You Have the Power - The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse

Darla Ridilla
You Have the Power - The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse

You Have the Power: The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse is a bold and empowering podcast for high-performing women who are done settling. Hosted by Darla Ridilla—a certified somatic trauma-informed coach, relationship expert, and survivor of narcissistic abuse—this show cuts through the noise to help you stop attracting the wrong partners and start creating the relationships you truly deserve. If you’re successful on the outside but feel stuck, unseen, or disconnected in your relationships, this podcast is your wake-up call. You’ll hear raw personal stories, practical tools, and unfiltered conversations that help you break unhealthy patterns, reconnect to your intuition, and heal at the nervous system level. Each episode is a truth-telling space to help you uncover the real reasons behind your relationship struggles and guide you toward embodied self-worth and emotional freedom. You’ve done the work in every area of your life—now it’s time to reclaim your power in love and connection.

  1. 44: Choosing Rest Over Hustle - A Revolutionary Act of Self Trust

    6D AGO

    44: Choosing Rest Over Hustle - A Revolutionary Act of Self Trust

    Send us a text In this solo episode, Darla Ridilla continues her powerful series The Body Remembers by exploring what it truly means to choose rest over hustle—and why, for trauma survivors, that choice can feel revolutionary. Darla shares real stories from her own life and business about what happens when you stop overriding your body’s wisdom and start trusting it instead. From letting go of misaligned relationships to honoring intuitive nudges in her move back to Colorado, this episode offers raw insight into the discomfort, the growth, and the radiance that comes when we stop pushing and start listening. This episode is a call to: Notice how your body signals misalignmentEmbrace rest as a form of radical self-trustAllow radiance and peace without guiltSay no, even when it disappoints others—and still feel wholeIf you’ve ever felt torn between honoring your needs and meeting others’ expectations, Darla’s reflections will remind you that your rest is sacred and your intuition is enough. Learn more about the Self Love Sisterhood: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/self-love-sisterhood Find Darla Ridilla at: Website: https://www.highvaluewoman.info Sign up for newsletter: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/newsletter Podcast: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550835718631 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvaluewoman7/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighValueWoman-m7w Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/highvaluewoman7/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darla-ridilla-3179b110/

    20 min
  2. 43: Why Butterflies Are Sometimes Warnings, Not Love With Corissa Stepp

    JUN 2

    43: Why Butterflies Are Sometimes Warnings, Not Love With Corissa Stepp

    Send us a text This is Part 2 of The Body Remembers: Somatics & Trauma Recovery, a special series exploring the intersection of trauma, the nervous system, and healing. In today’s episode, I’m joined by Corissa Stepp, Holistic Trauma Recovery Coach, Author, and founder of the Savvy & StrongHER Community. With her trauma-informed, soul-centered approach, Corissa helps women break free from the trauma bonds of narcissistic abuse and return to a life of peace, purpose, and self-love. Together we explore: How somatic intelligence helps you decode the “butterflies” we mistake for loveWhy your nervous system—not your thoughts—holds the key to real recoveryWhat Human Design and sound healing can reveal about your trauma patternsThe difference between external and internal boundaries—and why both matterThe power of reparenting yourself and reconnecting with your body’s truthCorissa also shares powerful insights from her new book, The Savvy Girl’s Guide to Thriving Beyond Narcissistic Abuse—a must-read for survivors who are ready to move beyond survival into thriving. Whether you’re just beginning to wake up from toxic patterns or you’ve been walking this path for a while, this conversation is a grounding, validating, and empowering space to be reminded: you are not broken, and your body remembers because it’s trying to keep you safe. Corissa Stepp: 📖 Corissa’s Book: The Savvy Girl’s Guide to Thriving Beyond Narcissistic Abuse – available now - https://www.amazon.com/Savvy-Girls-Thriving-Beyond-Narcissistic/dp/196134789X 🌐 Website: corissastepp.com 📸 Instagram: @corissastepp Darla Ridilla: Reclaiming Your Worth free masterclass: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/reclaiming-your-worth-masterclass Find Darla Ridilla at: Website: https://www.highvaluewoman.info Sign up for newsletter: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/newsletter Podcast: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550835718631 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvaluewoman7/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighValueWoman-m7w Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/highvaluewoman7/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darla-ridilla-3179b110/

    1h 12m
  3. 42: How Trauma Lives in the Body & the Path Back to Yourself

    MAY 26

    42: How Trauma Lives in the Body & the Path Back to Yourself

    Send us a text Welcome to the kickoff of my powerful 4-part series, The Body Remembers: Somatics & Trauma Recovery. In this solo episode, I dive deep into an introduction to somatic healing—what it is, how trauma lives in the body, and how reconnecting with our physical sensations can be the key to true transformation. I open up about my own journey—how growing up with a bipolar parent shaped my nervous system, how I lived in constant hypervigilance, and how somatic training helped me tune into the whispers of my body that I had long ignored. You’ll learn: What “somatic healing” really meansWhy the body keeps the score (literally)The traffic light model of nervous system states (shutdown, fight/flight, and safety)How trauma patterns show up physically, emotionally, and relationallySmall but powerful tools to begin coming back to yourselfWhether you're new to this work or already on your healing path, this episode offers a compassionate, grounded introduction to reclaiming your inner power—through your body. Reclaiming Your Worth free masterclass: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/reclaiming-your-worth-masterclass Find Darla Ridilla at: Website: https://www.highvaluewoman.info Sign up for newsletter: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/newsletter Podcast: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550835718631 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvaluewoman7/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighValueWoman-m7w Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/highvaluewoman7/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darla-ridilla-3179b110/

