8 episodes

The Curious Meerkat asks nosy questions, and nothing goes without saying.

Difficult Conversations are everywhere, and if we want to lead an examined life and have meaningful relationships, they are inevitable. Let's have more of them, more often, and talk about how other people have managed some really tough ones. Maybe we can even learn from them.
Seasonal episode series are grounded in a particular theme of Difficult Conversations.

Inter-seasonal episodes are discussions about the practical implications of ideas and beliefs, with each episode starting from some published material.

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    • Society & Culture

The Curious Meerkat asks nosy questions, and nothing goes without saying.

Difficult Conversations are everywhere, and if we want to lead an examined life and have meaningful relationships, they are inevitable. Let's have more of them, more often, and talk about how other people have managed some really tough ones. Maybe we can even learn from them.
Seasonal episode series are grounded in a particular theme of Difficult Conversations.

Inter-seasonal episodes are discussions about the practical implications of ideas and beliefs, with each episode starting from some published material.

    S1E3 Asexuality with Angela Chen

    S1E3 Asexuality with Angela Chen

    Aces (people who identify as asexual) have been stigmatised, misunderstood, or just plain forgotten in our conversations around love and dating. This creates a blindspot in the conversation around sex, social norms and desire itself. Author & journalist, Angela Chen, talks to the Curious Meerkat about her 2020 book "Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society and the Meaning of Sex": how sexual desire plays such a big role in how we see and interact with the world; imagine not being in on this social script, and needing to reassure your partner that your own sexuality has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with yourself? 




    Asexuality is a gendered experience either way. We talk about how women are sexualised and how bizarre it is that a big part of a woman's value in society is related to her unconscious (and unwilling?) ability to excite sexual desire in others. Parallel with this, men who identify as ace face similarly toxic ideas about their own sexuality and masculinity. 


    Angela shares the kinds of conversations she has had with her partners, as well as insight from other aces and we spend some time contemplating the difference between romantic love and friendship. We also talk about consent, the difference between enthusiastic consent and willing consent. 


     


    Resources: 


    curiousmeerkatpod@gmail.com


    @curiousmeerkatpod on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/curiousmeerkatpod/


    Angela's website: http://www.angelachen.org/ace.html

    Emily Nagoski's website: https://www.emilynagoski.com

    Essay on consent that mention's Emily's model: https://asexualagenda.wordpress.com/2015/01/11/mapping-the-grey-area-of-sexual-experience-consent-compulsory-sexuality-and-sex-normativity/

    Lux Alptraum's essay on the Myth of the Male Libido: https://fusion.tv/story/280614/the-myth-of-the-male-libido/amp/

    Independent bookstores South Africa: https://pensouthafrica.co.za/independent-bookstores-to-support-in-almost-every-corner-of-south-africa/


    Illustration:


    Nico Venter @artofnicoventer on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/artofnicoventer/?hl=en)

    @aloecreatives on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/)


    Music:


    Lil Miss Beats @lil_miss_beats on Instagram: (https://www.instagram.com/lil_miss_beats/?hl=en)

    On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6n6GPBkCD07CNB3ZhEetu1

    On Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCheAlHLojDnNPBKPbMZLp6g

    • 52 min
    Season 1-2: Infidelity & kink

    Season 1-2: Infidelity & kink

    Thank you to Mungo Jerry (pseudonym) for this conversation. Mrs March Hare and I talk to Mungo Jerry about the difficult conversation he had, and is still having, with his wife (now ex-wife) around his infidelity and the part that kink played for him in this process. 

    We briefly talk about the kink scene in South Africa, how Mungo Jerry thought he might get murdered the first time he went to watch a play session, and how that afternoon changed his life forever. Do you know what kind of kinkster you are? Follow the BDSM test link below to find out... 

    Resources

    curiousmeerkatpod@gmail.com
    BDSM test: https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode

    Illustration:
    Nico Venter @artofnicoventer on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/artofnicoventer/?hl=en)
    @aloecreatives on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/)

    Music:
    Lil Miss Beats @lil_miss_beats
    Instagram:
    (https://www.instagram.com/lil_miss_beats/?hl=en)
    Spotify:
    https://open.spotify.com/artist/6n6GPBkCD07CNB3ZhEetu1
    Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCheAlHLojDnNPBKPbMZLp6g

    • 54 min
    Season 1-1: Difficult Conversations in Relationship

    Season 1-1: Difficult Conversations in Relationship

    Season 1 Episode 2: An introduction episode for Difficult Conversations in Relationships. 


    Season 1 is all about Difficult Conversations in relationships. I talk to people about their experiences having these types of conversations (talking about infidelity, asexuality, ghosting, non-monogamy, being solo), and they share how it went right, how it went wrong, and how they feel about it now. This episode is an introduction to Season 1, where Mrs March Hare (my guest co-host) & I talk about really difficult conversations we have had with each other, and we even open up some conversations we didn't know we should be having. We touch on how to define a relationship and how that changes the expectations one can have of the other person, and we share how we have tried and sometimes failed to help each other during times of emotional distress. 



     
    The theme for season 1's anthem is "Toxic Love" or "Toxic Romance". If you have a song that you think fits that description, listen out for the show's email address and send your suggestion. At the end of season 1 I will share the Toxic Love playlist, share listener comments about these songs, and reveal the most popular Toxic Love song.
     
