Do you ever look back on your life and think, “I should be further along than I am”? What’s the missing element? It may be lack of action, which is often caused by fear. Join The Queen of Collaboration, Speaker, 6 Times Bestselling Author, and Fear Buster, Lynda Sunshine West, as she shares not only what she learned by facing a fear every day in 2015, but also her tips, tricks, and hacks into taking action. You can wish, hope, dream, pray, desire, manifest whatever you want in life, it can be staring you in the face, but Nothing Happens Without Action. It’s there waiting for you to grab it. Join the conversation on how to go from terrified to terrific, from fearful to fearless, and from procrastinator to actionator. What will you do with your newfound confidence and action-taking personality? We’re excited to find out. Take action and change your life! Connect with Lynda at www.womenactiontakers.com
Living a Fruitful Life Despite Some Dips Along the Way 🍓❤️🙏🏼 with Shari Fitzpatrick
Lynda Sunshine West: I'm super excited to introduce Shari because I met her like I'm meeting a lot of people in Clubhouse. It's so amazing because you were in there, Shari. You were in there in a room. I don't remember what the room was because that's not what's important. What's important is that you were speaking and I was listening. And then I was, like, oh, my God, this woman is so awesome. I love her story. I wonder if she'll come and speak at my event. That was my question. And I reached out to you on Instagram and I asked you and you said, yes.
Ladies, if you never ask you never know the answer.
Shari Fitzpatrick: Right. Exactly. Exactly. And I love Wayne Gretzky's quote that you're always going to miss 100 percent of the shots that you never take, you know?
Lynda Sunshine West: Yeah. That is so true. I love that because it really is true. It's really about asking. Yeah. Some people are going to say no. Some people -- a lot of people are going to say no. But you just keep asking them. Keep asking other people. But eventually people will say yes, I'm going to tell you this, that about 95 percent of the people I ask say yes. I'm going to ask you, Shari, right off the bat, because here you are. You created this multi-million dollar company. We're going to get into your story in just a minute. But you created this multi-million dollar company and you still said yes to this woman. You didn't know anything about me. You don't know what my network is about. Zero information. And literally, I think it was about three or four minutes later that you responded, Yes. So I would love to hear from you because, you know, you are successful. Why did you say yes?
Shari Fitzpatrick: Well, because I was in your shoes. You and I are a lot alike, you know. So there were people in my life that helped me and supported me. And I had the same questions, you know, why would they want to help me? But they did. And I'm still asking for help. I sent off a pitch last night to a broadcaster that I want to give me a little shout-out that I can use for some Mother's Day marketing. So I'm doing the same thing as you are. And that's just part of being an entrepreneur. It's so important to surround yourself by wisdom and reach out and do that. But again, just giving back, paying it forward. And today I'm rebranding and starting the -- you know, I'm an old school marketing girl. I like conferences and live audiences like you just mentioned. And so I'm kicking and screaming, but learning social media a little more and kind of poking around and Clubhouse is really cool. So kind of checking that out a little bit to help me to build my new Instagram and so forth. So, yeah, that's why I said "Yes."
Lynda Sunshine West: Well, fantastic. I'm glad. I'm glad I asked because previously in my life before about six years ago, I would never even have asked. I would have been too scared. And so I'm glad I don't let the fear anymore stop me, because like I said, I could have not reached out and this never would have happened. But I'm just glad to have you here because your story truly is amazing. And I want you to tell the ladies, share your story, because how did you get started? What made you decide to start your chocolate-covered strawberry company? And then why did you have to sell the company? I love this part of your story because it's just -- it hits home. And then what made you decide to start? So she had Shari's Berries and now she has Buried in Chocolate. And I got to share that I posted on Instagram, I think it was that you were going to be speaking at the event, and I said, I'm excited to have her. And she said, I'm BERRY excited. So do you say berries in everything you do?
You're Only 1 Step Away From Joy with Lynda Sunshine West
This is a really important topic to me because I spent so many years of my life being miserable, absolutely miserable. And you know, when you're miserable, you don't really realize how miserable you are until you move into a place of joy.
This happened for me when I was about 51 years old. At 51, I ended up hiring a life coach and my life coach helped me to unlock a bunch of different things about myself in discovering that I wasn't happy. I was actually absolutely miserable and that I didn't even know what joy was. Sometimes you hear these words, joy. I've got joy. I've got, I've got the joy, joy, joy, joy down in my heart, down in my heart, down in my heart. I got the joy, joy, joy, joy. That's a song we used to sing when I was young. Um, I don't remember if it was going to church or not. 'Cause I hardly ever went to church. Our family just wasn't into church, but I do remember that song and I remember singing it and it was always a fun song to sing, but did I really know what that meant? I got the joy in my heart. I don't think I had any clue what that really meant.
