Confident Sober Women Shelby

Do you desire MORE now that you have been sober for longer?Alysse got sober before all the “sober luxuries” that are available now just weren’t available and she was still very young and her social and professional life revolved around drinks. Thankfully immediately she enjoyed some of the benefits of not drinking however she was still making a lot of the same bad decisions in dating and managing life. After a few years of not drinking she knew she didn’t want to go back to substan...

Have you ever heard of the "power dead-even rule"?Pat Heim of the Heim Group coined this phrase in her book Hardball For Women: Winning At The Game Of Business.She says for a woman to have a healthy realationship with another woman the self-esteem and power of one must be of the same weight as the other in the eyes of each woman.I share more about this on todays episode, and much more!One way to have opportunities for women to support each other is to create events for women that also celebra...

Chrissy found drinking to be problematic in her 30s. She shared how sometimes things would go ok and that prevented her from understanding her problem with alcohol.Chrissy’s mission is to teach people how to understand their intuition and listen to their bodies. She shares how this is critical in understanding not only the thoughts and feelings we have but why are we having them. She didn’t use a specific recovery program but did layer on a lot of support and resources related to sobriety aft...

Kristin followed more of a social curiosity path and doesn’t live completely alcohol-free but has taken a hard look at her drinking and made changes. Kristen had a week of a lot of events and drank a lot more than she usually would and noticed how it truly affected her and she didn’t like it. This was her aha moment.Kristen realized she didn’t really love the alcoholic drinks she was consuming and then asked herself ‘If I don’t really love them then why am I drinking? She also read This Naked...

Can you feel a big change coming and is it bringing a lot of emotions?Today it's just you and me on the show talking about emotional transitions. This time of year often brings up a lot of change and therefore a lot of feelings. Many of them are good, sometimes not so good but either way, they are there.Thriving in long-term sobriety means learning how to get comfortable with your emotions and believing they will pass eventually. We don't always have control over the feelings that show up but...

Did you know that healthy boundaries allow you to protect your core values?Beth shared how her drinking took off when she went off to college and escalated into adulthood but since she always held a job and was productive she never viewed it as problematic. Her consequences increased until her last six months of drinking where every day she said ‘I’m not going to drink tonight. Finally, she reached out to a therapist whose card she had picked up for a friend. Beth shared about...