Divorce at Altitude: A Podcast on Colorado Family Law Ryan Kalamaya & Amy Goscha

Dr. Bill Crawford has written eight books, all derived from the philosophy of 'life from the top of the mind'. During today’s conversation, he offers a psychologist’s insight into the brain’s reaction to the divorce process and how to rise above its protective mechanisms for clear, influential communication, and constructive, fair boundary setting. 

We begin by unpacking the philosophy underpinning all of Dr. Crawford’s work before discussing the necessity of grieving the shattered dream during the divorce process. We talk about cycle breaking and how the triune brain theory can help you to gain a better understanding of your own experience before hearing some insights into how to regain control from the angry and resentful mind. 



Key Points From This Episode:
What Dr. Crawford means by his philosophy ‘life from the top of the mind’.Grieving the shattered dream during the process of divorce.Barriers to an amicable divorce, especially with children. Finding a reason to break the cycle.How a better understanding of the brain can help you to become more influential in any discussions you may have.Regaining control from the angry, resentful, guilty mind.Asking purposeful questions.Identifying who you want to be. His method: breathe, relax, imagine, ask, notice. When the best time is to practice this. Training the brain to go into life at the top of the mind.Communicating with people who are stuck in a lower mind. Navigating difficulties later down the line.What to consider when bringing in a third party.Engaging with children as they move through parental divorce.Advice for authoritarian parents. The importance of loving, healthy boundaries.What you can learn from Life from the Top of the Mind.What is Divorce at Altitude?
Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.
To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.
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Alcohol is one of the leading causes of divorce and can also be a symptom of underlying issues in a relationship. During this episode, we are joined by addiction and substance abuse expert, Dr. John Gilburt, who founded and runs Boulder Alcohol Education Centre. We cover what alcoholism is, the potential consequences of having an alcoholic or substance abusing parent, and explore some effective testing techniques. 

We also discuss how you can protect your children if you’re going through a divorce and one of the parents has substance abuse issues, intervention, in-patient versus out-patient care, and whether or not rehabilitation can be effective. Tune in today to hear a new perspective on alcoholism and how best to navigate its effects during divorce. 


Key Points From This Episode:
John's focus on DNA research with the goal of normalizing unique characteristics of high tolerance response to alcohol.A definition for substance abuse and alcoholism.Normal usage versus problematic drinking.The genetic predisposition to respond differently to alcohol.Differences between a low tolerance person who drinks too much and a high tolerance drinker.Why a DUI program is such a good net for high tolerance drinkers.The science of how your body responds to heavy drinking.Protecting children from the effects of having a parent with substance abuse issues.Testing options to ensure that a parent is sober when they have the children.Soberlink: how it works and some of the problems with it.The PEth blood test.Hair and fingernail analysis.The role of therapy in helping people to develop normal healthy day-to-day skills.Why AA is an effective support to alcoholics.The importance of psychological support for the family.AlAnon and Adult Children of Alcoholics. Extending grace to relapsing people.The inherited response to alcohol that turns out to be dangerous. What goes into a substance abuse evaluation. The book Dr. Gilburt is writing: 99 Bottles of Beer.What is Divorce at Altitude?
Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.
To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.
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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

The term ‘revolution’ continues to be thrown around when talking about AI, but what does this revolution mean for the world of family law, and do we need to be concerned? Returning to the show today to help us make sense of AI in law is Managing Shareholder at STG Divorce Law, Raiford Palmer. 

In this episode, Raif offers us a brief description of AI, its current state in the world, and how it is impacting various industries, as well as how he and his team are using it at STG. We then get a sense of how AI is already changing the family law landscape and why there will always be a need for a human element, and we also look at some of the potential dangers of AI in law and the limitations that exist within current AI models. 

As this intriguing conversation comes to a close, you’ll hear about the ethics of AI, why humans will always rely on tools, and why AI is nowhere close to being a flash-in-the-pan phenomenon. Love it or hate it, AI is here to stay! 


Key Points From This Episode:
Raif describes the current state of AI and how it is impacting various industries.How Raif and his team are using AI (and how he thinks they’ll use it in the near future). Ways that AI is changing and will continue to change the family law landscape. Why you’ll always need a human element when drafting settlement agreements. The potential dangers of using AI in a legal context. Understanding the limitations of current AI models. The ethical conundrums in AI that still need to be addressed and overcome. Why our greatest asset as human beings is our ability to use tools to increase efficiency.Why AI is not a bubble industry as it relates to finance and law specifically. What is Divorce at Altitude?
Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.
To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.
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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

High-conflict marriage will inevitably lead to high-conflict divorce, and today on Divorce At Altitude, divorce coach Karen McMahon is here to tell us all about her coaching plan for people looking to exit their high-conflict marriages. Tuning in, you’ll hear exactly what a high-conflict marriage is, why people stay in these unhappy marriages, how to rewire your mind, come out of your isolation, reimagine your life, and ultimately, end this unhealthy relationship, why divorce is a transformational process, and so much more! 

