Shots & Thoughts Amy, Ashley & Olivia

In this special Halloween episode, we’re chatting about the spookiest things about dating and relationships. Feeling alone. Not knowing what the other person is thinking. Lacking nonverbal communication with all this online dating. Sensing something has changed in your relationship. Oh, and in-laws. Scary!

Next we’ve got Spooky themed 60 Second Sips that has us wondering if no costume is worse than the pretentious one that needs some man-splaining. This deteriorates into a riveting discussion about the worst Halloween candy. Speaking of which … are we too old for trick-or-treat? What about dressing up and having parties with your friends?

And of course, what’s more terrifying than the horrors of online dating? We talk about quite a few Drinkworthy Dating Disasters. And keep in mind that this week in particular, none of these are farmed off social media. These are things we’ve actually seen or experienced! Dating is so scary we didn’t have to search for long.

Plus, stick around for a little announcement about our podcasting schedule for the rest of the year. Give us your ideas, questions, and feedback for the podcast by slipping into our DMs on Instagram.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram and @ShotsThoughts on Twitter.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

In this week’s episode, we chat about Tinder’s new feature called Plus One, where you can find a date to take to a wedding or other big event. This has us pondering great movies like “The Wedding Date” and wondering if this is really a good idea. Would you ever feel pressured to bring someone along for a wedding or family event?

Next, we do a little drinking with Ashley, who is now convinced more than ever that Amy or Olivia may accidentally date a serial killer.

After that little tangent, we chat about our favorite (and least favorite) places to shop for clothes at our age. H&M, Target, & Other Stories, Loft, TJ Maxx … not going to lie, we seem a little lost, so if you have any suggestions, let us know on Instagram! Plus, we talk about the Cult of the Nap Dress. And if that doesn’t sufficiently confuse you, we go through a Drinkworthy Dating Disaster profile that lands us on Urban Dictionary and leaves us wondering when dating got so dang complicated.

Word of advice? Swipe left on anyone who says they’re “primal.” Unless that’s your thing. Meowwww.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram and @ShotsThoughts on Twitter.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

We dive right in this episode with a big question: How much does someone’s family influence if you date them or continue dating them? And when do you meet their family? Would your family be honest with you if they thought someone was a bad partner for you? What differences among your families are acceptable and which ones are dealbreakers? What if health problems like addiction run in your S.O.’s family? What if they never introduce you to their family? We tackle all these questions in this week’s episode!

Then after a quick game of 60 Second Sips, we ponder choosing your a** or your face. You read that right. There’s a theory out there that given your amount of body fat, either your face looks good (a little extra plumpness) or your bum does (lean, mean, squat booty machine). Is this true? And we don’t care if you think this is real … which would you pick?! Thank goodness for Botox and fillers so we don’t have to seriously make this decision.

And stick around to the very end because Ashley shares a Drink-worthy Dating Disaster that will having you lol-ing for real.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram and @ShotsThoughts on Twitter.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

Let’s just start this episode with a little bit of rage, shall we? Olivia goes off about her latest dating experience. Who knew the seemingly simple question of, “what are you looking for?” could cause such a ruckus. Turns out the “Fuckboy Free Zone” mug in his profile was false advertising.

After we debate peoples’ reasons for being on the apps (finding a relationship, getting laid… whatever it is, you’ve got a purpose), we then go into tough conversations. When do you bring up the big conversations like marriage, kids, finances, and the number of pets in your home? While we have some opinions about timing, we do also think that if a crazy person wants to judge your choices about your future children, maybe its better to know that right off the bat. And honestly, we are getting older. This whole “clock is ticking” thing is starting to get more real for those of us who want kids. So don’t waste our time.

We dive deeper into the topic of when you bring up various finance topics. What do you like to splurge on? Do your parents currently pay any of your bills? Do you expect your spouse to work? What splurge will you never give up?

60 Second Sips has us pondering if we’d go on a first date to a concert. Next up is thinking about our favorite fall activities which include dressing up for Halloween, haunted houses, carving pumpkins, seeing the trees change colors, eating candy, and scary movies. And no, Cabin in the Woods doesn’t count as a scary movie, but Amy would still recommend you all watch it. Which causes Ashley to call Amy out on her worst characteristic. Listen to find out what it is!

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram and @ShotsThoughts on Twitter.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

It is our big 50th episode! Can you believe we have had enough to talk about to fill fifty episodes? Because we sure can’t believe it. In order to celebrate this big milestone, we have made a list of 50 Epiphanies. We drop bombs of wisdom throughout this whole episode. Some are serious, some are not-so-serious, some fall a little flat, and some are even questionable bits of advice. We argue about tequila, mac-n-cheese, and celery. It’s a journey this episode!

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram and @ShotsThoughts on Twitter.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE

You heard it here. Amy says it. Olivia was right! The dating apps are just as terrible as she said. Amy is single and back on the apps, so we talk all about how much the dating apps suck! We hate the crap men write on their profiles, we bitch about their photo choices, we rant and rave about their inability to hold a decent conversation, we vent about Milwaukee being such a small world for dating.

We’ll fall for you … if you trip us. ;)

During this bonus, we also talk about anxiety and over-preparing for dates, letting someone pick you up for a first date, not letting on that you’ve super-stalked someone online before you’ve met (hint: use obituaries), and this epidemic of breadcrumbing and why we think it happens.

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What is Shots & Thoughts? We're three 30-somethings hosting a podcast about dating, relationships, and life in general.

Follow us: @ShotsThoughtsPod on Instagram and @ShotsThoughts on Twitter.

Intro music: A Himitsu - Adventures: youtu.be/8BXNwnxaVQE