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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

    Dr. Nicole LePera | Heal Your Trauma and Forge the Life You Want

    Dr. Nicole LePera | Heal Your Trauma and Forge the Life You Want

    In today’s episode, we cover what it means to work on yourself with Dr. Nicole LePera. She is the creator of the popular Instagram account @the.holistic.psychologist, was educated in clinical psychology at Cornell University and The New School of Social Research, and is the author of the best-selling How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self.

     

    Introduction

    It takes a lot of work to go from insight to effecting real long-lasting change, so how do you bridge the gap, why does focusing on the flaws of others hurt your own development, and how does your lack of emotional expressiveness take away from your life satisfaction? 

     

     
    Introduction - 4:00 

     
    What does it mean to “do the work” when embarking on a path of self-development or healing after trauma?
    Why is it important to bridge the gap between insight and action and why do so many people fail to, leaving them unable to make progress?
    How do you overcome your own resistance to change?

     

     
    Detangling trauma from an idealized past - 13:32 

     
    What can you do to identify trauma in your life that is causing you to self-sabotage without even realizing it?
    What are the most common self-sabotaging behaviors people do without realizing it?
    What are trauma bonds and how does it show up in your relationships in destructive ways you might not even realize?

     

     
    Your unknown expectations can destroy your relationships - 28:28

     
    What role do expectations play in trauma bonds influencing our current relationships?
    What do you do when you are ready to make a change but your friends or family aren’t supportive or ready to make changes themselves?

     

     
    How should we think about emotions - 37:46

     
    What steps can you take to start valuing your emotions instead of dismissing them or allowing other people to dismiss them?
    Why is self-compassion important when it comes to “doing the work” and growing into the person you want to be?
    What can you do if you’re an overachiever and feel like you need achievement to feel complete?
    How do you overcome the fear of being who you want to be so you can get out of your own way?

     

    Have you ever felt a fear so strong that it nearly paralyzed you or left you trembling? Maybe the event was a real-life trauma, like being mugged. Or maybe it was something more subtle but equally as debilitating - like walking into an interview for your dream job and feeling all those eyes on you, sizing up who they can't wait to reject. All of these events can have long lasting effects on who you are and who you want to become. But you have to be willing to identify them, work through the effects they’ve had, and get out of your own way to be comfortable expressing who you really are.

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 13,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    The Holistic Psychologist Instagram account

    How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Dr. Nicole LaPera

    Dr. Nicole LaPera’s website

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 56 min
    Dr. Carole Robin | How to Build World Class Connections and Lead With Vulnerability

    Dr. Carole Robin | How to Build World Class Connections and Lead With Vulnerability

    In today’s episode, we cover building stronger connections with Dr. Carole Robin. Carole Robin, Ph.D. was the Dorothy J. King Lecturer in Leadership at Stanford's Graduate School of Business where she helped to further develop the Interpersonal Dynamics Course, and is now the author of the best selling book, Connect: Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends, and Colleagues.

     

    Technology and the pandemic have changed the landscape of human connection, but how bad is it, what simple tips can you use to improve your ability to connect, and what is the correct way to show vulnerability in the workplace?

     

    What to Listen For

     
    The damage technology is having on our ability to connect - 0:00 

     
    What experience do we all need as humans and what can you do to give people that experience?
    Why are we losing close connections in our lives and what can we do about it?
    How does social media trap you into a state where you can’t connect with the people around you and what can you do about it?
    What simple tip can you use to deepen any connection?

     

     
    Why you need to get comfortable talking about feelings - 9:56 

     
    Why is it detrimental to your relationships to avoid talking about your emotions and feelings?
    What are the benefits of expressing your feelings and how does it help strengthen your relationships?
    Why are “why” questions so challenging when it comes to connecting with someone, and what questions should you ask instead?
    What type of questions can lead to the other person feeling judged?
    What is the signature trait of a successful relationship?

     

     
    What does a successful relationship look like? - 31:38

     
    What are the characteristics of a successful relationship and what can you do to cultivate them in your relationships?
    How has the pandemic affected the way we interact with coworkers and build relationships?
    What 90 second exercise can you implement to strengthen your personal and professional relationships over Zoom?
    How can you be vulnerable without letting your disclosure be used against you?
    What can women do to become better leaders while staying true to themselves?

