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We're a storytelling tribe navigating issues of faith, homosexuality, and masculinity. Together. A place for content and a place for community. Our journey started many years ago on another blogging network and continues here today with a blog, podcast, and YouTube channel, along with a thriving Patreon community. Attracted to the same sex, we follow Jesus with the conviction of living under a traditional sexual ethic. We never chose our sexuality or our story, but we believe we’ve been chosen for one another in this story. So pull up a chair, or grab a walking stick or maybe a pen, and come journey with us!

Your Other Brothers Your Other Brothers

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.7 • 131 Ratings

We're a storytelling tribe navigating issues of faith, homosexuality, and masculinity. Together. A place for content and a place for community. Our journey started many years ago on another blogging network and continues here today with a blog, podcast, and YouTube channel, along with a thriving Patreon community. Attracted to the same sex, we follow Jesus with the conviction of living under a traditional sexual ethic. We never chose our sexuality or our story, but we believe we’ve been chosen for one another in this story. So pull up a chair, or grab a walking stick or maybe a pen, and come journey with us!

    CC053: Ben Still Has NO IDEA about His Enneagram Type!

    CC053: Ben Still Has NO IDEA about His Enneagram Type!

    Just when you thought our Enneagram series was finished – we're back with another Ennea episode! We promise this ConvoCast will actually be the last one on the Enneagram (at least for a good while). We wanted to tie a bow on this series by bringing back Ben, who helped kick off this series on YOBcast 095, talking with somebody who doesn't identify as one particular Enneagram type but with multiple ones.

    This final episode of the series is for the "Enneagram wanderers" and "Enneagram prodigals" – those who find themselves bouncing and searching among several types, and those more apathetic (or perhaps antagonistic?) with the Enneagram. We hope this broader conversation on decision-making, vices, and virtues resonates wherever you stand with (or even against) the Enneagram!

    We start the conversation by diving into the three intelligence centers, as Ben tells us how he uses his heart, his head, and his gut as a maybe Two-Six-Nine. Tom also shares times when he's extended beyond his Four's heart center to utilize his head and gut – including how YOB's very formation in 2015 was rooted in that gut instinct. We close the episode by talking about the nine vices and nine virtues of the Enneagram, including anger at the church, avarice among other men, and our journey with lust and sobriety. Indeed, we really can glean something from all the types, not just fixating on our own.

    Does Ben finally decide on his Enneagram type by the end of the episode? Listen below and find out! And thanks for all the support for this series. After a nice long break, we'll finally be back with a new YOBcast next time!

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Truity's free Enneagram test

    ➡️ The Enneagram Institute's paid RHETI test ($12 USD)

    ➡️ Enneagram Explained's intelligence centers

    ➡️ The Passions and Virtues of the Enneagram

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ What did you enjoy most about this Enneagram series? Did anything challenge you?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    ➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/08/13/yob-convocast-053-ben-still-has-no-idea-about-his-enneagram-type

    RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
    ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

    FOLLOW THE CAST
    ➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

    ➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben

    GET IN TOUCH
    📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

    📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

    ✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

    SUPPORT YOB
    ➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

    ➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

    ➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros

    FOLLOW YOB
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    ➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

    MUSIC CREDIT
    ➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

    • 1 hr 12 min
    CC052: Daniel Wants a Travel Buddy as a SEVEN!

    CC052: Daniel Wants a Travel Buddy as a SEVEN!

    We conclude these Head Triad episodes, along with our entire Enneagram ConvoCast series with our brother from across the pond, Daniel! Daniel shares his motivations, fears, stress, and security as a Type Seven (the Enthusiast). As a member of our YOB community, how does his Seven-ness manifest in the realms of sexuality, masculinity, and relating with other men?

    Daniel remembers the first time he felt shame for showing enthusiasm as a child, and how that response impacted his introversion – a rare disposition for Sevens. He discusses his love for travel, moving from the Philippines to the United Kingdom, visiting 35 cities in one year, seeing a different country every month, and even coming to America for multiple YOB retreats. But when does a love for travel turn to escape? When is escape healthy and courageous, and when is escape more detrimental? Regarding sexuality and relationships, was he constantly trying to escape something uncomfortable, something painful, something sad? We close the conversation with the growth and beauty of a Seven who can stay put and persevere – with others, with self, and with God.

