Unlocking Success with the Power of Law of Requisite Variety in NLP Podcasts for Psychologists and Coaches
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In this post we will explore the NLP Presupposition of "The Law of Requisite Variety" and its application in life and during therapies.
This picture quote by Thomas Edison—the inventor of the light bulb—is much more than just a daily motivation shot. We’ve always been taught to see Dr Edison as an example of never-ending determination and perspiration.
Often when we refer to the word ‘determination’, we formulate an image of pursuing our goals with a horse-eyed vision. We often assign working hard as being the strict and only way to success, overlooking the need to work smart.
Thus, we end up falling into a pattern of consistent behaviours that unknowingly keep us away from achieving our complete potential.
Don’t you ever wonder:
Why you weren’t able to score well in that particular subject in school?
Why that girl never accepted your proposal?
Why you couldn’t persuade your boss to give you that promotion?
Why you haven’t accomplished all of those things in spite of doing all that you had?
The answer to each of the above questions and many more lies in the simple fact that our minds have come to associate determination with a static identity that doesn’t allow us to change our way of doing things but instead lets us settle with whatever result that we get.
In short:We become rigid with our behaviours & flexible about our outcomes or results.
Thus, the aim is to consciously shift the flexibility that we assign to our outcomes, to our path of achieving it i.e. our behaviours.
Side Note: The same quote can also be used to explain another presupposition "There is no failure, only feedback".
What is the NLP law of requisite variety?
The law of requisite variety suggests that, the most flexible element in the system generally controls the system.
Rigidity in behaviour may make us lose control over the outcomes we receive. What good will shooting an email, asking for a raise, to your boss every month does if it hasn’t worked for an entire year?
However, instead, if you purposefully choose to try something new — say increase the business you get to your firm each month — to show your boss that you deserve the raise you’ve been asking for, then there is an increased possibility for you to reach your desired outcome.
If this doesn’t do the trick, you may come up with another way to impress your boss — say, take up a task your boss has been asking you to do but you’ve been reluctant in doing or maybe just changing the format, that you were using in the email, requesting for a raise.
In a nutshell, what is being implied is that if you exhibit flexibility in your ways of acquiring your goals, then you increase the probability of achieving success in comparison to you sticking with the same old ways that are clearly not yielding any results.
Therapists Niche
Law of Requisite variety is an NLP Presupposition that therapists can immensely benefit from.
It is important for therapists to avoid being too rigid about techniques they use with their clients. At times therapists likes a particular approach and they kind of get married to it.
The approach they want to follow becomes more important than the outcome that the client wants to achieve.
No matter who the client is and what problem the client has, they are just interested in following that one approach irrespective of whether a client gets the result or not. A good example of this is past life regression. I know of therapists who only use this process for all the clients.
It is important to remember that a particular approach will work for some clients, but no particular approach really works with all clients. The therapist needs to be flexible to choose different approaches and processes depending upon the client and the problem.
Thus the rigidity should be about helping the client achieve the chosen outcome and flexibility about the therapist’s behavior in terms of
In this post we will explore the NLP Presupposition of "The Law of Requisite Variety" and its application in life and during therapies.
This picture quote by Thomas Edison—the inventor of the light bulb—is much more than just a daily motivation shot. We’ve always been taught to see Dr Edison as an example of never-ending determination and perspiration.
Often when we refer to the word ‘determination’, we formulate an image of pursuing our goals with a horse-eyed vision. We often assign working hard as being the strict and only way to success, overlooking the need to work smart.
Thus, we end up falling into a pattern of consistent behaviours that unknowingly keep us away from achieving our complete potential.
Don’t you ever wonder:
Why you weren’t able to score well in that particular subject in school?
Why that girl never accepted your proposal?
Why you couldn’t persuade your boss to give you that promotion?
Why you haven’t accomplished all of those things in spite of doing all that you had?
The answer to each of the above questions and many more lies in the simple fact that our minds have come to associate determination with a static identity that doesn’t allow us to change our way of doing things but instead lets us settle with whatever result that we get.
In short:We become rigid with our behaviours & flexible about our outcomes or results.
Thus, the aim is to consciously shift the flexibility that we assign to our outcomes, to our path of achieving it i.e. our behaviours.
Side Note: The same quote can also be used to explain another presupposition "There is no failure, only feedback".
What is the NLP law of requisite variety?
The law of requisite variety suggests that, the most flexible element in the system generally controls the system.
Rigidity in behaviour may make us lose control over the outcomes we receive. What good will shooting an email, asking for a raise, to your boss every month does if it hasn’t worked for an entire year?
However, instead, if you purposefully choose to try something new — say increase the business you get to your firm each month — to show your boss that you deserve the raise you’ve been asking for, then there is an increased possibility for you to reach your desired outcome.
If this doesn’t do the trick, you may come up with another way to impress your boss — say, take up a task your boss has been asking you to do but you’ve been reluctant in doing or maybe just changing the format, that you were using in the email, requesting for a raise.
In a nutshell, what is being implied is that if you exhibit flexibility in your ways of acquiring your goals, then you increase the probability of achieving success in comparison to you sticking with the same old ways that are clearly not yielding any results.
Therapists Niche
Law of Requisite variety is an NLP Presupposition that therapists can immensely benefit from.
It is important for therapists to avoid being too rigid about techniques they use with their clients. At times therapists likes a particular approach and they kind of get married to it.
The approach they want to follow becomes more important than the outcome that the client wants to achieve.
No matter who the client is and what problem the client has, they are just interested in following that one approach irrespective of whether a client gets the result or not. A good example of this is past life regression. I know of therapists who only use this process for all the clients.
It is important to remember that a particular approach will work for some clients, but no particular approach really works with all clients. The therapist needs to be flexible to choose different approaches and processes depending upon the client and the problem.
Thus the rigidity should be about helping the client achieve the chosen outcome and flexibility about the therapist’s behavior in terms of