Orgasmic Birth Debra Pascali Bonaro

Ep 99 Description: 
“Pleasure was a part of what it meant to feel good in life. Sexual identities are important that these things are worth investing and understanding.” —Alexandra Fine
While male sexuality is frequently encouraged or normalized in mainstream culture, female sexuality and pleasure are often negative and stigmatizing. As a result, women face barriers in openly discussing their bodies and experiences with sexuality. This leads to women's health being politicized and their access to information and tools related to pleasure being restricted. However, perspectives are gradually shifting as more voices advocate for women's rights to explore their sexuality freely and pursue fulfillment in their intimate relationships without shame.  
Alexandra Fine is a sexologist and the co-founder of Dame Products, a company that designs tools specifically tailored to help women explore pleasure and reclaim their sexuality. Through her work at Dame Products and as an advocate, she aims to have open discussions around female sexuality and empower women.
Tune in as Debra and Alexandra share insight into navigating sexuality, childbirth, and parenting while challenging stigmas around female pleasure. They also discussed societal attitudes towards female pleasure, the challenges of promoting healthy views of sexuality, how vibrators can be used for pain management during labor and birth, and more. 
 
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Episode Highlights:
04:14 The Business of Pleasure
09:30 The Journey: Childbirth, Parenting, and Sexuality 
15:39 Societal Attitudes Toward Female Pleasure and Sexuality
20:51 Vibrators for Pain Management
 

Ep 98 Description: 
“Once you have the facts, once you have confidence in your information, you have confidence in your decision. You don't need to justify that to anyone. It's not your job to educate the world unless you decide it is.” —Jen Kamel
VBAC— Vaginal Birth After Cesarean is a common yet controversial choice that many birthing people face. While the evidence has long supported VBAC as a safe option for most, widespread myths and misinformation continue to obscure the facts. 
In this episode, leading VBAC advocate Jen Kamel sets out to separate myth from reality once and for all. She delves into the numerous misconceptions that have taken hold over the years: from beliefs that VBAC is only suitable for a select few, to exaggerations of its risks, to the idea that repeat c-sections are always safer. 
Debra and Jen also discuss practical tips on finding supportive providers and navigating unsupportive opinions, the importance of fully informed consent, and the power of realizing one's autonomy in their birth decisions despite barriers.
For anyone with a personal or professional stake in empowering low-risk vaginal births, this can't-miss discussion is a must-listen to counter the barrage of VBAC myths and understand the option in its proper evidence-based light.
 
If you are a doula, nurse, midwife, or birth worker who would like to expand your practice with pleasure and Orgasmic Birth - Learn more at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training/ 
 
Debra also has a class on positively preparing for a cesarean or a VBAC vaginal birth after cesarean https://orgasmicbirth.thinkific.com/courses/cesarean-vbac 



Connect with Debra!
Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth
Twitter: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth 
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 
Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth 
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 



Episode Highlights:
02:47 Advocacy for Respectful Care
07:18 VBAC Risks, Candidacy, and Decision-Making
12:21 Finding Supportive Providers
16:59 VBAC Access and Midwifery Legislation
20:46 VBAC Rates and Barriers in the US  
25:29 VBAC Tools and Resources
 

Ep 97 Description: 
“If that's something that I could encourage other pregnant people to do, is to try to have that clarity about their wants and their needs and their desires, and then to verbalize from a place of clarity to their provider. That inner state of clarity is very important in the conversation.” —Nicole Heidbreder
“My job was to not try to fix things and be more of a listener.”  —Amir Niroumand
While vaginal birth is often seen as the ideal, for many birthing experts a medically-necessary cesarean section is the safest option. However, the sterility and clinical nature of surgery can make cesareans feel less personal than desired. But with intentional planning, cesareans can still honor a person's needs and vision for birth. 
In this episode, we are joined by DONA International approved Birth doula trainer, Nicole Heidbreder and her partner, Amir Niromand. As a labor and delivery nurse and birth doula of many years, Nicole had clear visions for her own birth plans. However, after struggling to conceive for over a year and experiencing multiple miscarriages, she was forced to reconsider everything.
Nicole and Amir discuss their journey trying to conceive for over a year, which included multiple miscarriages. Nicole explains how her history as a labor and delivery nurse and doula led to shifting her birth plans after being diagnosed with fibroids. She details emotionally accepting surgery and a planned cesarean. Nicole created a supportive medical team and shares her vision for a "magnificent cesarean" honoring her, Amir, and their transition to parenthood, outlining her birth and postpartum plans. 
Tune in and learn the importance of grieving loss, the role of clear communication with medical providers, the impact of community support, and the power of crafting a birth centered on the birthing person's needs, voice, and choice.