    Listen to our full Enneagram conversation, and thanks for following us on this Enneagram journey this summer!

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Truity's Enneagram test

    ➡️ Truity's Type 7 Enneagram overview

    ➡️ Enneagram Gift's Type 7 in stress and growth

    ➡️ The Enneagram Institute's paid RHETI test ($12 USD)

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Are you an Enneagram Seven? How have you grown as a Seven in relation to your sexuality and masculinity?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/08/06/yob-convocast-052-daniel-wants-a-travel-buddy-as-a-seven

    RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
    ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

    FOLLOW THE CAST
    ➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

    ➡️ Daniel's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/daniel

    GET IN TOUCH
    📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

    📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

    ✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

    SUPPORT YOB
    ➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

    ➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

    ➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros

    FOLLOW YOB
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    ➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

    MUSIC CREDIT
    ➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

    • 1 hr 7 min
    CC051: Aaron Unleashes the Anxiety as a SIX!

    CC051: Aaron Unleashes the Anxiety as a SIX!

    We continue the Head Triad portion of our Enneagram ConvoCast series with YOBcast regular, Aaron! Aaron shares his motivations, fears, stress, and security as a Type Six (the Loyalist or Skeptic). As a member of our YOB community, how does his Six-ness manifest in the realms of sexuality, masculinity, and relating with other men?

    Aaron discusses the anxiety surrounding his sexuality through the years, including coming out to others as an adult and coming out to himself in high school. He also shares openly about taking medication to help with his anxiety. Throughout the episode we read lots of YOBBER feedback, much of it centering around anxious attachment with other men: how much ongoing reassurance is needed for the relationship, and how much is unhealthy? We talk a lot about fear in this episode, particularly relational fear and this ability to live out a Side B life, but also of courage and comfortability and the Six's ability to be incredibly loyal and steadfast! Perhaps if YOB and the greater "Side B" movement endure through the years, Type Sixes will be a big reason why.

    Listen to our full Enneagram conversation, and be sure to follow us as we soon finish dialing around the Enneagram types in our community!

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Truity's Enneagram test

    ➡️ Truity's Type 6 Enneagram overview

    ➡️ Enneagram Gift's Type 6 in stress and growth

    ➡️ YOBcast 051: Attachment Styles w/ Taylor Zimmerman

    ➡️ Aaron's first blog, "Running from the Call to Come Out"

    ➡️ The Road Back to You by Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile

    ➡️ The Enneagram Institute's paid RHETI test ($12 USD)

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Are you an Enneagram Six? How have you grown as a Six in relation to your sexuality and masculinity?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/07/28/yob-convocast-051-aaron-unleashes-the-anxiety-as-a-six

    RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
    ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

    FOLLOW THE CAST
    ➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

    ➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron

    GET IN TOUCH
    📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

    📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

    ✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

    SUPPORT YOB
    ➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

    ➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

    ➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros

    FOLLOW YOB
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    ➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers

    ➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros

    ➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

    MUSIC CREDIT
    ➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

     

    • 1 hr 8 min
    CC050: Will is Supremely Uninterested in the Enneagram as a FIVE!

    CC050: Will is Supremely Uninterested in the Enneagram as a FIVE!

    We open the Head Triad portion of our Enneagram ConvoCast series with YOBcast regular, Will! Will shares his motivations, fears, stress, and security as a Type Five (the Investigator or Intellectualist). As a member of our YOB community, how does his Five-ness manifest in the realms of sexuality, masculinity, and relating with other men?

