Third Culture Therapy Layla Maghribi

This episode is with the musician, author & mental chiropractor & Palestine advocate, Daniel Mate.

Daniel co-authored the renowned best-selling book, The Myth of Normal, with his father, Gabor Mate. The illustrious duo also run the workshop series, HELLO AGAIN: A Fresh Start For Parents and Their Adult Children and are co-writing a book by the same name.

With an indefatigable mission to help heal others, how do the father and son duo retain a healthy and compassionate relationship with one another?
When does professional familial collaboration get in the way of personal familial relations?

Listen in and learn more about:
🔔 Where Daniel’s long-standing healing journey has taken him and where he wants to go next
🔔 How you can change a parent-adult child relationship by shifting perspective
🔔 What Daniel’s mental chiropractic is and why it is very different from therapy
🔔 Why therapy as a modern phenomenon and how it can sometimes be more comforting than effectual
🔔 How Ayahuasca in Peru helped with the emergence of a new style of healing.
🔔 How finding his own unique style allowed him to compliment, not compete, with his father

00:00 - Intro
01:27 - Who is Daniel Mate?
03:25 - Which identifying characteristic resonates most?
05:11 - Why did you study psychology and why the later shift to studying music?
11:00 - How a breakdown at university foreshadowed Daniel’s “tortured but well-faded struggle” to become himself
12:40 - How, if at all, did therapy help after your breakdown?
14:26 - What is the Landmark Forum self-development programme?
16:00 - The difference between insight and change
17:30 - What has your healing journey been like?
21:10 - The comfort of having parents who feel guilty and why it’s a kind of emotional ‘racket’
21:38 - “Am I something other than Gabor Mate’s son?” How Daniel healed his familial wounds in the shadow of his father’s worldwide popularity as a ‘healer’
24:00 - Wanting a dad, not a saviour. Did your father’s fame help or hinder your relationship with him?
25:45 - What is the Hello Again: a fresh start for parents and their adult children?
32:35 - How does the workshop work? How does it compare to therapy?
35:20 - Flipping the script. How ‘radically transforming your view of the relationship’ is the key to peace, understanding and meaningful change.
36:20 - How did you develop the Hello Again workshop and your unique “mental chiropractic” modality?
39:50 - What is “mental chiropractic” and is it a compliment or replacement to therapy?
45:00 - Ayahuasca, workshops, therapy and more. What therapy or healing modality has been the most transformational for you? What do you still consistently practise for good emotional and mental wellbeing?
47:30 - The Myth of Normal and the mind-body connection.
50:00 - Why did you choose to publicly enter the Israel / Palestine debate after October 7th?
56:30 - What are the psychological implications of being uncritically attached to a problematic ideology?
01:01:00 - What has been the feedback to you becoming a satirical and analytical commentator on social media? How have you dealt with the massive following you’ve accrued as a result?
01:03:40 - How much of what is happening in Israel / Palestine can be viewed through the lens of unhealed trauma? How can the emotional psychosis vortex be stopped?
01:04:30 - What is the criticism from some people in the Palestinian activist scene around “normalisation”? What can / should pro-Palestinians do about that?
01:08:00 - Is it important to do personal healing work before engaging in collective healing?

Host 
Instagram: @laylamaghribi 
⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/LaylaMaghribi⁠⁠⁠⁠
www.laylamaghribi.com

Guest
Instagram: @danielbmate
https://www.danielmate.com
https://www.walkwithdaniel.com
https://www.helloagainproject.com

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Hadar Cohen is an Arab Jewish scholar, mystic and artist whose work focuses on multi-religious spirituality, politics, social issues, and community building.

She is the founder of malchut, a spiritual skill-building school teaching Jewish mysticism and direct experience of god. she teaches and consults in a variety of settings and formats, from one-on-one coaching to online group classes and in-person retreats. 

Her podcast, hadar’s web, features community conversations on spirituality, healing, justice, and art. Hadar is a 10th-generation Jerusalemite with lineage roots also in Syria, Kurdistan, Iraq and Iran.



Listen in to hear Hadar speak about:


Growing up in the tragically divided city of Jerusalem
What identifying as an Arab brings Hadar, and what it also takes away 
Why she loves Judaism but hates Zionism
What Jewish pain is and why the harm inflicted by the Israeli state against Palestinian is a betrayal of it
Why breaking the cycle of pain between Israelis and Palestinians requires first the recognition of the pain 
What spiritual maturity is and why it is needed in order to witness someone else’s pain while not abandoning your own 
Why not doing personal healing work can cause long-term societal harm
Why we must learn to hold space for one another within the Arab community - whatever your religion 
How the embracing of Hadar's Arab-Jewish identity could be an example of an alternative vision for the future of Israeli/Palestine





Podcast Host 

Instagram: @laylamaghribi 

⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/LaylaMaghribi⁠⁠⁠

Podcast Guest

Instagram: @⁠hadarcohen32

linktr.ee/hadarcohen



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Hana is a British-Libyan multifaceted creative, grief counsellor and end-of-life carer.

She runs monthly grief circles called Permission to Grieve and works with clients 1-to-1.

Using a holistic approach, including vibrational sound medicine, Hana strives to create a safe space for people to address & heal their loss. 

Hana draws on her own personal healing journey and the many losses - her brother, her marriage, her identity, her country, to name a few - experienced in her life to help others.