We also discuss why you need to stay on top of the laws and your finances when getting divorced, the importance of selecting an attorney that is right for you, and why you need to be realistic about how your spouse will handle the divorce. Karen even shares her high-conflict marriage exit plan with us before explaining why telling children about divorce separately is sometimes better. Finally, she tells us about her own high-conflict divorce and inspires some hope in anyone who may be experiencing something similar. 


Key Points From This Episode:
What the concept of a high-conflict marriage means to Karen. The most common reasons people stay in these unhealthy marriages.How to rewire your mind when trying to get out of a high-conflict marriage. The importance of building a support network after the isolation of this marriage.What reimagining yourself means in the context of a high-conflict marriage. Karen explores the transformational nature of divorce.The importance of getting educated when getting divorced and knowing the law. Why you can’t have a bully for an attorney when ending a high-conflict marriage.What goes into the exit plan for a high-conflict marriage. Why Karen thinks telling kids about divorce separately is oftentimes better. A story from Karen’s own divorce and the level of stress and conflict she dealt with.The importance of being realistic about how your divorce will be handled. What is Divorce at Altitude?
Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.
To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.
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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

People’s homes are generally their most significant financial assets, but what happens to the marital home post-divorce? Today, we are joined by CDFA, CDLP, licensed mortgage and real estate broker, and author of Divorce House Sense Jeff Landers to discuss the three options and their associated nuances. Jeff breaks down the complications of co-owning a house post-divorce and walks us through all that needs to be considered by those who wish to keep their home. 

We learn the requirements to qualify for a mortgage loan, the criteria for equity buyout, and the types of income that qualify for refinancing a mortgage. Jeff demystifies the concepts of debt-to-income ratio, pre-approval, revocable trusts, reverse mortgages, and more. In this episode, you’ll discover creative solutions for creating an income stream to qualify for a mortgage loan, and staying in the home post-divorce, if you so choose!


Key Points From This Episode:
Jeff Landers’ extensive background as a divorce financial advisor.Three post-divorce options regarding the marital home.The complications of co-owning a house post-divorce.Jeff’s typical advice for clients who wish to keep their home post-divorce.Requirements to qualify for a mortgage loan.The criteria for equity buyout.Qualified income for refinancing a mortgage.The debt-to-income ratio explained.What pre-approval is, why it’s important, and how it differs from a pre-qualification letter.How bonus income for W2 employees is viewed by mortgage lenders.Separate versus marital property.Creative solutions for creating an income stream to qualify for a mortgage loan.What a revocable trust is and how to set it up.Reverse mortgages for senior divorces.The services Jeff’s company, Next Act Properties, offers. Creative options to stay in the home post-divorce.What is Divorce at Altitude?
Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.
To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.
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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.

Don’t be misled, legal practitioners get distracted too! This week, we’re going to be talking about time management for family law attorneys. But for those who aren’t lawyers, there are some handy tips too! Marco Brown is a family law practitioner in Utah, with Brown Family Law and he joins us to share the details of his revolutionary approach to time management and focus during work hours. 

Join us to hear his tips on how to get more billable hours into each day, prioritizing focus and deep work over distraction on a daily basis. Find out how he limits the deluge of emails and calls, and hear what you can expect from others in response to your firm time management boundaries. Marco also describes who he considers ‘time vampires’ in the workplace and offers some actionable steps to avoid their influence. Tune in to hear more today! 


Key Points From This Episode:
An introduction to today’s guest, Marco Brown. The excessive amount of time that people across industries spend on their phones.His trick to build 192 extra billable hours into your year.Why there is no such thing as multitasking.Why distracted people aren’t happy.Tips on how to stop the deluge of emails and calls.The implications of checking your emails twice a day.Why Marco minimizes team meetings as much as possible.Four effective ways to deal with time vampires as an attorney.How Marco has created a balance between distraction and focus.Marco’s content for law students discussing the business of family law on YouTube.An invitation to message Marco to have a free conversation.What is Divorce at Altitude?
Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.
To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here. If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at info@kalamaya.law.
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DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.