    Fives are heady types, supreme thinkers and philosophers, as Will confirms his "endless curiosity" for books and learning, and returning to school whenever he hits an existential crisis. Enneagram expert Ian Cron describes Fives as the most misunderstood type, people with emotions beneath their intellectual exterior, and Will confirms his journey with processing difficult emotions. He shares the appeal of intellectual attraction versus physical attraction for the Five, and he explains how his problem-solving nature wanted to "fix" his "gay problem" in adolescence. During stress Will admits getting disorganized and clingy, but during security he's passionate about strengthening the people around him -- where, as a pastor, his Five-ness particularly shines. During times of doubt and questions, Will returns to the Gospels and his love for how Jesus makes sense of this world.

    Listen to our full Enneagram conversation, and be sure to follow us these last few weeks as we finish dialing around the Enneagram with the remaining types in our community!

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Truity's Enneagram test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

    ➡️ Truity's Type 5 Enneagram overview: https://www.truity.com/enneagram/personality-type-5-investigator

    ➡️ Enneagram Gift's Type 5 in stress and growth: https://enneagramgift.com/enneagram-stress-and-growth/#Enneagram_5_Stress_And_Growth

    ➡️ Sleeping at Last's "Five" on our "Heart of a Brother" playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wT6X87eTCUg&list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW&index=31

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Are you an Enneagram Five? How have you grown as a Five in relation to your sexuality and masculinity?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/07/22/yob-convocast-050-will-is-supremely-uninterested-in-the-enneagram-as-a-five

    RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
    ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

    FOLLOW THE CAST
    ➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

    ➡️ Will's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/willc

    GET IN TOUCH
    📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

    📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

    ✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

    SUPPORT YOB
    ➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

    ➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

    ➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros

    FOLLOW YOB
    ➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros

    ➡️ Twitter: http://twitter.com/yourotherbros

    ➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros

    ➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers

    ➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros

    ➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

    MUSIC CREDIT
    ➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

    • 1 hr 7 min
    CC049: Tom & Alex Feel All the Feels as FOURs!

    CC049: Tom & Alex Feel All the Feels as FOURs!

    We conclude the Heart Triad portion of our Enneagram ConvoCast series with a returning guest and member of our community, Alex! Both Alex and Tom share their motivations, fears, stress, and security as a Type Four (the Individualist or Romantic). As members of our YOB community, how does their Four-ness manifest in the realms of sexuality, masculinity, and relating with other men?

    Tom and Alex discuss the qualities they love about being Fours: artistic, empathetic, and yes, unique. In times of security they're objective and productive, taking action and creating things that add beauty to the world. A Four's "superpower" is empathy, giving others permission to "feel all the feels" with them, too. Tom and Alex also dive into their dark side of Four-ness: the neediness, the manipulation, the constant craving for approval, particularly from other men. Fours are often described as people who perceive lacking a critical "missing piece," and as queer or SSA men this hits especially deep for Tom and Alex. In adolescence did they miss some critical component for masculinity or sexuality, along with connecting with the other boys? What is the path forward for a Four in those whirlwinds of emotional stress?

    Listen to our full Enneagram conversation, and be sure to follow us these last few weeks as we finish dialing around the Enneagram with each type in our community!

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Truity's Enneagram test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

    ➡️ Truity's Type 4 Enneagram overview: https://www.truity.com/enneagram/personality-type-4-individualist

    ➡️ Enneagram Gift's Type 4 in stress and growth: https://enneagramgift.com/enneagram-stress-and-growth/#Enneagram_4_Stress_And_Growth

    ➡️ Sleeping at Last's "Four" on our "Heart of a Brother" playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qBhMFBo37Y&list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW&index=30

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Are you an Enneagram Four? How have you grown as a Four in relation to your sexuality and masculinity?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/07/15/yob-convocast-049-tom-alex-feel-all-the-feels-as-fours

    RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
    ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

    FOLLOW THE CAST
    ➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

    GET IN TOUCH
    📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

    📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

    ✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

    SUPPORT YOB
    ➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

    ➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

    ➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros

    FOLLOW YOB
    ➡️ Facebook: http://facebook.com/yourotherbros

    ➡️ Twitter: http://twitter.com/yourotherbros

    ➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros

    ➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers

    ➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros

    ➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

    MUSIC CREDIT
    ➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

    • 1 hr 10 min
    CC048: Adam Loves/Loathes This Vulnerable Spotlight as a THREE!