As a space-holder, her niche is overcoming trauma and processing grief through understanding the mind, body, spirit connection. 

Since the ongoing bombardment of Gaza began a few months ago, Hana has been holding grief circles for members of the Arab and Palestinian community in the UK but says there is no amount of training that can prepare for grieving and healing during a genocide. 



Tune in to this episode of Culture Therapy to hear about: 


What the elusive Libyan society is really like 
How reading history resolved Hana's identity crisis 
What death and divorce taught her about loss 
The cycles of grief & healthy ways to process them
How she weaves Sufi practise into her work and self-care

And much much more!



Podcast Host 

Instagram: @laylamaghribi 

⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/LaylaMaghribi⁠⁠

Podcast Guest

Instagram: @hana.elrais

linktr.ee/Hana.Elrais



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Alya Mooro is the Egyptian born, London raised writer & best-selling author of The Greater Freedom: Life as a Middle Eastern Woman Outside the Stereotypes. 

Many of Alya’s Instagram followers will be familiar with her The Greater Conversation newsletter & community (& if you don’t, go sign up!) but did you know that Alya is also a TV producer with a number of exciting projects up her sleeve? 

Tune in to this Third Culture Therapy conversation & find out about Alya’s journey of self-development & what she puts her mental health toolbox today!

Topics covered include:


What it means to be a “woman outside the stereotypes” means and why she wouldn’t put “Middle Eastern” in the book’s title today


Why her looks are the least interesting thing about her (though she’d still like a good selfie!) 


How illness and a radically different food diet made her learn how to trust herself more



As well as being a brilliant writer & producer, Alya also hosted & produced a podcast series called The Talk of Shame in which she explores the meaning and impact shame has on our lives in an attempt to answer that all important question: how do we stop giving a f*ck and start living life for ourselves? 

Listen to the episode to hear more about: 



What looking at shame can teach you 
The systemic and universal problems with shame (esp among women!)
Why sharing in community disempowers shame 
Why thinking that people care about what you do online is arrogant




Podcast Host

Instagram: @laylamaghribi 

⁠https://linktr.ee/LaylaMaghribi⁠



Podcast Guest

Instagram: @alyamooro https://linktr.ee/alyamooro





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This week’s conversation is with Palestinian-Polish @thehumanitariantherapist, Tasha Matar. 



Tasha is therapist living in Canada who specializes in generational wounds, including struggles with belonging, diasporic grief and complex trauma. 



Raised in Canada to a Polish mother and a Palestinian father, Tasha understands the third culture life and its challenges well! 



She draws on her own cultural awareness and a decolonial perspective to connect with her clients - many of whom are Palestinians - using an eclectic approach that includes Sensorimotor, DBT, Internal Family Systems and Art Psychotherapy.   



Tasha’s experience as an intersectional therapist has been invaluable in the wake of the ongoing genocide in Gaza and she regularly post videos on her social media channel on a wide range of topics that I’ve find very compassionate and thought-provoking. 



How to be self-compassionate during a genocide? How to deal with survivors guilt? How to stop intellectualising trauma? How to sit in our grief? 



All difficult but critical questions to ask and to have some compassionate answers to. 

On this episode you'll hear Tasha speak about:


How art therapy can help bridge the brain's divide
How to practise ‘good’ therapy during a genocide 
Why self-compassion and boundaries are key 
What decolonising therapy actually means, and how existing practices could benefit from doing it

Podcast Host

Instagram: @LaylaMaghribi

Podcast Guest

Instagram: @the.humanitarian.therapist

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Dr Omar Abdel-Mannan is a British Egyptian paediatric neurologist and humanitarian activist who has been leading a global civil society movement for the protection of healthcare workers in Palestine amid the ongoing bombardment of Gaza by Israeli forces. 

In this episode of Third Culture Therapy, Omar talks about the mental and emotional toll witnessing the horrors emerging out of Gaza has had on him and shares the advice an expert in post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) gave him on how to healthily process what he has witnessed.

He also shares his experience as an activist in the UK and the challenges of being outspoken in a country that is politically hostile towards Palestinians and their supporters. 

Shedding light on the reasons behind the high rates of mental health challenges, among them suicidal ideation, among medics, Omar shares his reasons for opening up about his own struggles in an attempt to de-stigmatise the topic.

Who is Dr Omar Abdel-Mannan? 



An ardent and prolific advocate on Palestine, Omar’s experience in humanitarian activism dates back to 2011 when he began travelling to the West Bank and Gaza every year with medical delegations. 

Following the 7th October Hamas attacks and the ensuing bombardment of Gaza, Omar co-founded Gaza Medic Voices, which currently has over (>90,000 instagram followers), in an attempt to amplify the voices of Gazan healthcare workers and give them a platform to testify to what they are seeing inside Gaza. 

Omar went on to establish and lead a global civil society movement, Health Workers for Palestine,  holding weekly vigils to remember the killed healthcare workers in Gaza across over 20 UK towns and cities and 15 global cities across 5 continents.

He has been a prolific voice across UK media, appearing in dozens of radio and television news programmes where he sheds light on the horrific humanitarian crisis unfolding in Gaza and advocates for the protection of healthcare workers, patients and medical facilities under attack in the small territory.  



Follow Omar and his humanitarian work on Instagram:

@dr.omar.am

@gazamedicvoices 

@healthworkers4palestine