How Rachel got out of the insomnia struggle by being more flexible, more accepting, and more present (#55‪)‬ Insomnia Coach® Podcast

Rachel's struggle with insomnia started in grad school. She tried everything from sleep aids to strict bedtime rules and routines to improve her sleep, but nothing worked. The harder she tried to fix her sleep and get rid of sleep-related anxiety, the more difficult things became.



The turning point came when Rachel changed her approach. She stopped focusing on trying to create the perfect conditions for sleep and she stopped trying to control her thoughts and feelings.



She started being kinder to herself. She practiced making space for difficult thoughts and feelings and she practiced building skill in bringing herself back to the present moment and being more aware of the present whenever her mind started to time travel.



Rachel's story is a powerful example of how changing our approach to sleep and our response to insomnia can lead not only to significant improvements in our sleep, but also our overall quality of life.



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Transcript



Martin: Welcome to the Insomnia Coach Podcast. My name is Martin Reed. I believe that by changing how we respond to insomnia and all the difficult thoughts and feelings that come with it, we can move away from struggling with insomnia and toward living the life we want to live.



Martin: The content of this podcast is provided for informational and educational purposes only. It is not medical advice and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, disorder, or medical condition. It should never replace any advice given to you by your physician or any other licensed healthcare provider. Insomnia Coach LLC offers coaching services only and does not provide therapy, counseling, medical advice, or medical treatment. The statements and opinions expressed by guests are their own and are not necessarily endorsed by Insomnia Coach LLC. All content is provided "as is" and without warranties, either express or implied.



Martin: Okay. Rachel, thank you so much for taking the time to come onto the podcast.



Rachel: Yeah. Thank you so much for having me, Martin.



Martin: It's great to have you on. Let's just start right at the beginning without any further ado. Um, can you tell us a little bit about when your sleep problems first began and if there are any clues as to what may have caused those initial issues with sleep.



Rachel: Yeah, um, well, my first like where my mind first goes is. To my back to my first year of grad school, um, where like, at least one night a week, I felt it felt like I wasn't sleeping at all. Um, and I would get really anxious about sleep, but I think that that was partly like being in grad school and feeling stressed about grad school.



Rachel: Um, and also, like, I had a shift shift. That ended late and so like the process of of unwinding and then having to be at work early the next day. Um, and the feeling would be anxiety about sleeping like, yes, there were things in my life that were stressing me out, but I think it was like the anxiety would be I'm anxious that I won't be able to sleep.



Rachel: Um, and that that was well, that was long before. Before I reached out to you. But that, I think, is like the, I'm sure the sleep difficulties go back further than that, but that was like the first moment I can sort of remember.



Martin: Yeah, and roughly how long ago was that when you, uh, that kind of grad school period of your life?



Rachel: That was almost ten years ago.



Martin: And so what was your sleep like at that time? You mentioned there was a lot of anxiety about, is sleep going to happen? What's sleep going to be like? What's that going to mean if I have difficult nights or all those kind of thoughts? I think lots of people listening to this are going to id...