The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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- Health & Fitness
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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Yumi Stynes - Me and Alcohol Don’t Mix
From being ‘canceled’, to alcoholism and post-natal depression, Yumi Stynes knows how to get vulnerable in the Vulnerabilitea House.
Starting as a magnetic, music presenter on Channel V, Yumi’s career spans more than 20 years on our screens, on the radio, or in the very successful books she’s written. However as she shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, there were times when the phone simply didn't ring and her career felt like it was at a stand-still.
In this episode, Yumi shares stories from her childhood, from feelings of isolation; to being the victim of racism in 1980s Swan Hill; we discuss the loss of her father and how that experience shaped her perspective on life; to what it was actually like being 'cancelled' and the role friendship played in her lowest moments; above all, Yumi tells us of her struggles with alcohol, and how her decision to quit transformed her life.
So buckle up for a big one! We know you’ll love this chat as much as we did!
📖 Things to read
‘Welcome To…’ book series https://bit.ly/3yPqb6O
The Food Fix (Garlic Honey Soy Chicken recipe) https://bit.ly/3RjbaQN
📺 Things to watch
The Circle ‘cancelling’ moment https://bit.ly/3RfcGUk
⛑️ For help & support with post natal depression
Call Panda on 1300 726 306 or visit https://bit.ly/45fCULX
Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit https://bit.ly/3yPDggh
For further research and learning visit Mumspace - https://bit.ly/3Vzsjs4
⛑️ For help & support with alcohol abuse
Call Alcoholics Anonymous on 1300 222 222 or visit https://bit.ly/4bT6Pfq
Call the National Drug & Alcohol Hotline on 1800 250 015 or visit https://bit.ly/4aPgvGJ
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back
Unfortunately, we all know what bad leadership looks like, for many of us, it doesn’t take long to think of examples…but what does it actually take to be a ‘good leader’?
This week in the Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh are joined by a legend of the sport, former rugby league player and current coach of the Queensland Maroons, Billy Slater. Billy has been called the best fullback ever to have played the game. As a player, he’s won more awards than we could possibly list. As a coach and a leader, he is nothing short of inspiring.
In this episode, Billy talks about leadership, coaching and how he approaches it. He shares how playing to your strengths can actually be more beneficial than lingering on weaknesses; he discusses how sometimes, good leadership requires ‘letting go’; and he shares why he spends so much time creating feelings and moments for his players, reminding them that what they’re trying to achieve is something bigger than themselves.
You can watch the full episode with Billy on youtube here. https://bit.ly/4c45lih
Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:
📖 Things to read
Link to Billy’s auto biography - https://bit.ly/3R62RIb
Link to Phill Jackson 11 Rings book - https://bit.ly/3yGgQ0N
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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IMPERFIX: Dr. Em - Befriending Your Inner Critic
How kind is your inner voice? What does it say to you when your with friends, having family dinner, at work, when you mistakes, or, when you look in the mirror?
We all have an inner critic and for lots of us, that voice can be loud and relentless - holding us back from thriving, from living the life we want to live and being the person we want to be.
In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we jump back into an episode with Dr Em and get up close and personal with ‘our inner critics’.
In this snippet we explore the role of the inner critic, what’s its purpose? How can we learn to live with, and maybe even befriend it.
To listen to this full episode with Dr. Em, follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/Innercritic
Links mentioned in the episode:
📺 Things to watch
Shirzad Charmine’s Ted Talk, ‘Know Your Inner Saboteurs’, click here: https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa
📖 Things to read
Daniel Siegel https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues
Its hard to imagine a life more remarkable, or as unique as that of Nathan Cavaleri.
Nathan rose to fame as an 8 year old blues prodigy, regularly appearing on Aussie TV screens in the 90’s, but there is so much more to Nathan and his story than that. Whether it’s touring Australia with the likes of Jimmy Barnes; or touring America with blues Legend B.B. King; being signed to Michael Jackson’s label; or starring in a Baywatch spin off with David Hasselhoff; Nathan’s life from the outside, really does look perfect. However, as we all know, perfect isn't what this podcast is about.
