Welcome to Unlearn Lab where host, Jessica Moy and guests cut through the noise to bring out the human in humans again. We’re here to dismantle traditional thinking so we can get electrifyingly honest in how we’re contributing to the culture we’re building in our businesses and in our world.
At the root of every movement, paradigm shift, or even personal change is the beating heart behind it. Taking a closer look at social activism, DE & I, self development and so much more, in the workplace and in our daily lives, allows us to get stronger as a collective.
Whether you’re culture curious (think Karamo on “Queer Eye” vibes) or looking to make big changes in how we operate as a society - from work culture to taboo topics - this show is for you.
Tune in every other Tuesday to go beyond what’s trending in the realms of wellness, entrepreneurship, and impact and get the behind-the-scenes scoop on what it means to lean into your weird and wild and blaze your own way.
Grab a seat and come Unlearn with us.
S1, E6: Midday Medicine - A Guided Meditation for Restoring Your Flame
In this solo episode of Unlearn Lab, Jess returns for another Midday Medicine. This time it is a juicy, guided meditation practice to help light your creative fire again.
This practice is for remembering your WHY and moving through any heavy moments in your business and life with a ton of compassion. Together we will allow some space for you to be exactly where you are on your journey.
Take 15 minutes to yourself, find a comfortable seat and drop in.
If you’re looking to ground down, return home to yourself and recenter your intentions, this episode is for you!
Resources Embodied Impact Consulting Connect with Jess: Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter Demon Slayer: Kimetsu no Yaiba (TV Series) Enjoyed this Episode? If you enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and share it!
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S1, E5 - Midday Medicine: Preventing Burnout from Work
Productivity is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it nurtures a culture of efficiency and thriving. But on the other hand, it pushes us so hard until we feel burnout from work with the constant need to accomplish something. When productivity becomes our priority, it becomes impossible to take a pause and take a moment to relax without guilt. But is the endless grind worth it in the end? It will be a long journey, but it's possible to break free from this culture and start focusing on yourself. In this solo episode of Unlearn Lab, Jess introduces the concept of her midday medicine episodes. She discusses the importance of pausing to prevent burnout from work. She shares her personal journey of unlearning, particularly on her brand and business's sustainability. Jess teaches us that it's okay to be vulnerable; give yourself grace and grit in moments of self-doubt and uncertainty.
If you want to find out why you should start integrating moments of reflection for yourself into your daily life, this episode is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode: Find the importance of taking a pause. Address the needs of your most human self. Discover the key to overcoming the perfectionism pattern and preventing burnout from work. Resources Embodied Impact Consulting Connect with Jess: Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter Demon Slayer: Kimetsu no Yaiba (TV Series) Episode Highlights [01:36] Midday Medicine Jess is currently living in Okinawa, Japan. Most of her family, friends, and clients are in the US. She used to think of the time between noon to 5 pm in Japan as dead zones in productivity. It turned out to be an opportunity to pause and break up her feeling of unproductiveness and burnout from work. This midday medicine is a moment to recalibrate, move with clarity, and an opportunity to reset. Jess: “I think we think of this idea of reset as this designated time in our calendar that we have to block off, or we look at it as the morning or the night. Actually, it's a time that we get to decide.”
Jess made the "productivity dead zone" of the day her "me time." [03:08] Embracing the Pause Jess walks us through meditation practices and insights she has gathered from her midday medicines. Jess: “I want these moments to be real and raw because it's the in-between—the pause—that brings our most human self to the forefront.”
Embracing the pause helps drive your mission and vision forward while avoiding burnout from work. [04:13] Reflecting on Unlearning Unlearning is an experiment. Jess comes from a medical science background, which involves a lot of research. Researching unknown things never has a predetermined outcome. For third culture kids, it’s a lifelong journey deciding who they are versus how their cultural and colonized values and beliefs define them. [05:39] Unlearning Sustainability Jess continuously structures her brand and business to be sustainable. Sustainability changes and evolves. What was sustainable in the past may not be today, leading to burnout from work or other enterprises. Unlearning requires the consistent acknowledgment of where perfectionism and self-doubt are coming in. Jess: “What you think works one day and then all of a sudden doesn't work the next day is a constant unlearning for me that had nothing to do with me. That in order to get the house right, in order to get your people right, it requires us to get it wrong. Because again, it's an experiment—we don't know.”