    27 min
  4. 41: Creating the Higher Self After Abuse With Stephany Ann

    MAY 19

    41: Creating the Higher Self After Abuse With Stephany Ann

    Send us a text In this powerful episode of Breaking the Silence – Healing from Domestic Abuse, we welcome internationally recognized speaker, author, and transformation mentor Stephany Ann. Formerly a high-level domestic violence advocate and Governor’s Award recipient, Stephany shares her deeply personal journey from legal advocacy to personal alchemy. After years of surviving psychological and narcissistic abuse, she stopped asking “Why me?” and started asking “What now?” Together, we dive into the emotional toll of invisible abuse, how it fractures identity, and how to stop circling the loop of survival and endless healing. Stephany unpacks her formula for conscious self-recreation—blending law, biblical insight, and mindset mastery. Her message? You’re not broken—you’re becoming. We also explore her upcoming book, Magnificent Me: A Formula and Process for Higher Self Creation, and how to break generational patterns, reclaim your power, and consciously create the future version of yourself that’s been buried under survival. ✨ For anyone ready to stop surviving and start embodying the highest version of themselves, this episode will inspire, awaken, and empower. Connect with Stephany Ann: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rewritethefairytale/ Email: stephanyannspeaks@gmail.com Access the free Reclaiming Your Worth Masterclass: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/reclaiming-your-worth-masterclass Find Darla Ridilla at: Website: https://www.highvaluewoman.info Sign up for newsletter: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/newsletter Podcast: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550835718631 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvaluewoman7/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighValueWoman-m7w Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/highvaluewoman7/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darla-ridilla-3179b110/

    1h 11m
  5. 39: From Trauma To Triumph - Roaring Back to Life With Lady V

    MAY 5

    39: From Trauma To Triumph - Roaring Back to Life With Lady V

    Send us a text In this raw and soul-stirring episode of Breaking the Silence: Healing from Domestic Abuse, your host Darla Ridilla sits down with the remarkable Tivona Elliott, known as Lady V—a spiritual release coach, CEO, lupus warrior, and founder of the 2 Gone 2 Long Judgment Free Network. Lady V shares her journey from surviving childhood sexual abuse, street life, and toxic relationships—including a marriage to a narcissist—to becoming a global voice for healing, hope, and liberation. Together, Darla and Lady V dive into the emotional and spiritual work of releasing old wounds, rebuilding identity, and rebranding life after trauma. Lady V introduces her transformative "ROAR" method and the Awaken the Rebel Within program—tools that have helped countless women rediscover their strength, their voice, and their worth. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking inspiration, empowerment, or a path forward after pain. Lady V's story is living proof that even from the deepest wounds, beauty and purpose can emerge. To learn more about Lady V: https://linktr.ee/LadyVenp Find Darla Ridilla at: Website: https://www.highvaluewoman.info Sign up for newsletter: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/newsletter Podcast: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550835718631 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvaluewoman7/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighValueWoman-m7w Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/highvaluewoman7/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darla-ridilla-3179b110/

    1h 14m
  6. 37: Talk About It Later: Healing Relationship Communication with Raffi Bilek

    APR 21

    37: Talk About It Later: Healing Relationship Communication with Raffi Bilek

    Send us a text In this powerful final episode of the “Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse” series, host Darla Ridilla is joined by therapist, author, and couples counselor Raffi Bilek for a deep and insightful conversation about healing through healthy communication. With over a decade of experience helping couples reconnect and recover from hurt, Raffi shares practical tools and compassionate wisdom from his book The Couples Communication Handbook. Together, Darla and Raffi explore: Why small disagreements escalate—and how to stop them before they doThe myth of "never going to bed angry"How to use timeouts as a relationship-saving strategyWhat to do when your partner refuses to take spaceNavigating triggers, emotional flooding, and C-PTSD in real-life conflictHow empathy, validation, and "I statements" can transform the way we communicateDating again after abuse: building trust and green-flag communicationWhether you're in a relationship, healing from one, or preparing for a healthier future, this episode will empower you with real, human strategies for reclaiming your voice—and your peace. 🔗 Learn more about Raffi and grab his book at thecommunicationbook.com Find Darla Ridilla at: Website: https://www.highvaluewoman.info Sign up for newsletter: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/newsletter Podcast: https://www.highvaluewoman.info/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550835718631 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvaluewoman7/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighValueWoman-m7w Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/highvaluewoman7/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darla-ridilla-3179b110/

    41 min

Ratings & Reviews

4.6
out of 5
9 Ratings

About

You Have the Power: The Road to Recovery from Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse is a bold and empowering podcast for high-performing women who are done settling. Hosted by Darla Ridilla—a certified somatic trauma-informed coach, relationship expert, and survivor of narcissistic abuse—this show cuts through the noise to help you stop attracting the wrong partners and start creating the relationships you truly deserve. If you’re successful on the outside but feel stuck, unseen, or disconnected in your relationships, this podcast is your wake-up call. You’ll hear raw personal stories, practical tools, and unfiltered conversations that help you break unhealthy patterns, reconnect to your intuition, and heal at the nervous system level. Each episode is a truth-telling space to help you uncover the real reasons behind your relationship struggles and guide you toward embodied self-worth and emotional freedom. You’ve done the work in every area of your life—now it’s time to reclaim your power in love and connection.

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