If you are a doula, nurse, midwife, or birth worker who would like to expand your practice with pleasure and Orgasmic Birth - Learn more at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training/ 
 
Debra also has a class on positively preparing for a cesarean or a VBAC vaginal birth after cesarean https://orgasmicbirth.thinkific.com/courses/cesarean-vbac 



Connect with Debra!
Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth
Twitter: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth 
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 
Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth 
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 



Episode Highlights:
02:59 pregnancy and Loss 
10:43 Shifting Birth Vision and Creating a Supportive team
16:42 Grief and Healing After Pregnancy Loss
20:48 Preparation for a Planned Cesarean Section  
26:43 Postpartum Preferences 
32:10 The Role of the Community in Providing Supportive Care
34:39 Honoring the Mother’s Voice and Choice
 

Ep 96 Description: 
“Preparing ahead is important as birth trauma often happens when the unexpected happens, and your voice and choice are not heard or honored.” —Debra Pascali-Bonaro
While many expectant parents envision an ideal birth experience, it's important to prepare for the possibility that things may not unfold as planned. Complications can arise that require medical intervention for the health and safety of the mother and baby. A caring provider will discuss all options to find the best solution. Having discussed preferences for interventions like cesarean birth ahead of time allows expectant parents' voices to still be heard and choices respected, even when flexibility is needed. An open and understanding perspective and support system can help ensure that however birth transpires, it is still a meaningful experience bringing new life into the world.
Discover proven strategies to give your cesarean birth experience the love, care, and meaning you envision for welcoming your new baby into the world as your host, Debra, talks about how to positively prepare your mindset for the experience, discuss your preferences with your healthcare providers, and enhance the sensory aspects to allow delaying interventions. Plus learn how reflecting on your birth can help with processing and healing.
 
If you are a doula, nurse, midwife, or birth worker who would like to expand your practice with pleasure and Orgasmic Birth - Learn more at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training/ 
 
Debra also has a class on positively preparing for a cesarean or a VBAC vaginal birth after cesarean https://orgasmicbirth.thinkific.com/courses/cesarean-vbac 



Connect with Debra!
Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth
Twitter: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth 
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 
Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth 
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 



Episode Highlights:
03:56 Enhancing Childbirth Experience Through Sensory Details
08:02 Cesarean Birth Choices and Support
14:06 Birth and Postpartum Care for a Safe and Supported Experience 
17:59 Planning a Gentle Cesarean Birth
 

Ep 95 Description: 
“The moment I said this actually hurts, it felt incorrect. It felt like ‘pain’ was too shallow of a word. And then I realized what I'm feeling is power.” —Carina Devi
 
When pregnant with her second baby, Carina Devi embraced the joy of pregnancy rather than intensive preparation. Her labor brought intense yet transformative sensations.
 
In part two of "It's Not Pain, It's Power", Carina discusses how the wisdom and lessons from her orgasmic first birth experience empowered and strengthened her through subsequent challenges like divorce and single motherhood.
 
Join the conversation as Carina talks about navigating postdate pregnancy and feelings of frustration with restrictions from her midwife, as well as powerful lessons on preparing mentally for birth while trusting your body's innate wisdom and design for empowered childbearing.
 
If you are a doula, nurse, midwife, or birth worker who would like to expand your practice with pleasure and Orgasmic Birth - Learn more at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training/ 
 
Connect with Debra!
Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth
Twitter: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth 
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 
Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth 
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 



Episode Highlights:
02:22 Birth Wisdom and Empowerment 
10:03 Finding Solace Durin Contractions
15:30 Labor Techniques 
21:46 Reframing Pain as Power  
27:23 Navigating the Pushing Stage
32:34 The Depth of a Woman’s Strength
36:04 Postpartum Emotions and Challenges
 

Ep 94 Description: 
“The only way out is through… There's only one way for this to end, and it is by me saying yes, and pushing my baby out.” —Carina Devi
Birth is a profound and transformative experience that has the power to deeply impact a woman's life. However, for too long, societal expectations have portrayed childbirth as something to simply endure, focusing on pain management rather than empowerment. Hence, it is crucial to reclaim birth as a natural and meaningful process through education and care. When supported to follow their inner wisdom, women experience birth as the profound act of creation it truly is.
This week’s episode features an empowering birth story from Carina Devi. When Carina became pregnant, she prepared carefully for a peaceful experience. Raw, primal birth cries and pleasure at her son's delivery stay with her as a defining life experience.
Tune in as Debra and Carina talk about preparing mindfully for birth, trusting one's ability to cope with intensity, and finding empowerment even when challenging moments arise during labor.  
 
If you are a doula, nurse, midwife, or birth worker who would like to expand your practice with pleasure and Orgasmic Birth - Learn more at https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/orgasmic-birth-practitioner-training/ 
 
Connect with Debra!
Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth
Twitter: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth 
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1 
Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth 
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471 



Episode Highlights:
02:31 The Impact of a Mother's Birth Experience on Her Child's Development. 
05:28 The Power of Imprinting on the Experience
11:50 Labor Progressions and Challenges
16:44 Controlling Contractions 
19:26 Labor Sensations and Breathing Techniques
24:52 Childbirth Bliss and Empowerment
30:14 Embracing the Experience Despite Fear and Discomfort