     

    Technology is changing the landscape of human connection and it's hard to know what will happen next. What you can do now, however, is learn to be vulnerable so that those around you also feel comfortable being open with one another. Without this openness we'll always have a lack of trust which does not bode well for our society at large where social connections are essential.

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    Connect: Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends, and Colleagues by Dr. Carole Robin

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 58 min
    Toolbox | Small Talk Hacks to Boost Your Sales, Grow Your Network and Never Feel Awkward Again

    Toolbox | Small Talk Hacks to Boost Your Sales, Grow Your Network and Never Feel Awkward Again

    In today’s episode, we cover small talk with AJ, Johnny, and Michael. 

     

    Getting on the question train is one of the most common mistakes people make in conversations without realizing it, but what is it, why does it kill conversations, and how do you avoid getting on it?

     

    What to Listen For

     
    The pitfalls that lead to one-sided conversations - 0:00 

     
    What is the conversation formula you can use to create engaging conversations in any situation?
    What is the conversation train and why do you want to avoid it when you’re talking to someone?
    Why are people more likely to disclose personal information to strangers than to close friends?

     

     
    The conversation formula - 13:20 

     
    What is the best way to start a conversation with someone you don’t know?
    What kind of questions should you avoid when making small talk?
    What is the most important part of a conversation after asking the initial question and why do we often trip up over it?

     

     
    What is the question train and how do you avoid it? - 27:20

     
    Why does an endless series of questions deter people from wanting to talk to you?
    What easy-to-remember visual can you keep in mind when making engaging small talk?
    What are the 3 A’s of value we should be giving to people when we’re speaking to them?
    What is emotional contagion and why is it important to understand when leading a conversation?

     

    Asking questions is a critical part of engaging conversations. But asking too many questions can kill a conversation. A conversation should be a balance between asking questions, listening, and relating. That means after you ask a question, you should be listening to what the other person says, and then responding with a statement that shows you were listening and that you understand what the other person was trying to say. You ask a question, they share, you share, then you can ask another question or preferably, they ask the next question.

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    Toolbox: Biggest Myth With Small Talk & 3 Mistakes to Avoid

    How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

    Self-Disclosure: An Experimental Analysis of the Transparent Self

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 34 min
    Dr. Caroline Leaf | The Secret to Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess & 5 Steps to Healing Grief

    Dr. Caroline Leaf | The Secret to Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess & 5 Steps to Healing Grief

    In today’s episode, we cover the idea of mental mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf. Caroline has spent the last 30 years researching the nature of mental health and has helped hundreds of thousands of people learn how to use their mind to detox and grow their brain to succeed in every area of their lives including school, university, and the workplace.

     

    We are all dealing with mental messes in varying degrees, but what is a mental mess, how does your mental mess impact your ability to find happiness and success, and what process can you start using today to clean up your mental mess?

     

    What to Listen For

     
    What is a mental mess and why is it important to manage? - 0:00 

     
    What is neuroplasticity and how can you take advantage of it on a daily basis to improve the quality of your life?
    What is the difference between the brain and the mind and why do we put so much attention on one at the detriment to the other?
    What can you do to replace your negative thoughts & beliefs with positive, empowering thoughts & beliefs?

     

     
    What’s wrong with the way we treat mental health? - 16:27 

     
    How is our current perception of mental health treatment preventing us from making significant progress in our overall mental health and happiness?
    How has the media negatively impacted our mental health and the way we process our mental messes?
    How does your mental health influence the length of your lifespan and what can you do to live a longer, healthier life?

     

     
    What is the neurocycle and how can it improve our lives? - 37:15

     
    What are the 5 steps of the neurocycle and how can you use it to heal grief?
    Why is it important to develop a self-awareness of your mental state?
    How do you prepare yourself for those moments when you know you will feel anxiety or fear so they don’t stop you from achieving success?

     

    Mental health is an important part of everyone’s existence. In the same way we should take regular steps to maintain and improve our physical health, we must do the same for our mental health. If we don’t, then a mental mess builds up over time. This mental mess clouds our thinking, influences our beliefs in a negative manner, and slowly eats away at relationships. Using the neurocycle described by Dr. Caroline Leaf, you can start cleaning up your mental mess and improve your quality of life today.