    CC048: Adam Loves/Loathes This Vulnerable Spotlight as a THREE!

    Adam makes his YOB podcast debut (or does he??) as he helps us get over the hump of this Enneagram ConvoCast series! As a member of our community he opens up about the need for vulnerability as a Three, along with the core struggle it launches against the impressive persona he strives to present. We ponder the reason why Threes are perhaps the least common type in YOB -- and maybe even within the greater "Side B" community? Is it simply because the closet is especially comfortable for a Three and less threatening to their reputation in the Church? Adam also confesses why he thinks Threes are the least desirable type in the Church and how that's impacted his ability to belong as a believer.

    Listen to our full Enneagram conversation, and be sure to follow us these last few weeks as we finish dialing around the Enneagram with each type in our community!

    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Truity's Enneagram test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test

    ➡️ Truity's Type 3 Enneagram overview: https://www.truity.com/enneagram/personality-type-3-achiever

    ➡️ Enneagram Gift's Type 3 in stress and growth: https://enneagramgift.com/enneagram-stress-and-growth/#Enneagram_3_Stress_And_Growth

    COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
    ➡️ Are you an Enneagram Three? How have you grown as a Three in relation to your sexuality and masculinity?

    PODCAST EPISODE PAGE
    ➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/07/01/yob-convocast-048-adam-loves-loathes-this-vulnerable-spotlight-as-a-three

    RATE/REVIEW US ON APPLE PODCASTS
    ➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

    FOLLOW THE CAST
    ➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

    GET IN TOUCH
    📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

    📧 Email us: podcast@yourotherbrothers.com

    ✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

    SUPPORT YOB
    ➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

    ➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

    ➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros

    FOLLOW YOB
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    ➡️ Instagram: http://instagram.com/yourotherbros

    ➡️ YouTube: http://youtube.com/yourotherbrothers

    ➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros

    ➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

    MUSIC CREDIT
    ➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

    • 1 hr 9 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
131 Ratings

131 Ratings

Joeympapa ,

Incredible!

This podcast is amazing for any Christian guy whose attracted to both genders or other dudes. This subject has been poorly addressed by the church and these guys are bridging that gap.

seh-vil-yuh ,

Finally Knowing I'm Not Alone

After 7 months of discovering and catching up on all of the available podcasts I can finally write my review! I am forever grateful for this podcast, YOB, and Tom. Before discovering YOB I had never met any other Christian man who is SSA and pursues God's design for marriage. I felt so alone and frustrated, thinking I am some anomaly. But after I found YOB I have heard countless stories and voices similar to my own. I have never been so encouraged that I am not on this alien journey and that God does indeed have a plan for me and my story.

This podcast is both fun, challenging and inspiring. I absolutely love Tom's energy and hope to find a friend like him in my life. Tom, I think you're hilarious! The most impactful episode for me has been "Attraction". A part in that episode was shared that is a similar thought I have had myself but always been ashamed to voice outloud. Hearing someone else say it made me feel free from the shame and hopeful that I can be free from those thoughts as well.

I look forward to all that YOB continues to push out (still in 2017 as I catch up on blogs) for more inspiration to grow in my own journey.

AlexFromSoCal ,

The Community that I have Always Longed For.

For most of my life, I have struggled alone with my sexuality, having been raised in an environment that believed this subject was taboo and shameful. It wouldn't be until my college years and beyond that God would reveal more about how my sexuality and my faith can be reconciled. Despite that blessing, I still felt alone in the church, having never met others who struggled as I did.  Last year, a dear friend introduced me to Your Other Brothers during a dark time in my life. Since then, I have read countless stories from YoB, and I don't feel alone anymore. I now know that I have a whole community of brothers who share the same struggles and have similar stories as I do. Thank you for providing this incredible community of brothers, especially for those of us who have always felt like we were alone. YoB is truly a blessing in my life and the community that I have always longed for. God bless ya'll as you continue to share your stories and your vulnerability with the world.

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