Should You Settle or Blow Up Your Life? — Tripp and Alyson Lanier The New Man
-
- Entrepreneurship
Should You Settle or Blow Up Your Life?
Do you feel guilty for wanting more out of life?
Is it possible to outgrow your current profession or relationship?
And would you have to blow up everything you care about in order to make a big change?
Today my wife Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the previous episode entitled, The Emotionally Constipated Control Freak. In this conversation we explore taking responsibility for what we want, the seduction of settling, and the one question that kicked me in the gut.
In this interview:
* Living a split life
* “Stop being a spoiled brat.”
* Focusing on problems vs solutions
* Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life
Plus:
* Have you outgrown your life?
* The Drama Triangle - Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer
* Shifting from bitching to focusing on what you want
* Are you defensive or curious?
* The fear of being broke and alone
And:
* “Do you feel like you’re settling?”
* The myth: “I have to blow up my life in order to make a change.”
* Are you being lulled to sleep?
* Waiting for the perfect, safe plan
* The phone call that changed Tripp’s life
Interviews and videos discussed:
* David Emerald interview
* Drama Triangle video
Click here for Tripp Lanier's book This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide for Men Who Refuse to Settle.
About Alyson Lanier
Alyson Lanier is a guide, coach, mentor, asskicker, counselor, and teacher. She received her BA, MA, and LPC in psychology, and has extensive training and certification in attachment work and Gestalt therapy, Transpersonal psychology, and Shambhala Buddhism. She has over 50,000 hours of therapeutic experience with individuals, couples, families, children, and adolescents in clinical and private settings. Halfway through her second decade of working in clinical and trauma informed therapeutic settings, Alyson realized psychotherapy alone was incomplete. In order to better serve her clients, Alyson broadened her professional toolbox with trainings and certifications in somatic sex education, energy work and consciousness development, and Ancestral Medicine work, a lineage repair approach to healing personal, family, and cultural burdens.
Adding alternative and spiritual practices to her therapeutic offerings made sense for Alyson because her experience with animist traditions and supernatural encounters began at a very young age, and set the foundation for her life’s study and practice. Her encounters with other-than-human beings, Old World traditions, Shambhala Buddhist practice, and subtle energy work over the years have given her a unique and layered perspective that plants her feet firmly in seemingly antithetical worlds: clinical and transpersonal psychology; Eastern and Western philosophy; clinical diagnosis and energetic and spiritual traditions of healing. Alyson has learned to fully embrace this duality, and to use it to understand the lenses her clients are seeing through, how they’re metabolizing what’s coming through for them,
Should You Settle or Blow Up Your Life?
Do you feel guilty for wanting more out of life?
Is it possible to outgrow your current profession or relationship?
And would you have to blow up everything you care about in order to make a big change?
Today my wife Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the previous episode entitled, The Emotionally Constipated Control Freak. In this conversation we explore taking responsibility for what we want, the seduction of settling, and the one question that kicked me in the gut.
In this interview:
* Living a split life
* “Stop being a spoiled brat.”
* Focusing on problems vs solutions
* Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life
Plus:
* Have you outgrown your life?
* The Drama Triangle - Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer
* Shifting from bitching to focusing on what you want
* Are you defensive or curious?
* The fear of being broke and alone
And:
* “Do you feel like you’re settling?”
* The myth: “I have to blow up my life in order to make a change.”
* Are you being lulled to sleep?
* Waiting for the perfect, safe plan
* The phone call that changed Tripp’s life
Interviews and videos discussed:
* David Emerald interview
* Drama Triangle video
Click here for Tripp Lanier's book This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide for Men Who Refuse to Settle.
About Alyson Lanier
Alyson Lanier is a guide, coach, mentor, asskicker, counselor, and teacher. She received her BA, MA, and LPC in psychology, and has extensive training and certification in attachment work and Gestalt therapy, Transpersonal psychology, and Shambhala Buddhism. She has over 50,000 hours of therapeutic experience with individuals, couples, families, children, and adolescents in clinical and private settings. Halfway through her second decade of working in clinical and trauma informed therapeutic settings, Alyson realized psychotherapy alone was incomplete. In order to better serve her clients, Alyson broadened her professional toolbox with trainings and certifications in somatic sex education, energy work and consciousness development, and Ancestral Medicine work, a lineage repair approach to healing personal, family, and cultural burdens.
Adding alternative and spiritual practices to her therapeutic offerings made sense for Alyson because her experience with animist traditions and supernatural encounters began at a very young age, and set the foundation for her life’s study and practice. Her encounters with other-than-human beings, Old World traditions, Shambhala Buddhist practice, and subtle energy work over the years have given her a unique and layered perspective that plants her feet firmly in seemingly antithetical worlds: clinical and transpersonal psychology; Eastern and Western philosophy; clinical diagnosis and energetic and spiritual traditions of healing. Alyson has learned to fully embrace this duality, and to use it to understand the lenses her clients are seeing through, how they’re metabolizing what’s coming through for them,