121 episodes

Adoptees telling their own stories of life in adoption, their search for their birth family, and how their reunion attempt turned out. Stories that make you laugh, cry, or simply say "wow".



This podcast has two purposes:

1) To help you explore your own feelings about your adoption, accept your desire understand your own personal history, and decide for yourself whether reunification with your biological relatives is right for you. It will help you understand how others have dealt with issues related to protecting the feelings of their adopted families who may be supportive of your search, or question your motives and present challenges.



2) For non-adoptees, this podcast will help you understand some of what is in the minds of your friends, family members, or others who are adopted. Perhaps you had questions for them but you didn’t know if you should ask.



The stories will make you smile or bring you to tears, but they’re all true as told by the people who lived them. In them, I hope you’ll find something that inspires you, validates your feelings about wanting to search, or motivates you to have the strength along your journey to learn “Who Am I Really?”

Who Am I Really? Damon L. Davis

    • Self-Improvement
    • 4.9, 96 Ratings

Adoptees telling their own stories of life in adoption, their search for their birth family, and how their reunion attempt turned out. Stories that make you laugh, cry, or simply say "wow".



This podcast has two purposes:

1) To help you explore your own feelings about your adoption, accept your desire understand your own personal history, and decide for yourself whether reunification with your biological relatives is right for you. It will help you understand how others have dealt with issues related to protecting the feelings of their adopted families who may be supportive of your search, or question your motives and present challenges.



2) For non-adoptees, this podcast will help you understand some of what is in the minds of your friends, family members, or others who are adopted. Perhaps you had questions for them but you didn’t know if you should ask.



The stories will make you smile or bring you to tears, but they’re all true as told by the people who lived them. In them, I hope you’ll find something that inspires you, validates your feelings about wanting to search, or motivates you to have the strength along your journey to learn “Who Am I Really?”

    017 – He Is My Brother And I Will Find Him

    017 – He Is My Brother And I Will Find Him

    Renee searched for her mother literally her whole life.  But her search predated the internet so she frequented the library and scoured local high school year books. with hopes of finding someone she felt she was related to. When she located her biological mother she refused to share any information about Renee’s biological father and forbade…

    • 34 min
    Damon – Thank You Missouri

    Damon – Thank You Missouri

    I figured since I started season 6 with some personal stories of what I had been going on in my life I should end this season with an update on how things have been going personally. I wanna thank everyone who reached out with support and love for the things our family has endured.


    Damon


    Hey it’s me!


    I figured since I started season 6 with some personal stories of what I had been going on in my life I should end this season with an update on how things have been going personally.


    I wanna thank everyone who reached out with support and love for the things our family has endured 


    When we left off, my mother Veronica was in a 96 hour hold at a mental facility which luckily went through a weekend so it was actually more than 96 hours in total. 


    She was released on a Monday because they couldn’t hold her any longer. 


    The determined my mom was not homicidal and she was not suicidal - and in their words, "it’s not not illegal to be demented"


    After all she is still an adult and she was responsible for herself and her actions, regardless of everything that led up to her institutionalization


    Astonishingly, the staff were ready to put her in a cab in which she could have requested to go anywhere. 


    Thankfully my aunt Bonnie, Veronica’s younger sister who lives in Missouri, picked her up then took her to the house she lost in foreclosure at her request.


    there was nothing Bonnie could do so she dropped Mom off then watched her from nearby.


    The guy who bought the house at auction, Kevin, did too.


    He was part of our team monitoring Mom to know when she was at the house because his team was working there, and we needed to know where she was. 


    We coordinated for Kevin to call the police because in essence, Mom was trespassing at his home


    The police picked her up again, then dropped her at the Hampton inn on nearby Belton.


    I called to introduce myself to the staff and share Veronica’s story — The staff had unwittingly just become a part of my team


    It was weird to have mom out on the streets, independent, but not at her house.


    The only thing I was certain about was she was definitely going to try to go back to that house...


    … and she did.


    The Next morning she went down the front desk of the hotel and bummed a ride from a hotel front desk staff person who was getting off from his night shift. 


    My mother, the super risk averse safety conscious woman I had always known had just bummed a ride from a total stranger. 


