144 episodes
Your Other Brothers Your Other Brothers
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4.7 • 132 Ratings
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We're a storytelling tribe navigating issues of faith, homosexuality, and masculinity. Together. A place for content and a place for community. Our journey started many years ago on another blogging network and continues here today with a blog, podcast, and YouTube channel, along with a thriving Patreon community. Attracted to the same sex, we follow Jesus with the conviction of living under a traditional sexual ethic. We never chose our sexuality or our story, but we believe we’ve been chosen for one another in this story. So pull up a chair, or grab a walking stick or maybe a pen, and come journey with us!
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CC075: Tom & Matt are Making ”Side A” Friends!
It's our post-Thanksgiving episode! Matt returns to share how he celebrates Thanksgiving with his Navajo family, including which food takes the central place of the traditional American turkey. He also educates us with a Native American fact to help us commemorate Native American Heritage Month. For the rest of our conversation, Matt and Tom discuss the topic of "Side A" friendship -- that is, friendships with gay believers with an affirming theology or an acceptance of same-sex relationships. Matt mentions a new Side A friend, and Tom discusses his own recent experience with a Side A person, comparing it with a stilted interaction from over a decade ago. Has there been growth, and what does connection despite differing beliefs look like?
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ YOBcast 062: "Side A" Friends
➡️ YOBcast 065: "Side A" Friends Q&A
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you have any "Side A" friends? How do you connect with people of significantly differing beliefs, or is it difficult finding common ground?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/12/02/yob-convocast-075-tom-matt-are-making-side-a-friends
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➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
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➡️ Matt's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/matt/
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✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
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MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed. -
CC074:Tom & Daniel Explore Body Image and the Ideal!
Tom welcomes first-time guest and longtime community member Daniel to discuss journeys with body image and pursuit of the ideal! They share their adolescent vantages from both sides of the scale, Daniel overweight and Tom underweight, and how the gym and general fitness practices have factored into their lives in adulthood. There’s also a good amount of Enneagram talk with Daniel as a Nine and Tom as a Four chiming in from those perspectives (or is Daniel actually an Eight?). Despite the lack of the ideal body or ideal life, is there something of value we can offer the world in our seeming lack?
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Tom's book, Struggle Central: https://store.yourotherbrothers.com/product/struggle-central/
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Have you struggled with your body image or sense of self-worth? How do you find peace in pursuit of the ideal?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/11/17/yob-convocast-074-tom-daniel-explore-body-image-and-the-ideal
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➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
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➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
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📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
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➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed. -
Tom is Tired: A YOBcast Update
Tom updates the audience on his mindset with the YOBcast for the foreseeable future, along with the strain of navigating two identities: when the microphone is on and when the microphone is off.
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Twitter: http://twitter.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW -
CC073:Tom & Jesse are KENOUGH, Reviewing ”Barbie”!
Jesse returns to discuss the summer’s biggest, if not most polarizing box office hit, Barbie! Tom reads off some community feedback from our Discord as we dive into hyperfemininity versus hypermasculinity, individuality versus relationships, and all the funny, moving moments from this film as it charts a new path forward for Barbie Land and, indeed, all of humanity. Is Barbie a Side B movie to those who can accept its message?? We hope you always remember, dear listener: you are Kenough.
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Jesse's sexuality ConvoCast: Jesse Falls Under the Asexual Umbrella as Demisexual
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Did you see Barbie? What moments stood out to you? Did you gain any new insights or perspectives from this film?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/10/20/yob-convocast-073-tom-jesse-are-kenough-reviewing-barbie
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
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➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed. -
CC072: Tom Feels Out ”Androsexual” and Recaps the Series with Erin!
We finish our SPANNING THE SPECTRUM sexuality series by learning more of Tom’s story as Erin returns to take over hosting duties! Tom shares a new term he’s still feeling out for himself: androsexual, or an attraction to masculinity. He shares about his attraction for mostly straight men, going all the way back to another boy in first grade. He also discusses being on the asexual spectrum and the shame of “missing out” on such a significant part of the human experience. To close this episode, Tom and Erin look back on the previous 9 episodes of this series, giving love to all our wonderful contributors!
