Have you ever wanted to talk out loud about being sexually assaulted? Or has society taught you that you were not strong enough to handle it? What about other subjects like single parenting, gaslighting, or women and religion? I am the expert on my trauma and have spent 30 years in therapy for low self-esteem, low self-worth, depression, and anger – all while getting up over and over only to be beat down by the cultural norms. However, even after being raped, suicidal thoughts, sexual harassment, military sexual trauma, homelessness, and surviving against a tsunami of "you can't do it" mindset, I managed to write a book called "Colors of Amber, A Memoir" and won a scholarship to be a yoga teacher from the Kripalu School of Yoga. Writing and yoga shredded years of torment and shame as it cut into my neural sheath – pathways that reminded me that I was female and less than. I once heard a psychiatrist say that “depression is the silencing of the soul”. It hit me. If I ever wanted to feel free, happy, joyful, and to have healthy anger, that talking, writing, speaking, and bringing all the “dirty secrets” to light was the ticket. It would hurt either way. Podcasting is another tool - therapeutic and transforming - that in 2021 gives women a voice and people are listening. In my "VOICES with Amber B Skylar" podcast, I share content to inspire, uplift, and plunge a listener into her/his nature, so you can see it, grieve it, get help and thrive. My goal is to be the voice of those who cannot speak up. I purposefully aim to show what empowerment as a woman really can be – self-inquiry, self-assessment of one's actions, contributions, beliefs. I am committed to my craft will dedicate talent, skill, research, compassion, and relentless energy to uphold the voices of women and the men who love and support them – and to healing future generations of humans. -Amber B Skylar, Author, Colors of Amber, A Memoir (Amazon). Audible version coming in May 2021. Contact: email@example.com
[EP:44] Trump or No Trump, Vaccine or Unvaccinated, Black or White, Asian or Not, Rape, Sexual Harassment- What happened to that conversation? - Amber B Skylar
I got depressed this week, didn't even do my Wednesday episode. The politics of vaccines, mask fights, people judging each other on whether or not they like Trump or republicans, are the democrats more caring, will doctors really stop treating people without a vaccine? We talk about freedom to choose and yet we are still battling the issue of abortion. I follow stories of sexual assault, rape, violence against women and it seems that it makes a headline as long as it feeds to media cycle and their need for funding, or whatever lobbyist is pushing its political agenda, or its insatiable need for the competitive market of media. Sensation sells. It seems that the time for women - has not arrived quite yet. We still have nation states suppressing women, stopping them from working and we here in the US are going round and round like mice on the wheel of the science of politics, the business of big money, and the fact that institutions are not designed to be good, they are designed to thrive - no matter the cost. People, you are expendable. You are replaceable. I learned this in the military. Grappling with this as a woman, contributes to my growing cynicism - and feeds the depression of a silenced voice. And yet, here I am, standing up for the rights and lives of females. It is a lonely path.
#amberbskylar #voiceofamber #rape #metoo #violenceagainstwomen #domesticviolence #equalrightsforwomen #voiceofwomen
[EP:43] The most popular hashtags # is for women? I'm disappointed. - Amber B Skylar
When I reached out to my marketing team months ago, I was trying to better understand hashtags. The ones I chose were good, or so I thought. What I have learned when doing research on - what are the most popular hashtags for women - I was blown away.
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#voiceofamber #voicesofwomen #womensrights #metoo #women #veteran #rape #violenceagainstwomen
[EP:42] Taliban Bullies Fear Educated Women - Amber B Skylar
War is going on all over the world and with it comes rape of women and children. Not only do we keep women uneducated in some cultures like the Afghanistan Taliban regime,(Islamic militants) we use them like Mommies to cook, clean, and make them cover themselves all under the name of "God" or Allah - or be subjected to stoning, jail, and beheadings. The women are forced to be excluded from society all under some distorted, taken out of context, religious notion/faction,(just like other religions use God for whatever) - which is why any culture would want to keep women as "less than" and not worthy of education. I learned something recently about how educating women in a culture like this - can help and can also be a huge fear of militants.
I am not an expert.
