38 episodes
The Pretender Jay Siwiti
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- Society & Culture
The Pretender is a podcast hosted by Jay and addresses real life experiences by real people for real people.
In a world that is filled with masked struggles, failures and mental battles, people are suffering silently and social media is pushing the boundaries. Most don't know where to start to break free; Jay breaks the ice by talking about and calling out his own struggles to show you there's a way to be free of the expectations of society. There's no super human, and there's no need for us to be pretending to be one. If you wanna know its ok to be a normal human being, come listen to me tell you all about my own personal struggles - who knows? Maybe we could cry and laugh about it together.
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We're still suffering
In this episode, Jay recounts a conversation he had with a late friend about suffering and draws perspective from it today.
Dedicated to M.N.M. - Still sadly missed.
Resources:
The story of the man born blind
Afflicted Saint, to Christ draw near
Quotable: "…we shouldn't always claim to know or even explain the reason we suffer because frankly we don't know why certain things happen, but we should instead look to God for strength during these trials and challenges." - Jay
The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"
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The game hasn't loved me back
Jay recounts his love for basketball and the pain from it. He talks about why he is ready to quit – a true depiction of the impact the recent injury and process of recovery has had on him thus far. A little glimpse on some feelings that pain can bring out in all of us.
Resources:
The story of King David in the Bible
Quotable: "I have counted the cost, I have embraced the pain for too long, but it has just been one sided, I have given everything to the game, but I feel like the game hasn't loved me back and I have nothing left to give to it anymore." - Jay
The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"
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Where is your faith, Jay?
In November of 2016, Jay underwent a surgical procedure to repair his left Achilles tendon after it completely ruptured. He made full recovery in a record 6-7 months and went back to playing his beloved basketball.
Well, seven full years later on the 16th of October 2023; Jay devastatingly went through the same procedure on his other leg. This experience agonizingly has brought so much shock and Jay speaks about it today.
Resources:
What shall separate us from the love of God?
Achilles tendon rupture
Quotable: "It wasn't a pretty conversation but in that moment for all of you in doubt- that very conversation I was having was my faith." - Jay
The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"
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I'm sorry that I let you down
In this episode Jay pens a letter of apology to all the people in his life that he let down by choosing his own path. He gets a little personal in saying sorry for the unrealized potential that he left to pursue his own enterprise and how he is at peace with the fruits of that process 7 years later. Everyone of us needs a therapy session, Jay just thought his was saying sorry.
Resources:
Am I Wrong (Song Jay referenced)
Quotable: "I have no regrets in my life, I have lived the life I would live over and over again; a life of complete and utter faith." - Jay
The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"
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You only get one shot at this life (with JK)
Jay talks to Joseph Kayaya about being yourself, living your life to the fullest, his love for running and we delve deep into his experience with dealing with the death of his Dad as well as mental health. We also get to enjoy more of his trademark daily doses as he shares them on the podcast.
Resources & Links:
JK
Daily Doses
Ted Talk about grief (Nora McInerny)
Lusaka Fitness Squad (premier running club)
Books mentioned:
Atomic habits
Smart Money Woman
The Richest Man in Babylon
Tiny Habits
Become unstoppable
The Top 10 Distinctions Between Millionaires and the Middle Class
Quotable: "It's amazing how far a human body will go when you are clear with your goals" - JK
The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"
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Going back
In this episode Jay talks about how life is taking him back to parts of his life that he left behind. He goes in circles talking about going back to old relationships including professional relationships even giving an analogy of puppies and dogs! Yes he was philosophical about this experience until he decided to finally get to the whole point of this episode - sharing how life has helped him reconnect with his own siblings and family through the death of his grandma!
Resources:
Going back (Song Jay referenced)
Quotable: "You know what? I also appreciate living the experience of loving someone I don't always agree with or put it this way fighting with someone I love." - Jay
The Pretender theme music is a beat composed by 2dayPresents and is titled "1000 Feet"
Note: I don't host a "comments" section, but I'm happy to hear your questions and insights via email, at jacobsiwiti@acquifersolutions.com