In this episode, Nathan talks about the challenges he has faced along the way. From his battle with Leukaemia as a child; to his overwhelming struggles with anxiety as an adult that resulted in him passing out on stage. Nathan is a wonderful person, a beautiful storyteller and he’s a real joy to listen to in this episode of the imperfects.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/9XlJBw6fdq8 To see Nathan perform live & check out his tour dates follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Kgqz0x
To book Nathan for speaking events, or exclusive performances, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44Z6IN0
To follow Nathan on Twitch, where he live streams his creative process and regularly connects with fans, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3yqDutY
Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:
🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Dr Em - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It there? - https://link.chtbl.com/Innercritic
📺 Things to watch
Nathan’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/3wMGTCW
Hugh’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/3USSxEn
Camp Nowhere - https://bit.ly/4bM7MWA
🎧 Things to listen to
Nathans latest albums (Demons, and Miracles) - https://bit.ly/3WTbYj5 https://snd.click/miracles
🚨 To support
The Starlight Foundation - https://bit.ly/3WR1f8I
🛒 Things to buy
Tickets to Nathan’s live tour - www.nathancavaleri.com/tour
Vulnerabilitea house cards - https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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IMPERFIX: Believing Women with Tarang Chawla
After his sister, Niki, was murdered by her ex-partner, Tarang Chawla made a decision - that he wouldn’t allow Niki to be remembered as just another statistic. Since then, Tarang has become an activist, working to reduce incidents of all forms of violence and abuse towards women in Australian.
In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we reflect on a conversation we had with Tarang back in 2022. Here, Tarang discusses the importance of believing and supporting women when they disclose abuse, and understanding the role of power, control, and gender inequality in such scenarios. Tarang also emphasises the need to separate individuals from their potentially abusive behaviour, underscoring the collective responsibility of men in combating violence against women.
Here are some important links from this episode.
🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Tarang Chawla - Men talking about mens violence https://link.chtbl.com/9ps_S1kW
An imperfect chat about men - https://link.chtbl.com/BVlSy3Kf
📱 Things to follow
Tarang Chawla’s Instagram - https://bit.ly/4bQa8Up
🎧 Things to listen to
There’s no place like home, with Tarang Chawla https://bit.ly/3yst5Oq
🚨 For support
Our watch https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV
White Ribbon https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs
No To Violence https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5
If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend calling the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk
Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do.
As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours.
In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all.
Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l
There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:
🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Tim Minchin - Lucky to be here https://link.chtbl.com/6kCw7ZR0
Adam Grant - The potential of your potential https://link.chtbl.com/eUA4IJCh
Gina Chick - Don’t fight life https://link.chtbl.com/Ginachick
Pat Cummins - Love, loss & Life https://link.chtbl.com/o_uN8l_H
Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word…FAILURE
📺 Things to watch
Tim Minchin - Play it Safe https://bit.ly/44PnJc4
Moana https://bit.ly/4bJZyy2
🎧 Things to listen to
How i work - Amantha Imber, https://bit.ly/3WNGxXw
📖 Things to read
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://bit.ly/3wE7nqm
🛒 Things to buy
The Resilience Project & Dr Em’s - 6 Month Wellbeing Journal https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Customer Reviews
A must listen in a challenging world
I am a die hard fan of this podcast so I am biased but this latest episode with Billy Slater is outstanding. As a born and bred country Victorian and now living in Melbourne, I haven’t given rugby much viewing. Billy Slater’s interview demonstrates what a special human being he is, and the powerful and authentic leadership style he embodies. I may have to swap sporting codes! Well done Hugh, Josh and Ryan, keep it up.
So much clarity, hope & gratitude
So grateful for your episodes - your ability to make me laugh and cry within the same episode. As a mother of a 17 yr old battling anorexia for 5 years I have learnt so much on MH.
I am grateful too to be teaching in a new school that has just initiated the TRP.
You guys are amazing!
Favourite podcast
I impatiently wait for each new episode to be uploaded. I love the topics, guests and authentic storytelling. It’s helped me so much to understand complex issues and to be more vulnerable in my own life