This podcast is for women in ministry who want to break free from the overwhelm, lead with focus, and have time for their family and friends.
Your host, Jen Howat has served the local church as pastor and coach for over 14 years and understands first hand how easily we can become overwhelmed with all there is to do. She gives strategies and encouragement to help you strengthen your leadership, and speaks candidly about the unique challenges we face as women.
Tips to Help You Plan Your Day [EP:904]
Do you ever go through the day just trying to keep up? Does it feel like you're running late and can't keep up? Does time get away from you? It is easy for the day to become hectic and to feel like you don't have enough time. But there are a few simple things that can help you plan your day to make it go as smooth as possible.
Tips to Help You Plan Your Day Many people have said that a successful day starts the night before and there are a few things you can do before your day even begins:
Look at the day ahead of time. This way you are not caught off guard by surprises and can plan thoughtfully and not on the fly.
Make decisions the night before. Take the guess work out of as many things as possible and save yourself precious time and mental energy by making simple decisions the night before. For instance, what will you wear? What's for dinner? What will your workout be for the day? Whatever helps you get moving and keeps you moving!
Connect with the people who will be part of your day. Have an appointment with someone? Send them a quick email to remind them. Does your family have to be somewhere? Kids need to be picked up by someone else? A quick conversation can make sure everyone is on the same page.
Set an end time to your task or appointment upfront...and stick to it. Whether you are meeting with someone in your office or working on a message, set an end time. As you're sitting down for coffee, a hospital visit, or a staff meeting, let people know how much time you have before you'll need to get to your next commitment. You'll set yourself up for success by deciding ahead of time when you need to finish.
Start your day by preparing your heart. We all have our plans but many days never go as planned! But if you prepare your heart before the day begins you will be able to experience peace and joy in the midst of the day even if it doesn't go according to your plans.
When you do these simple little things and practice them on a regular basis, you will set up your day for success, no matter what comes.
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Why Doing More is Hurting Your Church [EP:093]
Do you remember the saying, "you can never have too much of a good thing?" Well, in some instances, that can spell disaster, particularly in ministry.
We are a society that believes the larger the initiative, and the more you do, the better. But in many cases doing more means achieving less. An increased number of events and doing things on a grander scale gives us a false sense of effectiveness. This type of thinking extends beyond secular culture and has infiltrated the church and various ministry organizations as well.
Many people who serve in ministry feel overloaded and fatigued. They go from one big project to the next. They are spread thin, and their leadership suffers. Instead of undertaking a few high-quality ventures that spur transformation, they crank out program after program that has minimal impact, leaving them and their people tired and overused.
More+Bigger DOES NOT EQUAL Better! You can be a relevant church or ministry organization without overloading your team members and your calendar. You can be dynamic and impact people with the Gospel without saying yes to every opportunity. Just because you could...doesn't mean you should.
I know what you may be thinking. "But we do a lot of good things!" I do not doubt that you do. But even too many good things can lead to burnout and overwhelm.
You will run on empty and decrease your impact if you are involved in and advance everything that is recognized as "good." Too many things, even good things, can be a detriment to your ministry, let alone to your soul. Too many good initiatives crammed into your schedule can steal your joy. Too many good things can make you run around like crazy, too many good things can take a bite out of your marriage and family, too many good things can keep you from having quality time with God. Too many good things can derail you and dilute your effectiveness for the Kingdom.
If you want to model well for others how to share life and the Gospel, do a few things well and create plenty of space and margin. Creating margin within your day or week is not irresponsible or a waste of time. It's in the cracks and crevices of unplanned time that we are renewed, relationships are nurtured, Jesus is shared, ideas are sparked, and God is heard.
In what ways are you continually chasing the pursuit of more? Where do you need to scale back? What few things can you do well?
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What God Says About You [EP:092]
Today, God invites you to open your heart and allow His word to be spoken over you to strength your soul. There is nothing required of you. No call to action. Just come and receive and know how much God delights in you and in this opportunity to love you today.
Dealing with Expectations in Ministry [EP:091]
Trying to figure out how to manage all the expectations in ministry?
In this episode, we go deeper into what lies beneath expectations and what to do with them if they are something we can't do.
Key Points Shared
What are expectations?
Assumptions, presumptions Hopes What they think would happen in the future State of Anticipating Feeling of what should happen Where do they come from?
Family, friends, neighbors, schools, people in the place of our ministry Formed and shaped by past experiences and personal definition of responsibilities. Things to consider. Are the expectations:
conscious realistic spoken/written agreed upon What do you do with them?
Ask God about the condition of your heart and for His guidance. If it was not agreed upon, acknowledge this in a kind way by saying, "I didn’t know that’s what you were expecting" or
simply, "I’m sorry, I am not able to do that." If it was agreed upon, start a conversation. Talk about it. This is what I can do...this is what I can’t do right now. OR I am not able to do [____________], what would you like me to put my time and energy towards? You can't control whether or not someone else's expectation is reasonable. You can't control how they will receive your "no," if they will agree or understand. You CAN control the posture and motivation of your heart.
*Also mentioned in the episode, Geri Scazzero, author and spiritual leader/mentor.
4 Things that Get in the Way of Creating Healthy Boundaries in Ministry [EP:090]
When it come to healthy boundaries, what gets in your way?
This is a question I recently asked and the responses boiled down to 4 key things.
I don't have a mentor. There is no one to help me figure out what this looks like and encourage me along the way. I don't know how to say no. Am I allowed to say no? How do I do that? What do I say no to? I am genuinely interested in the things I am asked to do. I would enjoy it and honestly, I'd be good at it! I don't know how to manage all of the expectations.
If any of these barriers get in your way, join me for the Margin Maker workshop. We'll help you get clear on your priorities, learn how to say "no," create a plan, shift your mindset and help you establish margin (which means you have to create healthy boundaries) for the long haul. Enrollment ends April 16th at 6:00p CT. Learn more HERE.
Does Your Ministry Help You Be You?
Does all that you do for God help you be your whole self? The answer should be yes, but many of us find that we end up losing ourselves along the way. Too many great, godly women are leaving their ministry positions. Some may step out of the position of authority, while others stay but are dying on the inside. We say yes to God and our God given assignment but end up drifting to this place where we are not able to be the true, complete, whole person God called us to be.
Far too many times, while we begin ministry with enthusiasm and hope, it ends up consuming all of who we are and tends to put to death the other vital pieces of our lives. None of us wake up and think, "let's say yes to ministry but ignore every other piece of ourselves or neglect important relationships," but it can happen if we are not careful.
A genuine encouragement to women in ministry
Are you a woman in ministry who needs encouragement from someone who understands what you go through daily, weekly, yearly as you pour your heart into the call on your life? - Jen’s podcast is is exactly what you need!
I have been listening to this podcast for about a month. The first question she asks in Episode Number One intrigued me and I just wanted more. If you want healing and wholeness for your undernourished soul (#allofus), this is the place to listen! Thank you Jen for your heart that brings help to every single one of us.
You will be blessed by listening to this!
If you take the time to listen to this podcast you won’t regret it. It’s like Jen is speaking right to YOU! Her delivery is calm, reassuring, personal and REAL. You will be blessed by listening. Thank you Jen for sharing this wisdom and insight with us.