14 episodes

I am Nikki, a mom of two. I believe that our childhood experiences shape us as adults and can help empower our knowledge and actions as parents.
Are there things you wish someone had told you the truth about? Things you had to learn on your own but the experience would have been much easier if someone had warned you about it or told you the honest truth about it.
I wish I knew more about things. I wish I knew more about marriage before I got married, or I wish I knew more about parenting before I became a parent.

In each episode, we’ll have conversations with other women, and sometimes men, about childhood lessons learned and lessons lost and how they impact us. Hear from real women as they discuss relationships with their mothers, their relationships with their children, what they learned from their mothers, what they teach their children. We dive into other relationships, like marriage, relationships with other women, struggles with anxiety, fear of failure, and successes.
What I Wish is an excellent opportunity to learn from other women and hear how all mothers have shared experiences. Are you ready to find deep meaning in parenting?

We’ll share real-life tips and approaches to navigating life, using what we wish we knew to help us be better parents and better to ourselves. My goal is to help mothers and daughters have a good relationship from a young age into adulthood.

What I Wish Nkechi Agwuenu

    • Kids & Family

I am Nikki, a mom of two. I believe that our childhood experiences shape us as adults and can help empower our knowledge and actions as parents.
Are there things you wish someone had told you the truth about? Things you had to learn on your own but the experience would have been much easier if someone had warned you about it or told you the honest truth about it.
I wish I knew more about things. I wish I knew more about marriage before I got married, or I wish I knew more about parenting before I became a parent.

In each episode, we’ll have conversations with other women, and sometimes men, about childhood lessons learned and lessons lost and how they impact us. Hear from real women as they discuss relationships with their mothers, their relationships with their children, what they learned from their mothers, what they teach their children. We dive into other relationships, like marriage, relationships with other women, struggles with anxiety, fear of failure, and successes.
What I Wish is an excellent opportunity to learn from other women and hear how all mothers have shared experiences. Are you ready to find deep meaning in parenting?

We’ll share real-life tips and approaches to navigating life, using what we wish we knew to help us be better parents and better to ourselves. My goal is to help mothers and daughters have a good relationship from a young age into adulthood.

    How to Teach Your Kids Effective Communication: The Magic of Communication with Anna Scoby

    How to Teach Your Kids Effective Communication: The Magic of Communication with Anna Scoby

    In this episode, I chat with Anna Scoby, and I am a Communication Coach specializing in taking intimidating factors out of public speaking. Anna is the creator of Project Be You, an educational non-profit dedicated to youth. The project was created with one goal to instill confidence in my students through teaching them soft skills necessary for future success. I have been working with children for over seven years now and have developed several unique programs to teach soft skills, including communication skills, to kids of all ages. Project Be You was created as a project-based focusing on positive association. Years of working with youth provide insights into their development and needs.

    Teaching kids the magic of communication and the power of words can open up so many opportunities. If they know how to communicate, they can communicate well with each other, collaborate, and create and advocate for themselves effectively.

    It’s important for kids to have good communication skills at a young age because communication is like magic. With one word you can fall in love, you can start a war, you can build someone up or break them down. 

    IG for Anna Scoby: https://www.instagram.com/project_be_you_by_anna/

    Website: https://www.idarajoy.com/podcast-what-i-wish/

    • 1 hr 9 min
    What I Wish My Mother Taught Me About Marriage and Raising College aged Kids.

    What I Wish My Mother Taught Me About Marriage and Raising College aged Kids.

    I am joined by one of my favorite people in the entire universe. Selina is a mother to 3 amazing children, she has 2 in high school and one child in college. She and I discuss what she teaches her teenagers and how her relationship with her college-age daughter is now one of counselor and less parenting. We also dive into the truth about marriage and how unprepared we are going into it.

    What I learned from this episode is

    1. To teach my kids to love themselves, continuously tell my kids that they are loved

    2. Teach my kids to use their voice and learn to advocate for themselves

    3. Become my children's SafetyNet. Listen to them without judgment.

    • 35 min
    Raising a Daughter from a Father's Perspective-Trevor Gabbidon

    Raising a Daughter from a Father's Perspective-Trevor Gabbidon

    Trevor Gabbidon, author of Daughters Grow Up So Fast: From A Father's Perspective, joined me on the Podcast this week. I enjoyed listening to him talk about being a father and enjoying the ride and experiences of a girl dad. We dive into what goes on in the mind of a dad as he watches his little girl grow up. We also discuss how girls and boys are raised differently and the essential things every young father should know when they become a parent.

    • 41 min
    Men and Vulnerability: The effect of societal norms on the mental health of men.

    Men and Vulnerability: The effect of societal norms on the mental health of men.

    Men are often told to be strong, suck it up, and not show emotions. From a young age, society teaches most boys that being vulnerable isn't what a man should do, and most of them grow up believing that a man should not be vulnerable. I was struck by the fact that all of the mass shootings we have had in the United States were by men. To address my curiosity about the mass shootings, I invited Raymond Chukwuma, a Licensed Counselor, to discuss how societal norms affect men. We also discuss what parents can do to change the message boys receive to help them communicate their feelings much easier and show vulnerability. In this episode, Raymond and I discuss

    1. What his mother taught him 

    2. How societal norms shape the brain of a young man

    3. Creating a safe space for men to express themselves freely. 

    • 1 hr 17 min
    How to Build the Most Fulfilling Relationship with Your Children

    How to Build the Most Fulfilling Relationship with Your Children

    Sandra Trew is the founder of Get Real Parenting Coaching, www.getrealparentalcoaching.com, where she helps working parents balance their work/ home life so they can feel confident and not so overwhelmed.  In this episode, we talk about 

    How to deal with the common problems parents face 

    The two things all children want from their parents

    How to maintain consistency as parents

    How to heal your childhood wounds to better parent your children

    I learned from our conversation that intentional parenting requires parents to heal their childhood wounds to give their best to their children; I also learned to appreciate the importance of validating my children's feelings and talents.  We also discuss a father's role in the home and how dads can fulfill their role as a father by getting their needs met.  

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    • 53 min
    What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Validation and Judgement.

    What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Validation and Judgement.

    We all have a friend that just gets you, and when you are together, you just enjoy the time with each other.  My guest today is that friend to me.  We had a fantastic time talking about love, and validation as children and learning to take on the responsibility of validating yourself and not waiting on a parent or adult to validate you.  This episode goes off the rails at times.  What I learned from our conversation is to validate my kids; I also learned to appreciate the importance of validating my children's feelings and talents.  I knew that words really do matter.  My guest was absolutely vulnerable and this episode is perfect for a girl looking for ways to validate themselves so that they can show up authentically to the world. 

    • 1 hr 30 min