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    Dr. Caroline Leaf’s website

    Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess by Dr. Caroline Leaf

    CLEANING UP THE MENTAL MESS hosted by Dr. Caroline Leaf

    Neurocycle App

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 55 min
    Toolbox: Biggest Myth With Small Talk & 3 Mistakes to Avoid

    Toolbox: Biggest Myth With Small Talk & 3 Mistakes to Avoid

    In today’s episode, we cover the science of small talk with AJ and Johnny. 

     

    Small talk can feel like a chore these days, but why is it important that we make small talk with people throughout the day, how do we make it fun and engaging, and why is it detrimental to our relationships and community to avoid or ignore small talk?

     

    What to Listen For

     
    The science of small talk and acknowledging others - 0:00 

     
    What are the benefits to making small talk and why does avoiding small talk erode the strength of relationships and community?
    Why do people go to extreme lengths to have their existence acknowledged?
    Why is it detrimental to think of small talk as useless or a waste of time?

     

     
    Why is small talk stopping you from being successful - 8:22 

     
    Why do people think small talk is boring and how is that mindset hindering them?
    In what way does small talk satisfy one of our most basic needs as humans?
    How can we use small talk as a jumping off point for engaging conversations?
    What pitfall do we need to avoid when making small talk?

     

     
    Why is it so important for us to make small talk - 16:00

     
    Does small talk require you to be positive and bubbly?
    What is small talk really about?
    What can you do to be more likeable?
    What negative signals are you conveying when you ignore the attempts others make at small talk?
    What one word can you add to make your small talk more fun and conversational?

     

    Small talk is one of our more important tools in initiating engaging conversations. You can make it fun, but at times it can be awkward. That discomfort at the thought of awkward small talk leads people to opt out altogether in the age of smartphone proliferation. It feels much safer to stare at your phone than strike up a conversation with someone you don’t know. Unfortunately, this is leading to a lack of any small talk, even with friends and family. Over time, this leads to a total disconnect within communities as neighbors don’t talk to each other, friends sit on their phones when they’re out to dinner, and families resort to texting rather than calling each other.

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    Is Efficiency Overrated?: Minimal Social Interactions Lead to Belonging and Positive Affect

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 26 min
    Brad Lomenick | 3 Steps to Effective Leadership & Getting the Feedback You Need to Succeed

    Brad Lomenick | 3 Steps to Effective Leadership & Getting the Feedback You Need to Succeed

    In today’s episode, we cover leadership with Brad Lomenick. Brad is a leadership consultant, speaker, founder of BLINC, and author of The Catalyst Leader and H3 Leadership. He writes about leadership, the next generation, creativity, innovation, social media, teamwork, and personal growth. 

     

    Effective leadership is built on a few powerful traits anyone can learn, but what are they, what is the difference between an effective leader and an ineffective one, and what can you do to be an effective leader without being in a leadership position?

     

    What to Listen For

     
    Brad’s Journey & Strategies for Conquering Burnout - 3:34 

     
    What are the different levels of burnout and what can you do if you’re feeling burnt out?
    What can you do as a leader to encourage your team to hold you accountable for your faults and blindspots?

     

     
    The Biggest Leadership Myths & How to Assume Leadership - 9:59 

     
    What are the biggest myths about leadership?
    What are the two types of people who want to be leaders and why is one not cut out for the role?
    What can you do to be a leader if you are regularly jumping from one company to another?
    What can you do to be proactive about being a leader rather than waiting to be recognized as one?

     

     
    Ineffective vs Effective Leadership - 21:08

     
    How does social media identify and highlight the ineffective leaders, placing poor examples of leadership in front of people around the world?
    How can a leader exemplify the hustle mentality and powerful humility?
    How do you build trust with your team when you are brand new and your team doesn’t know you?

     

    It seems as if the loudest “leaders” get the most attention, but getting someone’s attention or drawing an audience do not make someone a leader. The most effective leaders can lead from a place of trust and humility. They get buy-in from those around them by getting to know them and building a genuine relationship. If you want to be an effective leader, you must be willing to listen to the people around you and open up to them so they can connect with you. 

     

    A Word From Our Sponsors

    Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!

     

    Resources from this Episode

    Brad Lomenick’s website

    H3 Leadership by Brad Lomenick

     

    Check in with AJ and Johnny!

    AJ on Instagram

    Johnny on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on Instagram

    The Art of Charm on YouTube

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 56 min

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