Up Past Bedtime Bella & Adrian Messina

Hey Night Owls!
After the viral speech of Harrison Butker, we thought this week was the perfect opportunity to delve into the in's and out's of what it is REALLY like to be a SAHM & Homemaker and be apart of a traditional gender roles relationship. Up Past Bedtime is a podcast putting the P back in pillow talk; broadcasting the after-hours conversations of parents! Join the husband and wife duo, Bella & Adrian Messina, for weekly unfiltered discussions that explore the rollercoaster ride of relationships/marriage after kids while navigating the challenges and triumphs of parenting today. 
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Or Email Us: upbpod@messinaco.com
Bella’s Socials: 
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
Adrian’s Socials: 
Instagram: @adrianmessina
Tik Tok: @itsyaboyado



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Welcome back Night Owls! Let's be real, the journey of intimacy post-children is like navigating a maze blindfolded. This episode peels back the curtain on the challenges and triumphs of reigniting passion, embracing body positivity after childbirth, and the delicate dance of libidos that can sometimes be out of sync. We also don't shy away from the touchier subjects, such as society's evolving views on women's sexuality and the role of adult entertainment in modern relationships. It's a heartfelt exploration of love's intricate layers, guaranteed to resonate with anyone who's ever had to balance a busy life with the need for closeness and warmth.
(00:00) - Sex and Life Updates With Wine
(07:51) - Postpartum Intimacy and Body Confidence
(13:37) - Navigating Differences in Sex Drive
(21:06) - Navigating Intimacy Post-Children
(25:22) - Nurturing Intimacy in Relationships
(33:02) - Navigating Intimacy in Relationships
(43:49) - Navigating Porn and Intimacy in Relationships
Up Past Bedtime is a podcast putting the P back in pillow talk; broadcasting the after-hours conversations of parents! Join the husband and wife duo, Bella & Adrian Messina, for weekly unfiltered discussions that explore the rollercoaster ride of relationships/marriage after kids while navigating the challenges and triumphs of parenting today. 
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Facebook Community: Here
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: upbpod@messinaco.com
Bella’s Socials: 
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
Adrian’s Socials: 
Instagram: @adrianmessina
Tik Tok: @itsyaboyado



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Hey Night Owls! Join me, Bella Messina, in Episode 6  as I embark on a solo journey this Mother's Day, reflecting on the wonders and hurdles of motherhood. I'm sharing five heartfelt messages I'd send back to my first-time mum self, hoping to connect and inspire fellow mums with my experiences. It's an intimate episode, where we celebrate the essence of motherhood and the emotional transformations it ignites. From discussing the profound love that reshapes our lives to the societal pressures that accompany this new identity, this episode is an ode to mothers everywhere.
(05:20) 1. You’ll learn true love (and the challenges that come with it)
(12:03) 2. Prepare for & embrace change
(17:40) 3. Let go of ego and pride
(24:00) 4. Don’t forget your relationship
(30:14) 5. Stop creating unrealistic expectations
Up Past Bedtime is a podcast putting the P back in pillow talk; broadcasting the after-hours conversations of parents! Join the husband and wife duo, Bella & Adrian Messina, for weekly unfiltered discussions that explore the rollercoaster ride of relationships/marriage after kids while navigating the challenges and triumphs of parenting today. 
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Facebook Community: Here
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: upbpod@messinaco.com

Bella’s Socials: 
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina


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Hey Night Owls! Welcome back to Up Past Bedtime. In Episode 5, we’re diving into all things ‘Parasocial Parenting’. 
Navigate with us through the complex terrain of parenting and privacy in the age of social media. We discuss the fine line between sharing our journey as parents and protecting our children's right to a private childhood, shedding light on the thoughtful decisions we make to safeguard their experiences. Hear about the measures we take to shield their identities, from setting firm boundaries on the content we share to rejecting certain daycare apps. Our chat also takes a turn into the less visible pressures, including the weight of external judgments and the art of handling unsolicited opinions while in the public eye.
(12:49) - Parenting and Social Media Privacy
(17:55) - Setting Boundaries for Online Child Privacy
(24:49) - Navigating Parenting in the Public Eye
(34:12) - Social Media and Child Privacy
(43:32) - Privacy and Regrets in Social Media
(46:49) - Navigating Online Criticism and Recommendations


Adrian’s recommendation of the week: Royal Otis - Linger Cover
Bella’s recommendation of the week: Bridgerton Watch/Rewatch


Up Past Bedtime is a podcast putting the P back in pillow talk; broadcasting the after-hours conversations of parents! Join the husband and wife duo, Bella & Adrian Messina, for weekly unfiltered discussions that explore the rollercoaster ride of relationships/marriage after kids while navigating the challenges and triumphs of parenting today. 


UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Facebook Community: Here
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: upbpod@messinaco.com



Bella’s Socials: 
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina
Adrian’s Socials: 
Instagram: @adrianmessina
Tik Tok: @itsyaboyado



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Ever wondered how to survive the chaos of multi-generational living and get along harmoniously with your In-Laws? For Episode 4 of Up Past Bedtime, join Adrian and Bella, as they pull back the curtain on the good, the bad, and the hilarious of blending family lives under one roof. 
Listen in as we explore the financial and emotional intricacies of multi-generational living, discussing the delicate balance of sharing expenses and setting respectful parenting boundaries. The support we receive from our family network is something we don't take for granted, and we're diving into the stories that showcase both the positive and the challenging aspects of this arrangement. We also shed light on how these shared experiences resonate with our audience, offering an alternative perspective on the value of community support in family life.
Feel like you're the only one navigating the minefield of in-law interactions!? Don’t worry! Join us for a no-holds-barred discussion as we delve into some of our own listeners' HORROR In-Law experiences. We weigh in on the deep emotional journeys some of our listeners have shared, from dealing with toxic Mother in-laws to the heartbreak of pregnancy loss. We laugh, empathise, and sometimes cringe as we recount tales of your family dynamics.


(05:50) - Living With Our in-Laws
Our unique living situation with Adrian's parents in a dual home arrangement gets explained, highlighting the independence and mutual respect that makes it work for us. 
(16:37) - Family Financial Dynamics and Support
We discuss the nuances of multi-generational living, particularly in the context of the financial benefits and dynamics within a family. We explore the concept of sharing expenses and responsibilities without keeping a meticulous score, fostering a sense of unity and support rather than division.
(22:53) - Positive Family Relationships
We explore the close and accepting relationships we have with each other's families, We discuss how we've managed to navigate any conflicts that have arisen, emphasising our fortunate position compared to some challenging family dynamics shared by listeners. 
(33:02) - Our Listener In Law Horror Stories
We open the floor to our listener - sharing a huge range of In-Law Horror stories and give our insight on how we would handle a similar situation! 


Up Past Bedtime is a podcast putting the P back in pillow talk; broadcasting the after-hours conversations of parents! Join the husband and wife duo, Bella & Adrian Messina, for weekly unfiltered discussions that explore the rollercoaster ride of relationships/marriage after kids while navigating the challenges and triumphs of parenting today. 
UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Facebook Community: Here
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: upbpod@messinaco.com


Bella’s Socials: 
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina

Adrian’s Socials: 
Instagram: @adrianmessina
Tik Tok: @itsyaboyado








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Ever wonder how couples navigate the seismic shifts in their relationship after the stork drops off a bundle of joy? On Episode 3 of Up Past Bedtime, join us in an intimate discussion about the transformation of our partnership in the face of parenthood. From the comedic trials of late-night settling sessions to the profound discussions on upbringings and conflict styles, we unpack the complexities of keeping the discourse to a minimum amidst the pitter-patter of little feet. 
This week, we’re lifting the veil on our own relationship and parenting strategies, laying out the successes and stumbles with humour. Striking a balance between couple time and family time, we rate the current state of our marriage, sharing the strategies that have helped us rediscover our spark. 
Our conversation also explores how our distinct upbringings and conflict styles affect our relationship and parenting approach. We discuss the blend of a matriarchal background with one where male figures were more prominent, and how these perspectives influence everything from daily decisions to the way we confront challenges and support each other through them.
(13:26) - Challenges of Parenting on Relationships: We open up about the unexpected challenges that have surfaced in our relationship since becoming parents. We reflect on the intense struggle to maintain communication and find time for each other amidst the demands of raising children and managing a hectic work schedule. 


(22:52) - Navigating Differences in Relationships: We open up about the unexpected challenges that have surfaced in our relationship since becoming parents. We reflect on the intense struggle to maintain communication and find time for each other amidst the demands of raising children and managing a hectic work schedule. 
Book Mentioned by Bella: Fair Play by Evie Rodsky
(29:11) - Navigating Different Upbringings and Conflict Styles: We explore the impact of personal backgrounds on relationships, as I recount the story of my parents' fast-tracked engagement and subsequent tumultuous divorce, and its traumatic effect on me and my siblings. We consider how these experiences shape our views on relationships, with me bringing insights from a matriarchal, female-dominated upbringing and contrasting it with your experience in a family where male figures were present and no divorces occurred.


(39:48) - Answering your questions! 

Bella's recommendation of the week: @nakedharvestsupplements Pure Collagen (Affiliate DC: BELLSMESSINA)

Adrian's recommendation: Seeded mustard lol


Up Past Bedtime is a podcast putting the P back in pillow talk; broadcasting the after-hours conversations of parents! Join the husband and wife duo, Bella & Adrian Messina, for weekly unfiltered discussions that explore the rollercoaster ride of relationships/marriage after kids while navigating the challenges and triumphs of parenting today. 


UPB Socials:
Instagram: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Tik Tok: @uppastbedtimepodcast
Facebook Community: Here
Watch on Youtube: Here
Or Email Us: upbpod@messinaco.com

Bella’s Socials: 
Instagram: @bellsmessina
Tik Tok: @bellsmessina

Adrian’s Socials:
Instagram: @adrianmessina
Tik Tok: @itsyaboyado




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