When Things Don’t Go To Plan The Positive Pants Podcast

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When Things Don’t Go To Plan
 
When things don’t go to plan, it can feel like a real kick to the stomach.
 
A lot can go on internally.
 
We hear it in our noggin, and we feel it in our body.
 
Perhaps it shows up as that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach.
 
Or perhaps it’s anxiety that you feel in your chest.
 
We beat ourselves up, we make it mean something about us and how we’re flawed.  We can make all sorts of rubbish up in our heads that it makes it harder to take action again the next time.
 
It took a lot of mental energy to be able to do it in the first place, so your brain goes...hang on…it took all that energy AND it made you feel bad, so no way jose! 
 
Why would we do that again?!
 
It wants to protect you from pain at the end of the day.
 
And you can easily find yourself in a pattern or it being hard to take action.
 
But here’s the thing.  You have a LIFETIME of those experiences at play.
 
We have good old negativity bias too working for us which means we hold on to those negative experiences and perhaps ignore the times where it DIDN’T happen and went how you wanted it to.
 
If we have a belief that things have to go right the first time, why would we ever try again if it doesn’t?
 
This could be our first live, a training in someone’s group, a speaking gig, a social post that tanked, anything.
 
This is often at the heart of feeling like your business failed early on, or like something didn’t work before actually giving it a chance to.  Or tweaking and experimenting to see what will work.
 
We need to reframe how we think about these things.
 
So much of running your own business is about experimenting.  You don’t learn anything otherwise. 
 
We have to be open to things not working.  Importantly, we also need to remember that most people don’t talk about the things that go wrong.  You don’t see people talking so much about the launches that didn’t go well.  The posts that tanked. When they fell over in a room full of strangers at an event.
 
It’s less about these things happening, which they do.  But more about what we make them mean.
 
What we make them mean about ourselves.
 
The reason I want to talk about this today is because things haven’t gone according to plan for me with something and I'm totally fine with it. And it’s certainly not the end of the road.
 
One of my goals this year was I really wanted to get the Positive Pants Planner out by Christmas.
 
It’s not going to happen.
 
Old Fran would have had a lot to say about it.  Old Fran would have beaten herself up around all the many ways she’d ‘failed’ and was ‘useless’.
 
This Fran is fine.  Yes it would have been amazing BUT, I knew I didn’t know what I was doing when I started creating it so the time frame was a hard one, a little bit finger in the air.  AND covid hit. 
 
I wanted it to be out within a few months and there have been areas where I‘ve really dragged my feet.  I have to take responsibility for that.
 
I’ve procrastinated over the 2 final pieces of the puzzle I need to create because we’ve had a battle trying to get printers and cloth merchants to come back to us.  We’ve had a battle trying to get realistic quotes. 
 
It’s not a problem I have two final pieces of copy to do because we couldn’t be further along