And do you? If you don't know what it means, please go back and listen to the previous episode with Anne Scottlin, because she talks about joy. Talks about living a joyful life and moving into that place of joy. So go back and listen to her episode. She's going to talk to you about joy.
But what I wanted to talk about is my journey of discovering joy and what that means for me. So joy to me is a feeling that when something happens in your life, you can feel it resonating inside of your body. Something that really makes you like squeal. There's a saying, Oh, my God. You squealed with joy. That's because it's so filled with excitement that, it brings a tremendous amount of joy to you. And that for me is what joy is all about.
And I really couldn't experience joy until I learned to love myself.
I couldn't really experience joy until I learned to love myself. And this is one thing that my life coach helped me with. And I talk about my life coach a lot. Why? Because she literally opened my mind, my heart, my eyes, my soul. She opened everything for me to see what was truly there for me. To see who I really am. What I'm all about.
You know, before I met her, I literally thought I had no value, zero value on this planet. I was 51 years old when I met her. I lived 51 years thinking I didn't have any value. Now I was just living my life on a daily basis. You're going here and there and doing this and that. I did some fun things and did some exciting things, but I never really felt like I had an amount of value. And what's crazy about that is my husband, who I've been with for 32 years, he's always telling me how amazing I am, how incredible I am, what a wonderful person I am, but I didn't believe him.
And I think this is where the distinction comes in for loving yourself and loving others. Because until I loved myself, I wasn't able to hear what my husband was saying about me. And all of this started, all of this started, this pain and misery started when I was a child.
At five years old, I ran away, I was gone for an entire week. I only went to the neighbor's house, but for all intents and purposes, at five years old, my plan was to be gone forever. I never wanted to go back, but after a week my mom brought me back home. She knew where I was and she brought me back home. But what happened was while I was gone for that one week, something got locked in my mind that my family doesn't love me, they don't want me around. I have no value. And I carried that around with me for decades to come, 46 more years to come, until I was 51 years old.
Discover the Power of JOY in Your Life with Anne Scottlin
Lynda Sunshine West: Here we go. Another amazing, amazing episode of Women Action Takers Podcast. I am excited about today's topic because, as many of you know, I faced a fear every single day in 2015. So what's the opposite of fear? Joy. So what if you could discover the power of joy in your life and live that on a daily basis?
I want to welcome my guest today, Anne Scottlin. Anne has a diverse background. I mean, absolutely amazing. I love the things that she's done in her life. And she's got an Instagram and Twitter following of millions of views a month. And I got to talk to her a little bit about that because that is... how do you do that, Anne? We'll get into that.
As a diversified entrepreneur, she's a motivational coach, an author, and a podcaster. She's passionate about helping you discover the power of joy in your life, your work and your world. Living to the fullest does not have to be hard. You already are closer than you think.
I want to welcome Anne. Thank you so much for being here. I'm super excited to interview you today and find out how did you get into what you're doing? All of the things you've done. I know you're an actress as well. You just have done so many different things. I want to know, like where did it all start? Were you always joyful?
Anne Scottlin: Oh, thank you, Lynda. Thank you so much for having me here. It's been such a delight to get to know you and I'm thrilled to be here on your show. I think the work you're doing is amazing all around the empowerment, all of that. Just super thrilled to be part of your, part of your work here. Yeah, that point, that's a loaded question. I think I think we, most of us were joyful when we were very, very young when we were toddlers, young children, unless someone was unfortunate, in that age they were in a very traumatic situation and some people are, but I think most, most of us before we really understand what the world is all about, we have sort of that natural ebulant, joy, just sort of we get excited at the simplest things and we, we, we talk about how that, Oh, it's just cause just cause she's a baby, just cause he's a little kid, but I think it's really, actually something much more deeper and organic to who we really are before we learn all the programming, before we take all the hits before we carry the scars before we, we have that sort of joy deep within.
So I'm one of those people who remembers my childhood all the way back to two and three. Yes, it's kind of scary actually. So, I remember stuff clearly from clear back that I remember what it felt like to have that kind of joy. So I guess I've been fortunate in that way to have that something that you can kind of compare it to. And as a young kid, I probably had it until I will kind of have some version of it. Life was getting more serious, but probably till I was seven or eight and then I kind of was like, Oh, this is the world. I came from a strange background. I know you came from a very difficult background. Mine was different in a whole other sense, probably really story for another day, but basically grew up in an extremely conservative religious environment.
Very, very, very isolated from everything from TV, from fiction, from radio, from most people, from anyone outside of this very small sort of religious group. And so it was a very strange place to grow up and you know, you really buy into everything you're taught because you literally don't know any different, you don't have other friends your age, you don't have other adult role models. Other than those who kind of are in the same philosophy as say your parents might be. I'm a very people person and I love people.