    Resources:
    curiousmeerkatpod@gmail.com

    Podcast illustration by Nico Venter @artofnicoventer on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/artofnicoventer/?hl=en)

    @aloecreatives on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/)

    Podcast tune by Lil Miss Beats:
    @lil_miss_beats on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/lil_miss_beats/?hl=en)

    On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6n6GPBkCD07CNB3ZhEetu1

    On Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCheAlHLojDnNPBKPbMZLp6g

    • 50 min
    CM4: Cryptocurrency & blockchain Part 2

    CM4: Cryptocurrency & blockchain Part 2

    Cryptocurrency, crypto assets, and blockchain... Everyone seems to know about it, or want to invest in it... but how does that actually work? It gets really complicated, really quickly, so the Curious Meerkat talked to a guy who knows all about it. Gys Hough has written articles about blockchain and tokenized systems (yes, he explains what that it), and he has appeared on other podcasts talking about crypto assets and what investment in digital assets looks like. 


     


    In Part 2 we talk about what decentralized apps are, and how blockchain tokens can incentivize service providers to use and promote these decentralized apps by giving them ownership. Gys is passionate about how this can promote a working environment with a better balance of power. 


    Gys gives an investment checklist for crypto-assets, and makes it sound so easy... (Maybe it's not so complicated after all?) The anonymity myth with Bitcoin comes up, and Gys mentions services that are working on both sides: triangulating crypto-asset transactions, as well as cryptography to make transactions more anonymous. 


     


    Gys' articles: 


    Tokenization is more sustainable (Deloitte artile) https://www2.deloitte.com/nl/nl/pages/risk/articles/tokenization-the-future-of-the-platform-business-model.html

    Token models are more equitable towards users (Coindesk article) https://www.coindesk.com/the-gig-economy-is-unfair-heres-how-token-models-can-help


     


    Other links:


    @ArtofNicoVenter https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/

    @aloecreatives https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/

    @lil_miss_beats https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/

    Lil Miss Beats on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/artist/6n6GPBkCD07CNB3ZhEetu1

    Lil Miss Beats on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCheAlHLojDnNPBKPbMZLp6g

    • 43 min
    CM 4: Cryptocurrency & blockchain from scratch

    CM 4: Cryptocurrency & blockchain from scratch

    Cryptocurrency, crypto assets, and blockchain... Everyone seems to know about it, or want to invest in it... but how does that actually work? It gets really complicated, really quickly, so the Curious Meerkat talked to a guy who knows all about it. Gys Hough has written articles about blockchain and tokenized systems (yes, he explains what that it), and he has appeared on other podcasts talking about crypto assets and what investment in digital assets looks like. 


    We start with what blockchain is, we talk a lot about other uses for blockchain and why tokenized systems are a more sustainable way to run systems and start (decentralized) apps. Bitcoin is a household name, and we mention it a lot, and talk about what makes a good crypto asset, why not all crypto assets are cryptocurrencies, and how the Covid-19 pandemic has proved the thesis of Bitcoin (that it is a good, trustworthy store of value). 


     


    This is part 1. Part 2 will be released next week; look out for the crypto asset investment checklist in Part 2. 


     


    Gys' articles: 


    Tokenization is more sustainable (Deloitte artile) https://www2.deloitte.com/nl/nl/pages/risk/articles/tokenization-the-future-of-the-platform-business-model.html

    Token models are more equitable towards users (Coindesk article) https://www.coindesk.com/the-gig-economy-is-unfair-heres-how-token-models-can-help


     


    Other links:


    @ArtofNicoVenter https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/

    @aloecreatives https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/

    @lil_miss_beats https://www.instagram.com/aloecreatives/

    Lil Miss Beats on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/artist/6n6GPBkCD07CNB3ZhEetu1

    Lil Miss Beats on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCheAlHLojDnNPBKPbMZLp6g

    • 43 min
    CM 3: Antinatalism

    CM 3: Antinatalism

    Antinatalism with Puss in Boots and Felix the Cat. 


    We talk about David Benatar's Antinatalism philosophy, our agreements and disagreements about it, as well as some commentary by Benatar's peers. The concepts of "good" vs "evil" come up quite early in this episode, and we even touch on the nature of consciousness. 


    We discuss Puss in Boots' idea about practical vs philosophical Antinatalism, and the place of humanity on Earth. 


     


    Illustration by Nico Venter at Aloe Creatives:
    @artofnicoventer on Instagram

    @aloecreatives on Instagram




    Music by Lil Miss Beats:
    Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6n6GPBkCD07CNB3ZhEetu1

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCheAlHLojDnNPBKPbMZLp6g

    Instagram: @lil_miss_beats





    Episode resources


    William Blake Auguries of Innocence (https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43650/auguries-of-innocence)

    Thaddeus Metz (2012) Contemporary Anti-Natalism, Featuring Benatar’s Better Never to Have Been, South African Journal of Philosophy, 31:1, 1-9 (https://doi.org/10.1080/02580136.2012.10751763)

    Christopher Belshaw (2012) A New Argument for Anti-Natalism, South African Journal of Philosophy, 31:1, 117-127 (https://doi.org/10.1080/02580136.2012.10751772)

    David Benatar (2012) Every Conceivable Harm: A Further Defence of Anti-Natalism, South African Journal of Philosophy, 31:1 (https://doi.org/10.1080/02580136.2012.10751773)

    • 1 hr 13 min

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