Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation Shelby Milford

Coping with Functional Freeze as an Alienated Parent

In episode 90 of Beyond the High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford shares her personal experiences and insights about functional freeze, especially in the context of being an alienated parent. She discusses the symptoms of functional freeze, how the condition can often be mistaken for depression, and the physiological responses involved. Shelby also offers practical solutions such as breathing exercises, dance parties, and somatic healing techniques to help move out of this state. The episode aims to provide understanding, compassion, and effective strategies for parents dealing with the emotional and physical impacts of alienation.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements
05:33 Understanding Functional Freeze
09:31 Personal Experiences with Functional Freeze
16:26 Symptoms and Signs of Functional Freeze
22:15 Impact on Daily Life and Coping Strategies
32:55 Living with Heightened Anxiety
33:58 Startling Easily and Seeing Shadows
34:52 Understanding Functional Freeze
36:13 Solutions for Functional Freeze
41:28 Breathing Exercises and Dance Parties
48:25 Connecting with Emotions and Overcoming Trauma
54:29 Compassion for Yourself and Others
58:05 Final Thoughts and Encouragement


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In episode 89 of Beyond the High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford addresses the emotional turmoil faced by parents experiencing alienation from their children. Shelby discusses common feelings of exhaustion, rejection, and the desire to 'cut ties,' urging listeners to reframe these emotions and view their situation with a more objective and compassionate lens. She stresses the importance of recognizing that any rejection is a result of the pathology and not a direct personal attack. Shelby shares insights from family systems therapy, advocating for healing and recovery involving all family members. She encourages parents to build a strong sense of self, manage their thoughts, and avoid demonizing the alienating parent. Throughout the episode, Shelby provides practical advice for navigating holidays and special occasions while maintaining emotional resilience. Lastly, she champions the idea that challenges such as these are opportunities for personal growth and strength development.



00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:16 Dealing with Exhaustion and Emotional Strain

01:35 Simplifying the Situation and Re-centering

02:28 Managing Expectations Around Holidays

04:44 Understanding the Root Causes of Alienation

07:00 The Role of Parental Responsibility

09:48 The Power of Self-Regulation

18:28 Reevaluating the Term 'Parental Alienation'

31:19 The Path Forward: Holistic Healing & Family Systems Therapy 

36:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts


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⚡️Zing, Zing, ZING, yall. This one may be long, but I barely came up for air. If you’re ready for a 50 minute episode that’s chock full of tips, tricks — and yes, ZINGERS — to move you from a place of lack to a place of abundance THIS IS IT⚡️ . ………..In this episode of the 'Beyond the High Road' podcast, host Shelby Milford focuses on breaking free from a lack mindset and generational patterns of scarcity. Shelby details how parents experiencing alienation can overcome feelings of lack and embrace abundance by changing their beliefs and looking forward rather than backward. The episode underscores the importance of challenging limiting beliefs, adopting productive morning routines, and surrounding oneself with positive influences. Shelby also emphasizes the necessity of taking active steps rather than just consuming information passively. Additionally, practical advice on how to implement this mindset shift, supported by personal anecdotes and examples, outlines a clear path for listeners to start creating a fulfilling, abundant life despite their challenging circumstances.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements
01:13 Upcoming Webinars and Feedback
02:37 The Importance of Reviews and Ratings
03:35 Living in a Lack Mindset
05:26 Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma
09:48 The Power of Self-Belief and Overcoming Obstacles
14:37 Embracing Failures as Learning Opportunities
22:46 The Value of Self-Worth in Professional Growth
26:04 The Role of Money in Life
28:05 Overcoming Fear of Rejection
29:26 Self-Improvement and Honesty
30:41 The Power of Words and Mindset
32:02 Dean Graziosi's Inspiring Story
35:03 Embracing Post-Traumatic Growth
36:53 Creating a New Future
44:00 Morning Routines and Success
47:48 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Events


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In episode 87 of Beyond the High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses overcoming mental barriers and focusing on solutions rather than problems, inspired by a recent challenge she faced while shopping for her daughter's birthday card. Shelby emphasizes the importance of personal perspective in addressing adversity, particularly in the context of parental alienation. Through quotes from Dan Sullivan, she explores the concept that problems are often self-created in our minds and advocates for taking control of one's own mindset to better serve ourselves and our children.



00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:55 Finding Inspiration and Overcoming Brain Fog

02:31 The Struggle of Choosing the Perfect Card

03:59 Realizations and Reflections in the Car

05:40 Dan Sullivan's Quotes and Their Relevance

06:44 The Concept of Self-Created Problems

08:47 Focusing on Solutions Instead of Problems

19:24 The Importance of Boundaries

23:20 Redefining Your Relationship with Your Child

27:54 Final Thoughts and Encouragement


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In episode 86 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, Shelby Milford delves into an unexplored yet ubiquitous topic: handling shitty days and the difficult choices they present, especially while living apart from your beloved children.
 She opens up about her own experiences, including the complexities of her relationship with her daughter and father, especially around her birthday. Shelby shares insights on how she navigated feelings of disappointment and frustration, highlighting the importance of acknowledging shitty situations without allowing them to dominate one's emotions. Through personal storytelling, she emphasizes the importance of :

recognizing the power of choice
Be conscious about how we perceive & respond to our circumstances
acknowledging and owning our feelings, even in the face of adversity.

Shelby encourages her audience to apply this perspective to their challenges, promoting a sense of empowerment and resilience.  She emphasizes the value of giving equal airtime to positive possibilities and owning the power of personal choice to navigate through life's inevitable ups and downs.

The episode concludes with a reminder for listeners to engage with the podcast community through Facebook live sessions, ratings, and reviews.

00:00 Welcome to Beyond the High Road Podcast
00:33 Navigating Shitty Days: A Personal Tale
01:39 Birthday Blues and Family Dynamics
04:33 Confronting Narcissistic Traits in Family
06:59 The Fallout of Changed Birthday Plans
08:48 Choosing How to Respond to Life's Challenges
19:59 Empowerment Through Choice in Difficult Times
26:50 Finding Growth in Adversity
35:45 Closing Thoughts and Gratitude

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In episode 85 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses the challenges of feeling scrutinized and misunderstood, a topic inspired by her personal experiences and conversations with fellow alienated moms.
She reflects on her own journey, starting from a point of feeling misunderstood to focusing on personal resilience in the face of criticism. Shelby highlights two influential books: 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck' by Mark Manson, which helped her adopt a carefree approach to criticism, and 'The Courage to Be Disliked', which premises on Adlerian psychology, advocating for the detachment from others' opinions for personal happiness.
The episode further delves into the importance of not allowing fear or the need for external validation to dictate one's actions, encouraging listeners to pursue their passions despite the potential for scrutiny or disapproval. Shelby's message is one of empowerment, urging her audience to embrace their unique identities, pursue their passions, and not to be silenced by fear or judgment.
Finally, she addresses an incident where she was publicly criticized on social media, using it as a case point to illustrate how to deal with negative scrutiny without compromising one's self-worth.

00:00 Welcome to Episode 85: Navigating Scrutiny and Misunderstanding
00:29 Exploring the Roots of Feeling Misunderstood
02:54 The Journey of Self-Discovery Through Audible Books
06:48 The Impact of Mark Manson's Work on Self-Empowerment
09:18 Discovering 'The Courage to Be Disliked' and Adlerian Psychology
17:02 Facing Scrutiny and the Power of Self-Expression
26:56 Dealing with Criticism and Embracing Your True Self
40:29 Concluding Thoughts: Embrace Your Voice and Overcome Fear

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Books: The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck
The Courage To Be Disliked

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