Everyone Has a Passion; What’s Yours? With Teresa Snider
I’m super excited to introduce you to a very innovative, amazing, fascinating woman, Teresa Snider. She’s going to give us some really great tips and tricks of things that you can do in your business and your personal life. I’m not sure exactly where we’re going to go with this. It’s going to be exciting to see where we do go, but it’s something that you can do to take action on today tomorrow, or next week that’s going to uplevel you either in your personal life or your professional life. Teresa, welcome to the show. I’m excited to have you here.
Teresa Snider: I am so excited cause I just love who you are, the things that you’ve been creating inside of your Women Action Takers and the fact that you’ve found your love for what you do definitely is a draw for me.
Lynda Sunshine West: That’s cool. You know, it is true, right? When we find what we absolutely love to do, it’s really important to do that. And have you found your thing, like the thing that you absolutely love doing?
Teresa Snider: Yes. It’s kind of a two-fold thing is that I really love having conversations via interview, just like this. Even if it’s me being interviewed or me interviewing someone else. And it’s really a level of conversation because I think there’s some unique intimacy level that goes deep whenever you’re really in a situation where you’re conversing back and forth and you’re also providing content.
And so that’s something I also like to do is provide content so that’s what I love. And then the other thing that I love that I’ve always had a passion for is being in the fitness industry, is that now knowing my niche market is women, women that are 45, 48, 50, 55. So many people told me, Teresa. Like when I was coming, getting ready to come to the red carpet, I had a friend call me and she goes, Teresa, you’re too old for this, like stop it.
Lynda Sunshine West: That was a friend? I’m sorry.
Teresa Snider: Yes, yes, yes, it was. And, and you know she was saying it from her place of concern or whatever. And so, yes, I was hurt and yes, we are taking different paths at the moment. I still love her as a friend, but you know, that’s what happens I think with women or friends or people, as I see and I’m really going for something. And I think, you know, even my parents were like, are you going to get a job? Like you might want to think about getting a job. So I think people, when they don’t understand and they haven’t been in these intimate conversations and they don’t know what it’s like to really find their passion, then they do question what it is that made us.
Lynda Sunshine West: It can be scary for people, right? Those other people in our lives that have known us our whole life and known as, as you were. And then I don’t know about you, but for me, I didn’t like flip the switch until I was 51 where I started embarking on this journey of just doing different things and taking action in my life. I had been in pretty much action-less kind of person. And I didn’t know what passion was until just recently.
So, you know, discovering your passion. What puts you on that path and what kind of a tip would you give maybe to the audience about if they’re like, you know, I don’t have a passion. I don’t know what my passion is. What kind of tip would you give them to help them to maybe discover their passion or at least move along that lines?
Teresa Snider: Totally. Because I would say that really first and foremost, everyone has a passion. Read the rest of the transcript here.
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Imposter Syndrome Is Real with Lynda Sunshine West
Man. It was decades ago, but I remember it like it was yesterday. I was attending a military ball and it was with an officer. So it was an officer's ball. And I had met this guy through a friend of mine (this was before I was married by the way), but I had met this guy through a friend of mine and I was all excited. It was going to be a blind date. I was going to go to this military ball and I was about 22, 23 years old. And I decided that I was going to go all out. So I went out and I rented a gown, this beautiful blue gown. It was so pretty. It had sequins on it and pearls and it was just so beautiful. And then I went out and I paid to get my hair done and I paid somebody to do my makeup.
I even rented some really fancy shoes. Like my whole outfit was probably about $300 or $400 and this was way back in the 80s. So that was a long time ago and that was a lot of money. That's a lot of money today. But back then it was like an extra lot of money. And I showed up at the military ball. I met the guy. I don't even remember his name or anything, but I met him and we hit it off, you know we were cordial with each other, but as time went on, it was time for me to meet people. I’m the kind of person who would prefer to walk into a room and just kind of sit down without talking to anybody. I'm very shy person when it comes to meeting people. Once I get to meet you, I'm okay.
But getting to meet people is a really tough thing for me. It still is. Even though I faced a fear every day, you know, in 2015, I faced a fear every day and meeting people is still something that I am having a struggle with. So anyway, here we were at this event and he was taking me around and introducing me to people and it was really a weird time for me because at that time I was working in the court system. I was in the jail system, even really, it was at the jail, not the court system. I was working in the jail and I was a booking clerk and I was embarrassed of my job. I was really embarrassed of the job that I did, but it was the job that I did. And so here I was with these people who were military spouses, as well as the military officers.
And they were all officers, cause it was an officer's ball. And I felt like a frickin’ imposter. Like, what am I doing here?
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