70 episodes
When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees Lanise Antoine Shelley
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- Society & Culture
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5.0 • 54 Ratings
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What happens when the adoptee is centered as the hero in their own story? These are whole-hearted conversations on how we can create a thriving, healing, community and impactful relationships the centerpiece of our lives. This is for the adoptee, parents, and the adoption-curious.
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Ep. 69 SOLO: The Attachment Styles
Today we talk about the science of attachment styles inspired by the book "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller. This book has revolutionized how I approach all of my relationships. These are my reasons why you should read this book and how I now use it to healthfully allow people to be as they are.
REFERENCES:
Attached written by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller
Disordered Attachment Article
Support the show
CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com
SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!
DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS:
Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption
ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.
WATCH PANELS: Here!
JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":
HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":
RESOURCES ON ... -
Ep. 68 Shelby Redfield Kilgore: Behind the Lens
Today our guest is Shelby Redfield Kilgore who is a two time Emmy award-winning filmmaker and author of the blog, “Behind the Lens” and also co-writer of the book “Rooted in Adoption: A Collection of Adoptee Reflections”.
Today's topics:
Her filmmaking and how she found her artistic voiceHow the stories she collects have informed her own adoption journeyThe societal pressures of single mothers in Korea and The resentment that surfaced toward her culture because of what happened to her mother.The imperative of adoptive parent’s get thorough education before adoptingAnd her courage through her Breast cancer journeyGUEST: Shelby Redfield Kilgore
https://www.wearemirrorlight.com/
Support the show
CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com
SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!
DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS:
Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption
ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.
WATCH PANELS: Here!
JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":
HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":
RESOURCES ON ... -
Ep. 67 Melissa Guida-Richards: The rise of Adoptee Thoughts
Today we have author, activist, podcaster, and educative content creator Melissa Guida Richards; who was also a guest on episode 6 ,and a panelist on my 2020 panel series. A lot has happened since we last chatted a few years ago; Melissa's second book launched and her tik tok / IG platforms now have a huge following of people who want to learn more.
Topics today include:
The ramification of Separating siblingsHer relationship with her adoptive mother, and what it was like to be on the Cameron Hall show with her adoptive mother. What it means to filter content through an anti-racist lensHer work in the adoption community and her strategy to make lasting and systemic change. The harm of Social media platforms that advertise children and the dangers of pre-birth matchingRe-homing children on the internet (AKA human trafficking)We also talk about birth parents in crisis and the laws around their rights. She gives advice on how to protect your children’s story when you’re a parental content creator. How to not over-shareAnd then we finish with tips on how to not minimize the adoptee experienceGUEST: Melissa Guida Richards
adopteethoughts.com
Melissa's Workbooks
Support the show
CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com
SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!
DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS:
Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption
ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.
WATCH PANELS: Here!
JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":
HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":
RESOURCES ON ... -
Ep 66. matthew anthony: "You Can Not Burn The Sun" A Book of Poetry
Today I speak with poet, artist, and activist matthew anthony. Matthew has a podcast called "Little Did You Know" and a vibrant poetry book called "You Can Not Burn The Sun."
We discuss:
- Reclaiming ones name
- Rehoming and separating siblings
- What "with-ness" is in regards to solidarity
- And the resiliency of a black spirit brought up in a Sun Down town
GUEST: matthew anthony
https://drum.io/cantburnthesun?fbclid=IwAR0XqFmMZsW8-XJwJO4UiyiJugu-LIgsbWJIt9UMHj-vtGBOCU9reHZk8N4
REFERENCES:
James Baldwin “The Fire Next Time”
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Support the show
CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com
SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!
DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS:
Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption
ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.
WATCH PANELS: Here!
JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":
HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":
RESOURCES ON ... -
Ep. 65 Lorah Gerald: The Adopted Chameleon
Today, we speak with Lorah Gerald (aka The Adopted Chameleon). It was a delight to have a light worker with such a profound grasp of a plethora of healing modalities. Lorah is a trauma-informed Kundalini Yoga instructor, Intuitive, Tarot & Tea reader, and Reiki healer. You can find her on Instagram @theadopteechamelean sharing her gifts as a healer through movement and mindful practices.
We talk about:
The adoption summit she attended called “Untangling Our Roots”Lorah’s Medium energy workerHer Kundalini Yoga practiceThe healing powers of wearing colors to brighten your moodThe Baby Scoop era that she was born into and the complexities of same race adoption. The difference between acute trauma, chronic trauma and complex traumaHow she became “The Adoptee Chameleon”We end with how you can change your energy through breath work, where she leads us through practice. GUEST: Lorah Gerald
My website,
https://lorahgerald.com/
My linktree,
https://linktr.ee/Lorahwg
REFERENCES:
https://untanglingourroots.org/
Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver
Support the show
CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com
SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!
DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS:
Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption
ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.
WATCH PANELS: Here!
JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":
HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":
RESOURCES ON ... -
Ep. 64 SOLO: Why is May Mental Health Awareness Month & Asian, Asian American & Pacific Islander Month?
Today it’s just me.This month has been many things for me. Officially it’s Mental Health awareness month and Asian, Asian American, Pacific Islander Heritage Month. I want to take the time to honor both things. First I’ll tell you why Mental Health awareness is so imperative on a personal level and on a community level.
REFERENCES:
Film One Child Nation
Asian Nation Blog
https://www.asian-nation.org/index.shtml
Asian American Contributions:
https://www.nyxt.nyc/blog/asian-american-pacific-american-heritage-5-facts/
Transracial Adoption statistics:
https://brandongaille.com/21-gripping-transracial-adoption-statistics/
Support the show
CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com
SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!
DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS:
Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption
ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.
WATCH PANELS: Here!
JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":
HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
NYC ARTICLE ON THE USE OF "BIPOC":
RESOURCES ON ...
Customer Reviews
Much needed podcast & incredibly healing!
This podcast is so beautifully done. While the conversation can be based on sensitive subjects the message is always from a place of healing and empowerment.
She also makes great book recommendations. As a new reader I️ am always appreciative of good recommendations. Overall great series! Excited for the next season!
Wonderous
Beautiful podcast, adoptees have the safety, understanding and acceptance from the gentle and loving host, my favorite podcast of all I listen to. Thank you
A very important, needed podcast!
I’m often amazed by what I didn’t know I didn’t know. Lanise shines light on a world I thought I knew but did not. She opened my eyes to the complexity of a system we often take for granted a must listen to for anyone but especially those considering or with adopted children. A very important, needed podcast doing great things.