One Another: for Group Leaders Scott Wildey

9. Delving Difficult People Part 2: Shakespeare and Negative Sentiment Override On this second part of delving difficult people we continue to unpack the implications of what Thomas Keating describes as our emotional programs for happiness. Specifically, what happens inside our heart and mind when we are triggered, including the internal dialogue that ensues. Using Shakespeare's Othello as an example of "Negative Sentiment Override," Scott unpacks the dangers of giving into the "stories we tell ourselves" uncritically with the help of Scott Gornto's book of the same name. The good news, as Dr. John Gottman prescribes, is that just as we are not blind to the flaws and failures of difficult people, we can also see their gifts, and re-engage a virtuous and sustainable cycle of relationship. Recommended Resources: The Gottman Institute Blog (The Four Horsemen); The Human Condition, by Thomas Keating; The Stories We Tell Ourselves, by Scott Gornto.