    When she got to the house, apparently she couldn’t get in the front door so she somehow opened the garage door and went in the house through that entry door. 


    I’m sure you can imagine Kevin pure shock when he showed up to the house to find Veronica inside like some paranoid schizophrenic magician.


    She Spoke harshly to Kevin, pushed him, said she called the mortgage company and they said HE could not pay the mortgage — of course she made no such call


    The Next morning my mother tried to walk to the house from the Hampton inn...


    That’s a 5 mile walk and keep in mind she’s 74


    with a diagnosed blood clot in her leg...


    … and it was bitter winter cold outside in February.


    The next morning she took a cab to the house. 


    Later in the week she eventually rented a car and all I could do was hope for the best. 


    One evening the staff at the front desk of the Hampton Inn called me because she was still out into the evening, which was uncharacteristic for her routine. 


    Usually she'd get up in the morning and go downstairs for breakfast, go back upstairs and pack everything from her room, take her belongings out to her car and tell the staff she was going home. 


    They stopped calling me to ask if they should hold her room at the hotel because even though she portrayed that she was checking...

    • 14 min
    127 – I Think I Was Afraid Of Knowing

    127 – I Think I Was Afraid Of Knowing

    Jim, who now lives in Delaware, said growing up he had no desire to search for his first family. After his parents passed and he found his adoption name change form, his feelings about a search changed. While he missed his biological mother, one of her lifelong friends shared some intimate pieces of the woman’s life, including his birth father's name. Jim made the trip to Texas to meet his birthfather, who felt re-energized in his final months by Jim’s emergence. This is Jim’s journey. 

    • 46 min
    126 – Welcome Home

    126 – Welcome Home

    Andrew lives in Murphy, Oregon, near Grant’s Pass but his is an east coast story. Andrew grew up kinda feeling like an odd man out in his family, not fitting his parents ideas of who he would be. In an amazing coincidence, his pen pal relationship with an elementary school class was key to unlocking his adoption reunion search. The open road took him to meet his birth father who introduced him to his maternal grandmother.She welcomed Andrew at first, but ultimately she was unable to separate him from the memories of what his birthfather did to her daughter years before. This is Andrew’s journey.  

    • 44 min
    125 – You Can Forgive People From Afar

    125 – You Can Forgive People From Afar

    Lisa called me from New Jersey to share her story of growing up in an abusive home. She had one unrelated adopted sister who didn’t have the same experience in their house that Lisa had. Lisa always felt like the odd person out and hoped that reunion with her birth mother would be a rescue from those feelings.The opposite was true with her maternal connection which fell apart twice, but Lisa’s paternal ties have made her feel accepted for her nature versus how she was… or wasn’t nurtured. This is Lisa’s journey

    • 49 min
    124 – I Didn’t Do Anything To Him

    124 – I Didn’t Do Anything To Him

    Gayla called me, with her best friend Lisa, from Georgia. Gayla said she was loved so much by her adopted parents that you never would have known she was an adoptee. When she found her biological mother they got really close until the woman said something unkind about her adopted mother that strained their relationship some. Locating her biological father, Gayla was met with rejection until she drove 5 hours to meet the man face to face. A well intended misstep drove a wedge between them, so she holds out hope that her apology will be meaningful and they can be friends. This is Gayla’s journey. 

    • 47 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
96 Ratings

96 Ratings

maplelakemom ,

Excellent

As an NPE I have found this podcast extremely helpful as I can relate to many of these stories as I continue to heal and find peace.

An adopted mom ,

Informative and interesting

Listened to 3 episodes so far. As adoptive mother I find these conversations helpful because they give me perspective about how my infant adopted child May think about things. Questions I should be prepared to discuss and some of the things I need to overcome to allow him to grow.

joy of Adoption ,

Not all adoptions are problematic

I am an adoptive parent. My daughter was 2 months old when she was adopted internationally. She is now in her 30s. We were involved with the adoption agency throughout our daughter’s childhood. She is a grounded adult. I feel that this podcast only focuses on the negative aspects of the adoption experience. A balance of those involved with adoption who have had a positive experience would be welcome.

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