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Listen to Matt Zeller, Independent Americans Podcast - The Collapse of Afghanistan Why Taliban Don't Want Women to Read
#amberbskylar #voiceofamber #metoo #womensrights #womensupportingwomen #violenceagainstwomen
[EP:41] Hollywood's Influence on Women - Amber B Skylar
A good thing about 2021 is that we have more vehicles of communication than ever before. I am 59 now and my entire life I've felt like and been treated like a second class citizen. When you think about this stuff alone, you feel alone, and maybe even crazy (in the negative way). But more and more movies and documentaries are talking about #metoo #wagediscrimination #sexualharrassment and so much more and I for one am grateful. I do not have any women in my life who care enough to be involved in women's activism. It's hard enough just to have a serious conversation. This Netflix documentary #ThisChangesEverything directed by Maria Giese and highlights Geena Davis Institute on Gender.
#amberbskylar #voiceofamber #metoo #veteran #militarysexualtrauma #sexualharrassment #voicesofwomen
[EP:40] Forgiveness. I'm just not feeling it. - Amber B Skylar
I do not believe that I need to forgive anyone who has hurt, abused, disrected and harmed me in any way. I sometimes think that forgiveness is used as a cop out - for example, trying to get victims to look the other way, like religious leaders who have asked victims to talk about what happened and then to forgive their attacker. Victims have been encouraged over and over to "let it go", "god wants you to forgive". Call me selfish, immature, ungodly, call me whatever you need to call me to help yourself digest the boldness of my viewpoint. It will not change how I feel about forgiveness. I do not totally disagree with how powerful forgiveness can be, for certain situations, but for victims who have been traumatized, and their experiences minimized and shoved in some mental box for storage under the title "I forgive them" is a cop out to me. Victims need to be witnessed and heard and they need justice.
#amberbskylar #voiceofamber #Metoo #forgiveness #womenhelpingwomen
[EP:39] Embrace the Crazy. #Justdoit - Amber B Skylar
Nike created an ad campaign called #Dreamcrazier - Just do it inspired by the treatment of female athletes who get emotional. I'm so tired of being told that I am "dramatic" because I express emotion. Not just by men, but by scared, compliant females who need a man to complete them. Even my own brother tries to diminish my expression of anger and call it "drama queen". So be it. I am embracing the crazy. I am embracing my feelings of anger at the amount of violence towards women and the fact that many people just look the other way. Im angry that people seem to be afraid of angry women. Or even if a woman simply has an angry response. People are afraid of women's anger. Ladies - our anger is our human right. It frees us from the overwhelming depression that ensues if we look the other way. The time has come for women to get up and use their voice, critical thinking, skill and talent to advocate for human rights for women.
#amberbskylar #justdoit #womeninsports #metoo #womenhelpingwomen
Wow. Just wow.
Amazing woman not afraid to share her thoughts and be heard! As I listen I experience empathy, anger, and empowerment all within a 20 minutes. She makes me think which makes me a better person. I may personally not experienced trauma like hers, but that isn’t necessary to get a message from her voice. Stick with her for at least 3 episodes and you too will be hooked!
Absolutely must listen to...
Amber is a hard hitter in speaking up about sexuality and rape culture. The stigma surrounding so many issues from rape, sexualization, anger and growing up is touched on beautifully by Amber by hearing a unique account of personal experiences. It makes you question, observe and want to hear more. It is rare when you hear about certain topics then want to learn more and awaken an understanding you never had before. Amber does that and much more. I HIGHLY recommend that you listen to her. She will truly change your life and in the most positive of ways by means of acceptance and fighting back.
The author of “The Colors of Amber” returns, now with a podcast series discussing issues relevant to today’s woman. One can barely turn on the news without hearing of another public male figure accused of the sexual harassment or abuse of a woman. How much never comes to light because the victim is not only fearful of the character assassination and disbelief going public will cause, but also because of the paradoxical self questioning and self blame that can also occur? Where does that come from?
Curious? Come and listen to Amber discuss this and other women’s issues. Insightful, honest and compassionate, Amber is as good a speaker as she is a writer.