Welcome to the Unsilent Women podcast! What it means to be a woman in the world today, like everything else, is pretty confusing. A muddled mix of old ideas and new realities that don’t quite fit. It's like opening a trunk of old clothes and realizing you didn't have great fashion sense!MeToo, Lean-in, Girlboss, Keeping up with the Kardashians and scrolling through Instagram. Is any of this helpful? Harmful? Join writer and host Poorva Misra-Miller as she tackles topics of race, gender, equity, problematic tropes, outdated advice, and new cultural realities with a diverse set of guests — through bingeable chat, personal essays, and pop culture fanaticism. This bi-weekly podcast is your dose of unconventional wisdom, strong opinions, and obnoxious puns. So pop in those earbuds and settle in. Things could get bumpy, but we'll get there together. Let's go!
Swipe left to find someone right
We are in the era of swiping left to find the right person. An endless digital scrapbook of options for every taste, interest, physical, social or lifestyle preference. But what does this era of dating through a portal mean for finding love. Poorva talks to Nikoletta Erdelyi, a self-proclaimed shit disturber in the digital dating space, who specializes in trolling f*** boys. Nikoletta uses her boundless reserves of humor and wit to explore digital dating in a big city as a millennial woman. She is currently working on her book on the subject, Tinder Tales: Metropolis Manz on the Digital Dating Scene.
A container just for you — establishing healthy boundaries with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
Where is the line where you end and another person begins? Why do we struggle to identify our limits? And how do we establish effective and healthy boundaries with the people we love, in personal and professional relationships, and even with ourselves?
In this episode Poorva and Dr. Tracy Dalgleish dive into understanding boundaries and why women especially, struggle with them. What's the social conditioning that gets in the way of us protecting our time and energy? How can we focus on what brings us meaning? And how do we communicate our needs so that we can show up as happier and healthier versions of ourselves?
Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and couples therapist, helps individuals and couples navigate the challenges we all face in our relationships and within ourselves to create a more meaningful life through therapy, wellness seminars, and her work outside of the therapy room.
Dr. Dalgleish contributes to popular media sites, including Motherly, Huffington Post, Bustle, and PsychCentral. She has appeared on CTV Morning Live Ottawa and is a sought-after expert to speak on relationships and mental health. She has also published several journal articles in high-ranking academic peer-reviewed journals and co-authored two book chapters on attachment theory and emotionally focused couples therapy.
Committed to making what she does more accessible, Dr. Dalgleish is the host of podcast ‘I’m Not Your Shrink’ where she dives deeper into clinical knowledge and research in a relatable and informal way. She also offers other e-learning if you prefer to learn on the go, including an online community to help women and couples strengthen their relationships.
Dr. Dalgleish is the owner of Integrated Wellness, a mental health clinic in Ottawa, Ontario. She is the 2021 recipient of the Forty Under 40 award, recognizing her significant business contributions in the national capital region.
Once upon a time, you heard it in a nursery rhyme — with Maria Vicente
Did the Sweet Valley series inform a young girl's ideas of dating and romance? Does Harry Potter have anything to do with how we think about elite education? Is Bella Swan, a love-obsessed teen really an accurate portrayal of a teenage girl?
The stories we grow up with, stay with us our entire lives. They are our first window into the world and so much of what we learn and how we grow up is shaped by children's stories. Maria Vicente is a Senior Literary Agent at P.S. Literary representing bold and innovative books for kids, teens, and curious adults. Her favorite books to work on allow readers to experience something new about the real world or invite them into fictional worlds they’ll never want to leave.
Maria and Poorva take a trip down memory lane and revisit stories from their childhoods to examine where ideas on complex social issues like gender, race, and identity come from.
The unsilent majority — with Zahra Siddiqui
Representation and diversity have become major talking points over the last year. Phrases like “if you can see it you can be it,” are popular platitudes of support, offered at diversity seminars and plastered in Millennial pink quote backdrops on Instagram.
But all of this talk around diversity has made it this silent thief in the night. Like a diverse world is aspirational. When the reality is that diversity is already here. And if we aren’t seeing it in the spaces that we occupy, it’s because it’s been deliberately left out. What we often end up seeing instead is tokenism. A multi-cultural and multi-racial world that reflects dominant and behaviors.
Representation, especially in media and pop culture as we know it has been from a historically white, wealthy, cis-gendered, heteronormative lens. And this representation doesn’t reflect our reality. My guest this week is an incredible Toronto-based artist, visual storyteller, and photographer, Zahra Siddiqui — who challenges this portrayal of our world through The Invisible Majority — a body of work that speaks to the consciousness of our civilization.
Zahra takes portraits of members of the BIPOC and 2SLGBTQ people, exactly as they are and want to be seen. There is no code-switching to fit in.
Zahra’s work reflects the reality of our society. That BIPOC people are a majority. And even in a diverse, multi-cultural city like Toronto, we remain unseen.
Some aspects of this episode may be triggering and so you’re encouraged to listen at your comfort.
To follow Zahra's work, head on over to www. theinvisiblemajority.com
Diversity in the stack — with Lauren Washington
The tech world is full of upstarts and startups, and might look something like — a young, college dropout, disproportionately white and male. Those are the stories that make the news, the tech darlings that get funded. But what about the side of the tech world that isn't seen? The 38-year-old Black mother with two STEM degrees who starts a business? The Latinx girl with an engineering degree under her belt who starts a tech company? Or a woman with a background in Marketing and a passion for business, technology, and equity?
Lauren Washington is the co-founder of Black Women Talk Tech, a tech conference created by Black female founders for Black female founders and their supporters, highlighting the brilliance of Black women in technology. Poorva and Lauren talk diversity in tech, building scalable companies, and making space for diverse voices in the tech world.
Write your wishes — writer discipline, stick-to-it-ness and a little magic, with Marissa Stapley
The writer's journey is long, serpentine and lonely. No one really becomes a writer. You simply write. If you love it and you write long enough there might be a future in the books. But what happens when rejection is name of the game, book-deals aren't written in stone and writers see dreams evaporate in a puff of smoke?
Marissa Stapley is an internationally bestselling author of four novels. Her latest novel Lucky, debuted this year and was optioned for television by Disney Studios. Marissa has walked the walk when it comes to growing as a writer. She shares her journey of going from a writer with a dream to published novelist. We talk lessons, resilient moments and even a little bit of magic.
Smart and insightful conversations!
These episodes are just a delight to listen to. A challenge to all the hegemonies, capitalism, racism, the dull idea of there being any one kind of story from any one or anywhere. Multiplicities are beautiful and just part of who we are. One day we won’t need to argue this point and Poorva will be one of the leaders who took us there.
Stories that Inspire. A personal favorite 😍
This is truly an exceptional podcast for 2 main reasons.
#1. It’s a genuinely diverse space for women to learn and share from each other and no two stories are the same. #2 is that Poorva is an exceptional writer and host, and always has a unique and thought-provoking perspective to offer! While I’m extremely selective with finding podcasts to listen to regularly, Women in Our Town has always made my list! It’s been uplifting, eye-opening, fun, and motivating in the best way possible, and helps me feel more connected both individually and in society, as a woman.
Insightful and inspirational!
Listening to this podcast makes me feel fired up in the BEST way. Each episode is packed with insightful perspectives that have made me learn (and strive to unlearn!) so much. I leave feeling inspired and refreshed! A true gem!