It’s not necessarily your fault when something doesn't work out. Getting things right requires us to get them wrong. [07:45] Grace & Grit Sustainability will not be perfect because it continues to evolve. You can’t rely only on yourself to do it. You have to call in your faith and fear, then face them. Grace and grit are vital to overcoming the perfectionism pattern. It’s the grace to hold yourself in the most vulnerable moments. It's grit through having faith and t
S1, E4 - Inclusion (DEIAR) Culture: Breaking Barriers for a Better World with Alyssa Hall
What’s wonderful about living in a culturally-diverse society is that we learn new cultures, traditions, and languages. It widens our understanding of human connection and values. However, this beauty (fails) to surface when we fail to respect diversity and uphold equity and inclusion. Another thing we tend to miss out on in our advocacy is fighting against racism, which is ever-present. In this episode of Unlearn Lab, Alyssa Hall explains the meaning of DEIAR and why anti-racism is crucial to be at the forefront of any discussion concerning diversity, equity, and inclusion. She shares her tips and experience in breaking barriers and shifting mindsets to create a culture that is inclusive and respectful. Finally, she explores the different spectrums of cancel culture and how we can hold people accountable. If you want to find out how you can do the inner work and shift your mindset to create a safe and inclusive environment for everyone, this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode: Find out how to create a culture of DEIAR. Discover the spectrums and possible responses to cancel culture. Learn how to hold others and yourself accountable. Resources Bad Activist Collective Connect with Alyssa: Email | Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | Website Episode Highlights [03:10] Defining DEIAR DEIAR means Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Anti-Racism. For Alyssa, anti-racism is removing the sprinkles of white supremacy culture from many spaces and shifting structures that enable racism. Diversity is about the numbers and ratio of people in a certain room. Equity allows people to have an equal playing field. Inclusion pertains to whether or not people feel included — not just physically. Alyssa: “For me, anti-racism and inclusion are the biggest foundations, and then you put in the equitable stuff, and then you get the output of diversity.” [07:05] Shifting Your Mindset Bringing anti-racism to the forefront is vital in implementing and integrating DE&I (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) in our daily lives. Creating a culture of DE&I requires a mindset shift, or else it can’t be sustained. Always watch your thoughts and approach them with curiosity. [13:57] Navigating Right and Wrong People are wired to have a sense of community, making us fear isolation. White supremacy culture gives people even the most trivial reason to ostracize someone else, especially when you step out of the norm. Alyssa: “... we get so scared of being wrong or so scared of saying something that can potentially harm someone else even if it’s standing up for another person, because when we harm someone else, then that means I’m a bad person. Because that is the way that white supremacy culture has taught us to categorize ourselves and other people.”
Your actions don’t always determine your character. [17:49] Four Spectrums of Cancel Culture The first spectrum is when someone says or does something harmful or offensive but is unaware of it. The second version mostly manifests in police officers, who are trained to be scared of specific people and require an overhaul of the system. Third, a person is truly prejudiced and doesn’t want to change. Lastly, prejudices might be much more challenging to deal with when it relates to their career. People affected by prejudices have the right to know when a person has a slight prejudice or makes a mistake. [24:14] Changing the System Alyssa hates the function of the present system. We need a system that includes proper rehabilitation, so individuals can get the help they need and return to society as better people. Equipping individuals with DE&I training allows them to function better in society. [28:50] Breaking Her Mental Barriers Education has always been valuable to Alyssa. Undoing her mindset around wanting to be a doctor was something she had to work on when she entered the field of DE&I. Equity has always been important to her, and
S1, E3 - Entrepreneurial Culture: Writing Your Own Success Story in Entrepreneurship for Women-Identifying Folx of Color with Alyssa Hall
Big dreams and goals have almost become prerequisites to building a successful business. But, taking leaps to chase those dreams shouldn’t happen at the spur of the moment; it needs preparation and support. You need to be equipped to deal with the barriers and challenges that entrepreneurship life will constantly throw at you. In this episode of Unlearn Lab, Alyssa Hall shares her journey to becoming an entrepreneur. She explores the hardships of growing a business that no one seems to talk about — but is what we really should be talking about if we want to achieve greater success in our businesses. Alyssa also discusses the barriers we need to overcome for our business to thrive. Then, she shares how she redefined her own success and wealth as an entrepreneur, a mother, and a woman. If you want to learn about the struggles of being an entrepreneur and how you can rise above them, this episode is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode:
Explore the difficult side of entrepreneurship that no one talks about. Discover how to break down barriers in entrepreneurship and be empowered. Learn what success and generational wealth mean to Alyssa. Resources
