What I learnt from being called out about racism Just Me Being Me - No Apology

You know this show ain't about shying away from anything my friends, so today I share with you the biggest lessons I learnt from my public naming and shaming on Instagram and the check-ins that I had to do in order for it to be a true learning experience.
From the initial defensiveness, to sitting with the uncomfortable and confronting shit that was coming up for me to letting that pass so I could be in a place of listening and not letting my ego and it's need to feel like a "good person" take over.
I also share some of my not so "woke" moments when trying to call out my husband on his lack of engagement in the issues that are being brought to light at the moment. I made three mistakes that I can look back now and see how they contributed to it being a pretty unproductive and unconsious conversation.
In the episode I mention Harriet Lerner - here is the link to the podcast episodes she recorded with Brene Brown and also a link to her book Why Won't You Apologize?
https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/ (https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/)
https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=pd_sim_14_4?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=YQBKTFN60AV8FVQAEAB3 (https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-Betrayals/dp/1501129619/ref=pd_sim_14_4?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=YQBKTFN60AV8FVQAEAB3)