encourage others. Through bravery and belief, not shame and perfectionism. It is only by living we truly heal! So, let’s live, lassies and lads, and show our imperfect selves as we do it. Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."

    16 min
  7. Season 17 Episode 8: UnFollow Bullying our Bodies

    04/04/2025

    Season 17 Episode 8: UnFollow Bullying our Bodies

    Send us a text THE WORK Follow Learning to Love our Bodies “Your body hears everything your mind says.” —Naomi Judd What if we stopped allowing our brains to bully our bodies? “I love my body” doesn’t mean I have to like everything about it. But it does mean I stop my brain from bullying her. Enter this work thinking of your future self, your favorite version of yourself, the one who doesn’t bully her body every day. The one who speaks kindly to her body and doesn’t judge her or others. When you get excited about that version, only then begin asking all the questions. Questioning everything with excitement is a method for living. It’s where we choose to not only heal, but live. It’s where we decide to not only think but do! Your body loves you. She has proven this time and time again. Now, show her some love by healing some open wounds you still have. This work helps you to UnFollow society defining what our body should look like and making the decision you will define it! Year after year, we criticize our bodies, and it hasn’t changed anything; so, it’s time to change the status quo and, instead, do the work and Follow learning to love our bodies. This is your reminder that you do not need to love every part of your body in order to be kind to it. What if you begin this work by treating your body the way you hope your daughter treats hers, the way you pray your son treats his? Sometimes, the thought of loving our bodies is too far-fetched; but imagining it’s your daughter’s, your mother’s, your best friend’s, that changes your mindset and leads you on the path of healing. List all the things your body has done for you. Don’t stop until you get to at least twenty.Write a letter to your body, apologizing for the way you have bullied it, including the things you have made her miss out on. Then, burn it!UnFollowing all the abuse you did to her requires you to replace it with a new following. Write a letter on how you plan to treat her, going forward. How you plan to learn to love her. Write it from a place of joy and excitement and possibility. No shame can live in this letter! Laminate it! Put it on your mirror. Have it in plain sight, read it every day, until your mind no longer bullies your body.Write on a Post-it: “I love my body and everything she has done for me.” Place it somewhere you see it daily. Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."

    24 min
  8. Season 17 Episode 7: UnFollow Autopilot

    03/21/2025

    Season 17 Episode 7: UnFollow Autopilot

    Send us a text THE WORK Follow Airplane Mode The idea of turning my phone on airplane mode for an afternoon makes me feel:What exciting benefits could I have by putting my phone on airplane mode?List the joys you know you would experience if you had some periods of airplane mode in your life?List your excuses for why you would not be ok turning your phone off one afternoon a week:No excuses! I am committed to joining #teamairplanemode and will start this week on ________________ for _______ number of hours.As a coach, here are some things I have heard: “My phone being in another room won’t work for me. I am a deep sleeper.” Try one of those alarms for rooms. They are so fancy now, and they even wake you up with morning meditations. You are welcome! “I am a single mum. I cannot put my phone on airplane mode.” One single-mum friend told me she got a landline for her ex-husband for when he has their children, just in case. So, no excuses, lassies! Where there is a will, there is a way. “I work from my phone. My clients just wouldn’t put up with my phone being off.” We teach people how to treat us, lassies and lads. Let that sink in for a second. If you make yourself available 24/7, then that’s what will be expected. I would say start small here: “I will be out of pocket Sunday until 3:00 p.m.” or “7:00 p.m. onward is family time. I will not have my phone on but will respond first thing in the morning.”It is amazing how much easier it gets, when you start to see how good it feels. Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK! Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today! Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life Remember, you can change your life one question at a time. Let’s get started today. Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_ Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."

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🚀 What if changing your life was as simple as asking better questions? Welcome to UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement—the podcast that challenges the status quo and helps you create a life you truly love.  Each episode is not a directive, but a doorway—an invitation to rethink, unlearn, and step into your power. If you’ve ever felt stuck, lost, or like there’s more to life, this is your space. 👑 Hosted by Mel Gray—aka Coach Mummabear—a Scottish lassie turned lawyer, #1 bestselling author, award-winning speaker, and master-certified professional coach. From battling childhood cancer with her son, moving across the world, building a nonprofit, adopting, getting sober and redefining success—Melissa’s story is proof that asking the right questions can change everything. 💡 In this podcast, you’ll discover: ✔ How to challenge limiting beliefs & rewrite your story ✔ Conversations with bold thinkers, game-changers & leaders ✔ Real talk about relationships, resilience & reinvention ✔ Tactical strategies to UnFollow what’s holding you back 🎧 New episodes drop Friday 9am EST—hit FOLLOW so you never miss an insight that could change your life. One.LIFE. What are you gonna do with it?

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