Connect with Alyssa: Email | Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | Website Episode Highlights [02:38] How Alyssa Became An Entrepreneur In late 2018, she bought her own domain and became a single mom. Becoming an entrepreneur seemed like the most realistic way to survive with her daughter. Six months into entrepreneurship, she quit her nine-to-five because she seldom saw her daughter, which was painful for her. If you quit your job unprepared, it won’t be easy. [07:08] The Hardships Of Being An Entrepreneur She got good tax returns, which made her feel secure enough to quit her job and focus on building her business. The child support agreement also included her daughter’s dad paying for her rent. With around $6000, she was able to coast for a few months. When her lease was about to end, things started getting difficult even if she had a solid support system; ultimately, she ended up having to move in with a family member. [13:46] Defining Success When she entered a group coaching program filled with moms, she felt angry and bitter that everyone just wanted to make extra money, while she, on the other hand, was barely trying to survive. She felt guilty that she wasn’t financially prepared to provide for her daughter. For her, success means providing her daughter with the life she deserves. [19:57] Breaking Barriers in Entrepreneurship People often end up glamorizing numbers rather than thinking about sustainability. She despised asking for help but realized that we could only break through barriers that hold us back and become empowered if we lean on our resources. Alyssa: “... the only way that we are able to truly break through the barriers that were created to have us stay small is if we lean on the resources that we already have. And we do so from a place of empowerment instead of from a place of feeling like you failed…”
Know when you need help, and don’t hesitate to ask for it. [25:23] Struggling with Generational Wealth and Identity She couldn’t grasp the concept of generational wealth. Eventually, she came to the conclusion that generation wealth is freedom of options. Alyssa: “[Generational wealth is] the freedom of being able to say, ‘Whatever this situation is, whether it be a job, whether it be a location, whether it be a relationship, this is not suiting me’, and to have the flexibility to move and to leave and to shift.”
She wants to give her daughter that flexibility that we should be afforded. Because of her different identities, she fits into so many boxes yet doesn’t fit perfectly. She used to feel like she had to prove herself, but now she doesn’t conform to anyone else’s description of her. Alyssa: “I’m never gonna fit into whatever someone else’s description of me is. But
S1, E2 - Period Culture: The Empowering Art of Tapping into Your Menstrual Cycle
Do you know that your pelvis is the root of a lot of power in your body?
Everyone is on a continual journey of learning, unlearning, and relearning. While it’s a challenge to upskill ourselves, the learning cycle encapsulates the beauty of life. But being out of tune with your body, especially your pelvis, could hinder your personal growth and healing. If you didn’t know about the significant role your pelvis plays in your life, then you’re about to find out.
In this episode of Unlearn Lab, Brittney Ellers discusses the importance of pelvic care. By tapping into the pelvis and menstrual cycle, you’ll be able to heal, grow, and create. Finally, you will be able to learn new information about your body and unlearn shame and guilt to live an empowered life.
If you want to learn more about the power of the pelvis, then this episode is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode:
Find out why the pelvis is a powerful area in your body. Discover how to empower yourself using your menstrual cycle. Learn how to keep your creative juices flowing and balance your energy. Resources
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston Finding God Through Sex: Awakening the One of Spirit Through the Two of Flesh by David Deida To Be Magnetic, The #1 Destination for Neural Manifestation Being Better website Connect with Brittney: LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Episode Highlights
[04:25] What Brittney Learned and Unlearned
She just finished Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston. Brittany resonated with Sheri’s biography because her sexuality, intimate relationships, and professional work contributed to where she’s currently at. She had to unlearn a lot of shame and guilt from her adulthood until now. She didn’t intend to go into the realm of pelvic health until she learned how women were treated in medicine. [04:25] The Importance of the Biopsychosocial Model
The psychosocial part is the reality that we live in. Learning more about your spirituality helps you become aware of the biopsychosocial parts and emotional layers in people. The pelvis is a powerful and special area in one’s body. [08:53] The Power of the Pelvis
The pelvic bowl has a set of three bones that act as a holder for muscles, ligaments, and nerve endings that supply support and structure; it’s also a house of pleasure. If you're experiencing financial, health, or emotional instability, you may have issues with your root chakra. Tapping into the sacral chakra can make you feel connected with what you’re trying to birth and the magic of creation. If you experience shame or someone crosses your boundaries, it might block the sacral chakra. Brittney: “In the womb space, there’s a beautiful rhythm that we experience as menstruators. The bleed, the build, the bleed, the build — it’s basically just a cleansing and gathering energy that goes back and forth.”
