You're Not a Problem to Fix

In this final episode of Inner Child Month and the six-year anniversary month of Masks Off, Kim Gross welcomes somatic practitioner Lori Montry, creator of the Freedom Framework and author of You Are Not the Problem.

Kim and Lori explore people-pleasing, perfectionism, overthinking, control, shutdown, emotional eating, and hypervigilance as intelligent nervous system adaptations — not proof that something is wrong with you. Lori shares her personal story of overwhelm, sexual abuse, high achievement, and learning to work with both the mind and nervous system for sustainable healing.

Kim also shares how a childhood choking incident shaped her health-related panic and how she now uses inner-child reassurance and body-based support to calm her system.

Together, they discuss why familiar patterns can feel safe, how to access the “sacred self,” why internal safety matters more than external validation, and how five daily nervous system check-ins can help you begin building trust with yourself.

This episode is a powerful reminder that you are not broken. Your patterns make sense. And healing begins when you stop fighting yourself and start creating safety within.

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About Lori: 

Today’s guest is Lori Montry, a somatic practitioner and creator of the Freedom Framework.

Lori’s work begins with a simple but powerful premise: you’re not the problem. The patterns you struggle with are intelligent adaptations shaped by stress, overwhelm, and experience. When you understand what is driving them, you can stop fighting yourself and start creating meaningful progress toward what matters to you.

Through the Freedom Framework, people move from survival mode and burnout into what Lori calls the Expansive Self — steady, clear, self-trusting, and capable of meaningful progress without constant strain.

She is the author of You’re Not the Problem and helps people understand themselves through a nervous system lens, so growth becomes sustainable rather than exhausting.

Connect with Lori: 

Get the free Introduction to You’re Not the Problem: https://www.lorimontry.com/book-intro

Website: www.LoriMontry.com 

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