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Dealing With Corona Fears and Social Distancing as Singles
Single people are used to being alone. But adding in Corona virus fears and social distancing could put a lot of us over the edge. Let’s face it, Zoom dating during a pandemic quarantine can only go so far. For many singles who are not in a dating relationship, social groups and church involvement are the primary places to get support and love.
Dealing with Corona Fears Podcast
What are singles’ major anxieties about COVID-19? After polling numerous singles, it turns out major concerns include finances, health, loneliness and fears that Jesus is gonna come back before the get married.
In the following Christian singles podcast, Pastor Dave Butler at Oasis Church addresses this relevant issue.
Learning How to Argue and Fight
The best dating tip we could give Christian singles is learning how to argue and fight. That may sound like whacky dating advice unless you know that the top reason both dating and married couples break up is a lack of communication in the area of conflict-resolution.
This is very important, so let me reiterate this dating advice a different way: Learning how to fight and argue successully is the best way to a lasting and happy dating and/or married relationship. Why? Because conflict in this life is inevitable, so you better learn how to deal with it.
Single Christians who never learn the art of fighting and arguing will most likely fail in any romantic dating relationship they enter. This is true whether they seek a soulmate through an online Christian dating service such as eHarmony, or any other way.
Additionally, ever meet that dating perfect match who looked so good together, and claim they never argue or fight? Don’t believe it. That romance made in heaven will be headed south soon unless they acknowledge the reality of conflict and arguments, and learn how to fight.
Whether you are a single person already dating or only hoping to, the following dating tips on learning how to argue and fight will be helpful:
Learning How to Argue and Fight
Dating Tip 1:
Honestly and lovingly confront the problem, but leave out the personal attacks on your dating mate. If the argument or fight devolves into attacks on personhood, the battle (and possibly the dating relationship) has been lost.
Adam did this in the Garden after God confronted him with the problem of eating forbidden fruit. Instead of honestly acknowledging the problem, he put personal blame on both Eve and God: “This woman you put here with me-she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate.” (Gen. 3:12)
Honestly addressing conflict sometimes means swallowing our pride by admitting we are part of the problem. Ever wonder what God would have done if Adam honestly admitted his part?
Dating Tip 2:
Listen to what the other person is actually trying to communicate. That means having earnest eye to eye contact as you open up your ears and heart, because communication can take place verbally, by action or body language. So, it’s important that you understand all these forms.
Many dating singles have a lack of communication in the area of conflict-resolution because they’re too busy thinking about their argument response rather than listening from the heart.
Don’t forget there was a reason God (James 1:19) told us to be quick to listen,
Why Christians Singles Date Less Due to Anger Issues
It seems like everyone is so angry nowadays. Everyone seems to have a beef. Democrats hate Republicans: Republicans hate Democrats. This anger we see in the culture even permeates into the dating world. Nowadays dating profiles from sites like Tinder to Christian Mingle, often have an edge of anger to them. Lately, I’ve read more than a few profiles from Christian singles who state on their profiles: “If you are a Trump supporter please don’t contact me!” Really? Has it really come to this?
Anger and Christian Singles Dating Dysfunction
Let’s be honest, nobody wants to date angry people filled with rage, bitterness or hatred. It’s just not a fun and positive experience to even be around such people. In the internet dating world I see a lot of dissatisfaction. While some singles do come away with positive experiences, most of the thousands of comments I receive are from men and woman who have had horrible stories to tell. What has surprised me about these comments is the extreme views, and the level of jadedness. Responses like “All men are sexist jerks”, “Guys just wants sex?, “All women are whack jobs” abound. But is this reality?
Today’s Christian podcast from David Butler at Oasis talks about the roots of anger and how to deal with it.
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How to Find God’s Will for Your Life?
Looking to find God’s will for your life? I think most of us would admit that we are a little confused when it comes to finding God’s will for our lives, especially when it comes to finding Mr. Right or Ms Right. The following podcast from Oasis-Church-NJ.com examines, the roadblocks that keep Christian singles from discovering God’s will in our lives as both single people and married people.
Hope for the Future
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Christian Dating and Idol Worship: Making an Idol Out of Your Relationships
Christian dating and idol worship. I know what some of you are thinking: What in the world does my dating life have to do with idol worship? Maybe nothing. But maybe everything.
Idol Worship Definition
An idol can be can be ANYTHING in your life that you put before God. That includes your dating life with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s something that takes the glory that God alone deserves, including your time, attention, and money, and transfers it to the object of your affection.
Christian Dating and Idol Worship
I ask again. Does your Christian dating relationship amount to idol worship? Are you a Christian dater who has turned your relationship into an idol?
The Bible says: You must not have any other god before my face. You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. 5 You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods. Exodus 20:4,5a
Idol Worship Test for Christian Singles
Besides listening to the below podcast on Idol worship, here are three questions to consideras you ponder whether or not you are idolizing your Christian dating relationship.
Where do you run for comfort?
What do you fear losing the most?
What do you make the biggest sacrifices for?
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Free Online Dating Advice Podcast
Getting into a dating relationship is easier than ever since there are so many decent free online dating advice sites out there, including, Christian dating advice sites like Oasis Singles. However, keeping that dating relationship growing will be almost impossible without good conversation starter skills.
Free Online Dating Advice On Listening Skills
In fact, most couples, whether they are married or in a dating relationship, give lack of communication and listening as the major reason for breaking up. These relationships break down because the parties have forgotten or never learned how to listen to the each other.
As someone who has done quite a bit of relationship mediation, the truth of the above staement can’t be overstated.That’s why our church podcast for this week centers on improving your dating relationship chances by learning how to listen to your partner. Pastor Bret Avlakeotes, of Spring Hills Community Church in Santa Rosa, California (CA), speaks from the James 1 on this topic sure to interest all Christian singles looking for free online dating advice for a great Christian dating relationship.
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