[15:59] Holistic Pelvic Care Experience
Brittney had a healing experience with a practitioner in San Diego. In that experience, she discovered that her left side, which is the feminine side, was very pronounced. However, her masculinity feels absent. The assessment made her realize her lack of “masculinity” in her business. These things may link back to other energetics in your life — and for Brittney, it was her familial relationships and religious upbringing. [20:52] Brittney’s Journey in Growth and Healing
While she’s healed, the wound needs massaging from time to time. In her relationships, she went through tough breakups and gained breakthroughs. Brittney: “...it was more like breaking open your heart to new things, whether it was experiences for yourself or another partner. But those heartbreaks really cracked me open wide to the world of even starting my own business.”
Trying out new things helped her with her growth and confidence. She’s also been doing shadow work and rea
S1, E1 - Culture is You: Unlearning What We Know
Culture is in everything. It’s where you work, what you do at home, and how you interact with others. It’s thinking that lemon sherbet is better than chocolate ice cream (or is it the other way around?) But did you ever stop to ask the most important question anyone can ask: why? Unlearn Lab is here to raise important questions and ignite our curiosity. In this episode, we explain what we’re going to do in future episodes. In Unlearn Lab, we’re here to ask and answer questions — tough, fun, and thought-provoking all rolled into one. We create a definition for culture, navigate the spaces where we can observe it, and examine its multilayeredness. Ultimately, we will dive deep into taboos and uncomfortable topics that need to be discussed.
You can’t learn something new if your cup is full. So if you’re looking to unlearn old information and redefine culture, this episode is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode: How our culture affects the way we live, breathe and see the world. The importance of digging into the "Why" behind everything we do. Take the first step toward unlearning the things that may be getting in the way of authentically expressing yourself. Resources Do Nothing: How to Break Away from Overworking, Overdoing, and Underliving by Celeste Headlee Read books by Brene Brown Catch episodes of Queer Eye on Netflix! Episode Highlights [00:50] Starting Up the Unlearn Lab Jess asks the question, “What makes people, people?” Her favorite question as a child was: “Why?” Jess’ love for this question is rooted in a deep-seated curiosity of all things. Jess’ second inspiration was Karamo from Queer Eye and his ability to pinpoint the deeper aspects of people. Jess Moy: "And so I had this 'Aha!’ moment that maybe in order to really create change, not just social change, but true human evolution is not just about the things that we do on the outside…but really what we cultivate on the inside.”
[05:01] Culture Is Who You Are Jess is an Asian-American woman living in America with Filipino and Chinese roots. Culture is something you learn based on where you were born, the culture you were born into, and how you grew up. Some people reject their culture and heritage for fear of being different, especially as children. Your sexual and gender identity also play a part in your culture. [08:53] Culture, Collectives, And Society We absorb culture from our environment. Some culture is taken from your ancestry, but it doesn’t necessarily apply. We can cultivate it in a way that supports us. Culture is not just art and song; it’s also how people interact in their daily lives, like at work. Jess Moy: "From a human standpoint, culture really is how we develop our language and how we tolerate conflict and change and how we react and respond to it all is integrated and contributing to the culture that we really want to create for ourselves to thrive."
[14:56] Curiosity And Asking Why Society creates taboos, but who defines what’s culturally normal and what isn’t? Curiosity is something that society has slowly devalued over time. To unlearn what we know, we need to cultivate a curious spirit and be persistent in asking, “Why?” Hearing things you don’t immediately agree with may trigger a desire to dig more deeply and have these conversations on your own. [18:24] After Questioning, Take Action After exploring these questions, what will you do about them? We can redefine our culture and create new systems. Jess: “We as a collective are made of individually beautiful humans, that get to create new systems, and get to create an entity where we allow ourselves to change, to process to be in our own thoughts, to craft new behaviors, and really live and exemplify our own beliefs that come from exactly that us and create ripples of how our culture is formed.”
Nothing is stopping you from iterating and changing everything about yourself. Cultu
This podcast is so good and from the first episode alone I’ve been able to shift the way I’m looking at culture and society. I can’t wait to hear what else Jess has in store for us! These conversations are definitely needed.
I love that this podcast is delving into super important topics in such a supportive and honest way. So excited for all that’s to come!!
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This podcast is absolutely amazing, and the topics are so relatable to every single person! Can’t wait for the future topics because they are going to be 🔥🔥🔥
Society is so identified and so deeply rooted by culture. It’s crazy the way we do things due to underlying subconscious influence from the topics this podcast talks about
The way Jess moderates and guides through these topics is like the therapist everyone needs 😂