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Tom's first book, Struggle Central: Quarter-Life Confessions of a Messed Up Christian
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 063: Matt is Gay and Christian, But Not a Gay Christian
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 064: Marshall Prefers Not to Sexually Identify as Anything
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 065: Alex Explains His Two-Way Tension as a Bisexual Christian
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 066: Ben is Queer in a "Mixed-Orientation Marriage"?
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 067: Adam is Cross-Oriented, a Heteroromantic Homosexual
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 068: Keegan Sees the Beauty Beyond One Type of Person as a Bisexual
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 069: Jesse Falls Under the Asexual Umbrella as Demisexual
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 070: Matthew Finally Comes Out as a Plain Old Gay
➡️ YOB ConvoCast 071: Erin Resonates with Queer Culture and Pansexuality
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ How do you feel about this term, "androsexual"? What episode or story resonated most with you in this series? Did you learn anything new about sexuality?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/09/22/yob-convocast-072-tom-feels-out-androsexual-and-recaps-the-series-with-erin
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Twitter: http://twitter.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros
➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed. -
CC071: Erin Resonates with Queer Culture and Pansexuality
Erin returns to help us SPAN THE SPECTRUM of our community from a woman's perspective! She updates us on her developments with Your Other Sisters, including a pivotal experience at Revoice this summer where she met some prospective YOS members as well as fellow YOB members for the first time. Sexuality aside, Erin discusses a general resonance with queer culture and then explains how her sexuality most aligns with pansexuality: an attraction for people regardless of gender. She also discloses being somewhere on the asexual (ace) spectrum. Erin shares some of her journey of self-discovery with sexuality, growing up in purity culture as a woman, living in Cambodia doing missions work, eventually dating men, and getting back to America on the other side of a pandemic. It's our penultimate episode of this summer sexuality series as we soon wrap things up with our finale!
Erin's Pirates of the Caribbean costume:
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
➡️ Erin's first ConvoCast: Tom & Erin Want Your Other Sisters to be a Thing!
➡️ Erin's guest blog: "How Your Other Brothers Has Impacted Me as a Woman"
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
➡️ Do you resonate more with queer culture than straight culture? How did purity culture shape your sexuality and sense of self-worth? Does pansexuality also best fit your sexuality?
PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/09/08/yob-convocast-071-erin-resonates-with-queer-culture-and-pansexuality
RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465
FOLLOW THE CAST
➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/
GET IN TOUCH
📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009
📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com
✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802
SUPPORT YOB
➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros
➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com
➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros
FOLLOW YOB
➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros
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➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers
➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros
➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW
MUSIC CREDIT
➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.
Customer Reviews
An Absolute Rescue
I just learned about this community on Thursday (3/2) after many long, lonely years as a Side B Christian man in a mixed orientation marriage. I have a small but mighty band of men in my life who know my story and love me, but they can't relate to this part of me. In these few brief days, I have been so flooded with hope and gratitude to Jesus for the prospect of knowing and being known by others like me.
I've been drinking from the firehose of these podcasts over the last few days and am beyond grateful to this brave community for existing and being open to me. Listening to the podcasts feels like sitting around a circle with friends I've always longed deeply for, but for whom I had pretty much all but given up hope of ever finding. Thank you, God, I've found them now!
Keep up the amazing work, brothers. Your playfulness, transparency, and courage to go where few others dare to go - and with such compassion and honesty - are nothing short of a miraculous rescue beyond what I thought was possible.
Encouragement
I’ve listened to YOB podcasts and read its blogs for years. I have watched Tom as he matures in wisdom and openness. Side B folks are a minority within a minority, so it’s comforting to know that YOB offers a place for them to gather; to share their thoughts, feelings and woes; and to grow in strength and wisdom together.
One suggestion for improvement: The content seems to have become light on spiritual content, mutual encouragement in faith, and deeper men’s work. Something to consider.
Nevertheless, the work done is wonderful and keep it up!
A Podcast for All
I’m probably not in the category of people that Tom or any of the other hosts would consider “the target audience”. Nevertheless, I listen to the show regularly and always come away having learned something new or feeling rejuvenated in my faith. YOB presents real people with real struggles and questions trying to navigate their lives with their faith. Anyone with any amount of humiliation revolving around some social aspect that the Christian church has deemed shameful will find refuge in the musings and thoughtful dialogue of these guys. A big recommend for anyone with any amount of history or interest in following Jesus in the 21st century.