What If Your Turn-Ons Are Trying To Heal You #136

Your sex life doesn’t need more performance, it needs more truth in the body. We sit down with Darshana Avila, a trauma-informed somatic educator and sexological bodyworker featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love and Goop, to talk about what changes when you stop chasing “being good” and start building real connection to sensation, desire, and choice.

We dig into erotic wholeness: Eros as sexuality and also as creativity, vitality, and life force. From shame to BDSM misconceptions to the idea behind Existential Kink, we explore how turn-ons can be complex, how aversion can shift in the right consensual container, and why “don’t yuck another person’s yum” is more than a cute phrase. Darshana also explains why so many people say “I don’t know what I like,” and why that beginner’s mind can be the most powerful place to start.

Then we get practical about embodiment and nervous system regulation. We also talk about where tension can hide in the body and simple ways to reconnect through your senses in daily life.

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