116 episodes

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Were You Raised By Wolves‪?‬ Nick Leighton

    • Society & Culture
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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.

When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”

Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”

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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

    Spending Other People's Money, Tipping Sanitation Workers, Going Rogue at Weddings, and More

    Spending Other People's Money, Tipping Sanitation Workers, Going Rogue at Weddings, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about spending other people's money, tipping sanitation workers at the holidays, ignoring wedding dress codes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    I offered to "bring something" to a dinner party and then was given the entire shopping list...what do I do?

    How do I get my neighbor to not leave their boat in their yard?

    What is most polite way to thank people for condolence cards that were received six months ago and not yet acknowledged?

    How much and where do I I tip my sanitation workers for the holidays?

    What do I do about my wedding officiant who isn't following the dress code?


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    CREDITS
    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
    Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton
    Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

    TRANSCRIPT
    Episode 115
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    • 28 min
    Squeezing Grapefruits, Paying for Damaged Pans, Photographing Great Danes, and More

    Squeezing Grapefruits, Paying for Damaged Pans, Photographing Great Danes, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating grapefruits, paying for damaged pans, photographing Great Danes in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: Grapefruits


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Supermarkets


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: My friend cooked dinner in my home and damaged my pan...who's responsible for replacing it? In an office, is it OK to fix my hair at my desk? What do I do about people who take photos of my dog without permission?


    VENT OR REPENT: Absent Zoom audience members, Airplane bathrooms


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: The Pasadena DMV, Good houseguests


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Grapefruit on Wikipedia

    Recipe for grapefruit stuffed with dulce de leche

    "Christmas with the Kranks" ham scene

    Marsha Brady combing her hair


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    CREDITS
    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
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    TRANSCRIPT
    Episode 114
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    • 39 min
    Leaving Dirty Diapers, Chatting in Supermarkets, Dining Left-Handed, and More

    Leaving Dirty Diapers, Chatting in Supermarkets, Dining Left-Handed, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about leaving dirty diapers in restaurants, chatting with cashiers in supermarkets, dining when left-handed, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    How do I shut down polite conversations with cashiers in supermarkets?

    What do I do about a friend who is upset I don't attend everything she invites me to?

    As a left-handed person, is it OK to rearrange my table setting in a restaurant?

    How should I handle the dedication page in my upcoming book?

    What do I do about fellow restaurant diners who leave dirty diapers on their table?


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
    Are left-handed people smarter?

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    CREDITS
    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
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    TRANSCRIPT
    Episode 113
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    • 25 min
    Obeying Little Signs, Coordinating Pot Lucks, Buying Concert Tickets, and More

    Obeying Little Signs, Coordinating Pot Lucks, Buying Concert Tickets, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle obeying little signs, coordinating pot luck dinners, buying concert tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: The origins of "Etiquette"


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Hosting Thanksgiving dinner


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I tell someone their new boyfriend reminds me of Christian Bale in "American Psycho"? If you're bringing dessert to a pot luck, are you also responsible for bringing the dessert plates? Do I need to give up my better concert tickets in order for my daughter to be able to sit with a friend?


    VENT OR REPENT: Bad customer service, Ordering sandwiches


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice neighbors, A nice review


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Cindy Post Senning's story about Louis XIV

    Business card scene from "American Pyscho"

    The Wiggles

    Mummenchanz


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    CREDITS
    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
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    TRANSCRIPT
    Episode 112
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    • 42 min
    Sending Unimpressive Flowers, Running Other People's AirBNBs, Abandoning Friends in Airports, and More

    Sending Unimpressive Flowers, Running Other People's AirBNBs, Abandoning Friends in Airports, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending unimpressive flowers, running other people's AirBNBs, abandoning friends in airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    Is it OK to keep a food container if I'm not 100% certain it's mine?

    What should I do about flowers I sent someone that were less impressive than I was expecting?

    How do I tell my friend I'm no longer able to run her AirBNB business?

    How does one properly address an envelope to a couple when you're not sure what last names to use?

    What do I do about a friend who left me at the airport and went on our vacation without me?


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Leah knows the words to Toto's "Africa"

    Tagine on Wikipedia


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    CREDITS
    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
    Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton
    Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

    TRANSCRIPT
    Episode 111


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    • 31 min
    Playing Games, Gifting Soap, Petting Dogs, and More

    Playing Games, Gifting Soap, Petting Dogs, and More

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle playing games, giving soap as gifts, petting dogs without permission, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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    EPISODE CONTENTS


    AMUSE-BOUCHE: French onion soup


    A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Game night


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to charge your friends for your birthday party? What are your thoughts on gifting soap? How can I shut down condescending comments at the gym?


    VENT OR REPENT: Touching dogs without permission, Life imitating art


    CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the shoes, A nice review


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    Julia Child introducing French onion soup

    WhatNerd.com: "The 10 Golden Rules of Board Game Etiquette for Game Night Success"

    Original Chex Party Mix recipe

    Michael Douglas in "Falling Down"

    Photo of Lacey

    Intersect by Lexus

    Cutlery infographic episode

    Telling people their fly is down episode


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    CREDITS
    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
    Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton
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    TRANSCRIPT
    Episode 110
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    • 41 min

Customer Reviews

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Exactly What Is Needed

Blessings to you both & all the people involved in the podcast. So very important to remind the older generations & also teach the younger ones the importance of just being a good human. Social graces are the cornerstone of community.🙏❤️

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Love!

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A great palate cleanser

This podcast is delightful! To the point, light-hearted, witty and kind. I love the episodes when they have a rant or repentance for the week. Hilarious!

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